A Question For Doms Who Are NOT in a Long Term Relationship

[Learn Humility]

Do you find yourself compromising your standards (looks, personality, intellect, etc.) just to have "play dates" when the opportunities present themselves?

 

[Betticus]

No!

 

[graceanne]

No!

double post

 

[graceanne]

No!

LOL Are you certain? You don't sound sure, you don't have to make a decision right away you know.

 

[WriterDom]

While I wouldn't play with just anyone, attractiveness doesn't really fit into my equation as long as there is a connection of some kind. I have a lot of good chubby subbie memories.

 

[Learn Humility]

While I wouldn't play with just anyone, attractiveness doesn't really fit into my equation as long as there is a connection of some kind. I have a lot of good chubby subbie memories.

I won't play with just anyone either.

But I do find myself compromising my standards lately.

 

[rosco rathbone]

One of the lessons I have learned after years of dating vanilla beauty queens; is that sexual and emotional compatibility is far more rewarding than arm candy.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Do you find yourself compromising your standards (looks, personality, intellect, etc.) just to have "play dates" when the opportunities present themselves?

I know very few Doms who would ever do this. I would be surprised if any of them compromised just to get laid.

And 2 of you have already posted here in support of my belief.

 

[Kajira Callista]

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I know very few Doms who would ever do this. I would be surprised if any of them compromised just to get laid.

And 2 of you have already posted here in support of my belief.

i kinda got the impression he was saying only ugly stupid chicks are subs or something so he has to make do.

 

[A Desert Rose]

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i kinda got the impression he was saying only ugly stupid chicks are subs or something so he has to make do.

Who did you get this impression from? That's not how I read this thread.

 

[Kajira Callista]

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Who did you get this impression from? That's not how I read this thread.

from his first post...but im kinda tired

 

[FungiUg]

Do you find yourself compromising your standards (looks, personality, intellect, etc.) just to have "play dates" when the opportunities present themselves?

Yes and no. I don't compromise around attractiveness to me. But I do occasionally play by myself, rather than including my partner -- so that's a compromise. I'm less and less happy about doing so though.

 

[A Desert Rose]

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from his first post...but im kinda tired

Yes, I think you're tired, dolly.

However, the same question could be posed to submissives, too.
But that's a different thread, I guess. ;-)

 

[Ryniver]

One of the lessons I have learned after years of dating vanilla beauty queens; is that sexual and emotional compatibility is far more rewarding than arm candy.

Since I've dated my fair share of the male equivalent of a "vanilla beauty queen", I have to wholeheartedly agree with your comment. A person can be good-looking, but if that's the only thing that makes you attracted to them, it's eventually not going to work. That's universal.

 

[Learn Humility]

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i kinda got the impression he was saying only ugly stupid chicks are subs or something so he has to make do.

Not at all.

The same percentage of unattractive (to me, anyway) or unintelligent females that exists in the general population exists in the submissive female population as well, I think.

 

[MastrJ]

No. If I compromise, then there just wouldn't be as much fun for me.

 

[Laoghaire]

No. Looks, personality and intelligence are not my most important requirements. I do want a slave to be have a brain and a sense of integrity to himself. But to me, a slave is a slave.

 

[Learn Humility]

No. If I compromise, then there just wouldn't be as much fun for me.

That's how I'd like to figure it.

But sometimes some fun is better than no fun at all.

 

[Manifest_Shadow]

Sacrificing of ones "standards" isn't necesarily a bad thing (some of us just have them set to high.) But to do it just to get some pussy or cock means you've given up on the control aspect of your dominance. Your no longer seeking any kind of power exchange if you are forced to compromise your standards. You may as well as give up any hopes of a power exchange in the future with this person, if you compromise one thing where does the compromise stop?

Personally, no, I'd never just go do a "play date" just to get my release I'll just masturbate if it's that important to me. If theres something I see in her and she's vanilla but shows signs of being brought in to the fold i'll go on acouple of dates with her and see just how far she's willing to go in the shadows.