BudgieSmuggler
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- Mar 6, 2018
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How do you cope?
I've been visiting here on and off for a year or so because I am horny and my wife of 40 years is just not interested anymore. Judging by the number of topics started here by a similar demographic I'm guessing it's not just me.
The dearth of a corresponding demographic of females here would suggest this must be a common problem and is also a major gender difference issue. I've tried googling the topics but I can't really find any helpful answers.
It doesn't matter what I google around this subject, the majority of sites I visit seem to be Fake News. There is no consistency of research or analysis between academic, erotica or self help support sites. All the articles would seem to try and make us believe there are just as many horny women out there as men, but the truth on sites like this prove that hypothesis wrong.
I don't have any male friends that I feel comfortable discussing some of these topics with, so I'm wondering who here is of a similar mindset and willing to share anonymously some insight into their own condition?
I'm not looking to find guys who want to get off on discussing their fetishes. I'm interested to talk to somebody like me who has some insight into coping with mismatched libidos with their post menopausal wife.
In my case we always had mismatched libidos, but everything else in the relationship balanced that out. However lately at 65 the balance seems to be lost and I feel more like an unsatisfied teenager than I've done in a long time. That is partly probably because I'm now retired and I have a lot of time to fill in that was previous taken up with work, but it's also because I'm not getting any sexual intimacy. My wife was never into doing things like handjobs or blow jobs previously, but with my own age related sexual dysfunction those are probably the best options I would appreciate now. But to be honest I'd be happy if she would just dress provocatively now and again to let me perve on her, I can handle the rest myself, well maybe not the BJ. We are still both reasonably fit for our age but she has trouble understanding that I actually still find her attractive and would enjoy that. It has been discussed, but she just can't seem to do it.
I've written a few stories and published on Lit (different ID) over the past year to help me try and understand my own situation and while helpful in letting me articulate my own particular fetishes, it hasn't really helped the overall situation. If anything it has made matters worse as I realized how far my fantasies diverge from any attainable reality and it seems to have actually made me more unhappy with my current circumstance.
As far as I can tell my stories seem to appeal more to a bi/gay/ts group. Although I have managed to spark conversation with a couple of females over that time, the majority of contacts I received have been from males and it is only a total of a few. Interestingly the females to take any interest have all been in the mid 30's to 40's age group. All of these conversations have come to unsatisfactory conclusions for one reason or another.
I've been visiting here on and off for a year or so because I am horny and my wife of 40 years is just not interested anymore. Judging by the number of topics started here by a similar demographic I'm guessing it's not just me.
The dearth of a corresponding demographic of females here would suggest this must be a common problem and is also a major gender difference issue. I've tried googling the topics but I can't really find any helpful answers.
It doesn't matter what I google around this subject, the majority of sites I visit seem to be Fake News. There is no consistency of research or analysis between academic, erotica or self help support sites. All the articles would seem to try and make us believe there are just as many horny women out there as men, but the truth on sites like this prove that hypothesis wrong.
I don't have any male friends that I feel comfortable discussing some of these topics with, so I'm wondering who here is of a similar mindset and willing to share anonymously some insight into their own condition?
I'm not looking to find guys who want to get off on discussing their fetishes. I'm interested to talk to somebody like me who has some insight into coping with mismatched libidos with their post menopausal wife.
In my case we always had mismatched libidos, but everything else in the relationship balanced that out. However lately at 65 the balance seems to be lost and I feel more like an unsatisfied teenager than I've done in a long time. That is partly probably because I'm now retired and I have a lot of time to fill in that was previous taken up with work, but it's also because I'm not getting any sexual intimacy. My wife was never into doing things like handjobs or blow jobs previously, but with my own age related sexual dysfunction those are probably the best options I would appreciate now. But to be honest I'd be happy if she would just dress provocatively now and again to let me perve on her, I can handle the rest myself, well maybe not the BJ. We are still both reasonably fit for our age but she has trouble understanding that I actually still find her attractive and would enjoy that. It has been discussed, but she just can't seem to do it.
I've written a few stories and published on Lit (different ID) over the past year to help me try and understand my own situation and while helpful in letting me articulate my own particular fetishes, it hasn't really helped the overall situation. If anything it has made matters worse as I realized how far my fantasies diverge from any attainable reality and it seems to have actually made me more unhappy with my current circumstance.
As far as I can tell my stories seem to appeal more to a bi/gay/ts group. Although I have managed to spark conversation with a couple of females over that time, the majority of contacts I received have been from males and it is only a total of a few. Interestingly the females to take any interest have all been in the mid 30's to 40's age group. All of these conversations have come to unsatisfactory conclusions for one reason or another.
