A Question for the Ladies - Is It Sexy When a Man...

[Vincent E]

After a long absence I am back with another pain in the ass question for the fairer sex. To wit (or in my case witless): Is it sexy when man tells you what he is going to do to you just before he does it during foreplay?

Imagine that you are becoming intimate for the first time with someone new. He is telling you in a whisper that he is going to unbutton your blouse; fondle your breast; caress your thigh. Is there any momentary expectation that would enhance this encounter, or is it just needless blather?

Would it be sexier if he were simply to tell you to relax and enjoy what he is about to do without any hint as to what he will actually be doing step-by-step?

Directions, ladies. Please clue me in.

 

[sexymama52]

I don't want him to tell me anything, just do it

 

[Dar~]

After a long absence I am back with another pain in the ass question for the fairer sex. To wit (or in my case witless): Is it sexy when man tells you what he is going to do to you just before he does it during foreplay?

Imagine that you are becoming intimate for the first time with someone new. He is telling you in a whisper that he is going to unbutton your blouse; fondle your breast; caress your thigh. Is there any momentary expectation that would enhance this encounter, or is it just needless blather?

Would it be sexier if he were simply to tell you to relax and enjoy what he is about to do without any hint as to what he will actually be doing step-by-step?

Directions, ladies. Please clue me in.

The power of the spoken word is incredible, but it has to be spoken in such a way as the words feel almost like the actions that are being described.

 

[jomar]

The power of the spoken word is incredible, but it has to be spoken in such a way as the words feel almost like the actions that are being described.

Well put, Dar.

 

[TE999]

The power of the spoken word is incredible, but it has to be spoken in such a way as the words feel almost like the actions that are being described.

Hmmmmm.

I always thought actions spoke louder than words.

But maybe loud isn't appropriate here.

 

[cloudy]

Depends on the man,

depends on the situation,

depends on what he's saying,

depends on how he says it.

Sometimes it can be cheesy as hell, not to mention annoying - get-up-and-leave cheesy and annoying. Sometimes it can be sexy, but for me, personally, I'd just rather have him shut up and do it.

 

[Vincent E]

Hmmmmm.

I always thought actions spoke louder than words.

But maybe loud isn't appropriate here.

So do whispers speak louder than actions, or is an action worth a thousand words?

 

[FatDino]

but for me, personally, I'd just rather have him shut up and do it.

"Shut up and fuck me," she said.

 

[cloudy]

"Shut up and fuck me," she said.

Quite.

 

[The_Fool]

Quite.

Quite or Quiet?

 

[TE999]

So do whispers speak louder than actions, or is an action worth a thousand words?

Whispers are sexy, that's for sure.

But a caress and a tickle beats talkin' every time.

 

[FatDino]

Okay, I've only been with three guys and none of them was into romantic talk during foreplay. Hell, one didn't even like foreplay. But, the one time my ex tried it, it was pretty hot, even though I couldn't really make out the words. The feeling of his voice and his breath on my ear was actually what made the whole thing sexy.

To cloudy: We all know you're a woman of action.

 

[TE999]

"Shut up and fuck me," she said.

That's what I like--a woman of few words.

 

[cloudy]

Quite or Quiet?

Don't get me wrong, I adore dirty talk, but don't tell me what you're planning to do, ffs....just get on with it.

 

[FatDino]

Don't get me wrong, I adore dirty talk, but don't tell me what you're planning to do, ffs....just get on with it.

Okay, how is that supposed to work? You like dirty talk, but you don't want him to tell you?

Then how the hell do you define "dirty talk?"

 

[Vincent E]

Okay, this is good input. Thank, ladies.

It seems that the consensus of opinion is to simply act and leave the descriptions alone.

So, what about general statements whispered during foreplay? Not descriptions but statements such as, "You'll enjoy this," or, "I wonder what happens when I do this," or more to the point something like, "Obey," or "Dirty girls don't resist."

Again, these are soft-spoken statements. Whispers.

 

[The_Fool]

Okay, how is that supposed to work? You like dirty talk, but you don't want him to tell you?

Then how the hell do you define "dirty talk?"

I could show you the dialogue, but I don't think dirty.....much.

 

[FatDino]

I could show you the dialogue, but I don't think dirty.....much.

Please do.

 

[Spawn_of_Cloudy]

I learned more about my mom then i needed to know *shivers*

 

[The_Fool]

I learned more about my mom then i needed to know *shivers*

Moms aren't supposed to even consider such things....

 

[FatDino]

I learned more about my mom then i needed to know *shivers*

You should have known better when you joined this place.

 

[Dar~]

To the OP, I remember dating my husband and we were laying in my bed. ( serious high impact dating)
He was whispering in my ear all the things he was going to do to me when I got back from my senior trip. just softly touching my skin, my jawline, and my legs. ( we were lying on our sides facing each other. My face covering his slightly.)
He was barely breathing, but it felt as if every wisp of air floated over the tiny hairs on my ear and the made my body ache for his his promised touch. I recall only light fingertip movements and the very strong desire to kiss him, but the even stronger need to stay still and let his voice seduce me.
He was telling me about the way he would undress me, slowly opening each button from behind me and allowing the cool air to pass over my breasts before he'd cup them in his hands. I remember that my heart started racing adn I could feel myself moistening.
Achingly, he teased using his voice like a feather on my skin. his lips caressing ever so slightly, the lobe of my ear and the warm breath tracing sensual promises across my mind.He spoke of the moment he would ease himself into me and my body responded by becoming ready to welcome him. Just by his words and the passion in his barely controlled tone I could feel his cock entering me slowly and oh, so completely possessing me.

It was perfect. That is how the spoken word can be much much more powerful than the act. I ached from wanting him for two weeks while I was away and the night I got back, he followed through. It was the hottest sex I have ever had and all because of his build up.

 

[Guest]

Okay, how is that supposed to work? You like dirty talk, but you don't want him to tell you?

Then how the hell do you define "dirty talk?"

Oooh, dirty talk.

Like cloudy has said, it changes with my mood or the situation.

Sweet and sentimental sex? There's nothing as thrilling as hearing your name and other endearments whispered into your ear as you climax in his arms.

And while being roughly fucked? I love being called a gorgeous bitch.

It just depends.

 

[FatDino]

Oooh, dirty talk.

Like cloudy has said, it changes with my mood or the situation.

Sweet and sentimental sex? There's nothing as thrilling as hearing your name and other endearments whispered into your ear as you climax in his arms.

And while being roughly fucked? I love being called a gorgeous bitch.

It just depends.

Ahhh...that kind of dirty talk!

Suddenly everything is as clear as crystal.

Okay that was a lie.

 

[Noor]

Okay, this is good input. Thank, ladies.

It seems that the consensus of opinion is to simply act and leave the descriptions alone.

So, what about general statements whispered during foreplay? Not descriptions but statements such as, "You'll enjoy this," or, "I wonder what happens when I do this," or more to the point something like, "Obey," or "Dirty girls don't resist."

Again, these are soft-spoken statements. Whispers.

I don't like being told what I feel or what I will enjoy.

It is sexy when a guy tells me what he plans to do to me later when we are in a situation where he obviously can't do it then.