A question about kissing

[aguron]

Now, I don't really know if this is the appropriate section for this, but I'll just assume that it is.

I'm 20 years old and I've recently gotten together with a very special girl. We've "dated" for a while and we've kissed about a week ago, and its getting rather intense as of late. I don't want for out kissing to end up as a bad thing and I would very much like to make her feel as good and enjoyable as possible. So, assuming that at least some of you have much more experience with kissing and/or making out, I would very much like if you could give me some advice as to how to kiss as best as possible.

Thank you in advance.

 

[KokopelliRises]

Welcome to Lit!

My best piece of advice: Don't be sloppy and don't go too fast. Starting off kisses are not usually best done with tongue. And don't drool on her. You would be surprised how many people do this without even noticing. If you notice her wiping around her mouth afterwards, then you probably had a little bit too much moisture, if you get what I'm saying.

 

[SweetErika]

It seems like this would be a great question to ask her. Yes, yes, kisses that are too sloppy, unfocused, aggressive and with someone who has bad breath are bad, but we all like things a little different, and even very different from one time to the next.

I don't know about anyone else, but I love it when my partner asks me to tell and/or show them what they can do to improve and please me more, rather than just assuming they know what they're doing.

 

[PhilGarlic]

Remove

Remove anything your'e eating first, or check that she likes it as well!
I find that the kissing dosen't have to be on the mouth or too intense, kissing just close to the lip kissing top then bottom lip, kissing where the dimple appears gets a reaction. A little light nibble. I envy you this time in your life, some good times must be coming up soon.
If you think its hard getting this right wait till you kiss her pussy, two sets of lips to deal with!!!

 

[pinkeden]

don't burp in her mouth. we don't like that.

ask her to show you how she likes to be kissed. Follow her lead

Very sweet and cute and thoughtful

 

[fire_breeze]

I agree with the advice posted above.

I would also add is to take a little slow, and enjoy the moment. Indulge in the act, a sort of 'be in that moment'. If you focus too much on technique, then it's not as enjoyable for both you and your partner and it takes away from the kiss. I would rather have a slightly unfocused kiss from someone who's enjoying himself thoroughly and is in that instant with me than someone who his thinking about the next nibble or move . I suppose that the one 'rule' would be is consideration.

Also, if you drink beer and smoke, do one or the other (preferably the drinking), or neither. The combination of the two is V-I-L-E.

Have fun!

 

[bisexualsmoker]

All these sweet kisses are nothing without promises kept.
If these pronises are broken one can wind up with a broken heart.
Sad but true.

 

[Hopeful]

I haven't posted here in a few years...since 2002 I believe. But here goes.

The only time she ever seemed to kiss well was if we weren't having sex. That was always great but during...she would shove her tongue down my throat and it was typically sloppy. Kissing during seemed to turn her on even more so I never said much to her since she was typically in the throws. But it really turned me off and more or less and I would pull away and concentrate my mouth on other areas like her neck, behind her ears, breasts chest or small pecks on her mouth and face. I'm working here... Stop it!
If our mouths did meet and I tried to use tongue she had a habit of grabbing the back of my head and again forcing herself in for a sloppy kiss.
I've asked her about this and she would just reply. "because your so cute, I can't help myself...." Caught up in the moment/passion I guess.
Over the years I realized that I stopped french kissing her except when she "forced" during sex since that seemed to enhance the feeling. If I matched the movements of my tongue with thrusts she would moan all the louder.
In any event I'm confused as hell in many respects with a woman I was with for six years. Oral, vaginal and her/myself in general. Those things are for that matter.

 

[littlebitshe]

I just want to add....
Be flirtatious with your kisses. I LOVE it when someone is flirting with me when they kiss me. By flirting I mean kiss my bottom lip lightly maybe even suck my lip in softly into your mouth and nibble on my lip. This flirtatious playing really gets me going and may have the same effect on her!! It's worth a shot to try...

What NOT to do!
Do not stick your STIFF tongue in her mouth and move it around rapidly! I HATE it when people do this while kissing me! It's like they don't know what the hell they are doing! It is so uncomfortable too! And what is worse is when they want to keep their stiff tongue in there for long periods of time and not let you take a break! It makes my jaw start hurting! Not fun!!

Stiff Tongue = Bad Experience!

DON'T GET IT CONFUSED WITH..... Stiff Cock
Stiff Cock = GREAT Experience

 

[pinkeden]

I just want to add....
Be flirtatious with your kisses. I LOVE it when someone is flirting with me when they kiss me. By flirting I mean kiss my bottom lip lightly maybe even suck my lip in softly into your mouth and nibble on my lip. This flirtatious playing really gets me going and may have the same effect on her!! It's worth a shot to try...

What NOT to do!
Do not stick your STIFF tongue in her mouth and move it around rapidly! I HATE it when people do this while kissing me! It's like they don't know what the hell they are doing! It is so uncomfortable too! And what is worse is when they want to keep their stiff tongue in there for long periods of time and not let you take a break! It makes my jaw start hurting! Not fun!!

Stiff Tongue = Bad Experience!

DON'T GET IT CONFUSED WITH..... Stiff Cock
Stiff Cock = GREAT Experience

I love flirty kissing, It's my favourite thing to do. Really gets the boys and girls going.

Boy I played with over the weekend did the stiff(ish) tongue thing when kissing me. I think he's getting the tongue and cock thing confused, or trying to be symbolic.. or, more likely was the fact that he's been drinking, haha. I tried to get him to slow down and back off a bit, but I guess he was too into it. I guess it didn't help that I wasn't 100% enthusiastic.. I like kissing to be kissing, not just a pretext to taking my bra off lol.

 

[Reba67]

Start slow and soft. Nothing worse for me than to get tackled with a bruiser of a kiss to start with. Take your cues partly from the other person. If they are getting more aggressive, then respond to that. If you want more aggressive, work up slowly a bit. You'll eventually learn what the other likes and where they like to be kissed.


Regarding the tongue, go easy with it at first. One of the biggest turnoffs for me is having my molars cleaned by someone else's tongue. That's just not sexy.

 

[curiouscutiesva]

soft and slow

Nothign is better than soft and slowing kissing at first. This lets you get to know what makes her feel good and relax and maybe even softly moan if doign it just right. I so love when a guy is not in a big hurry for the next step, foreplay is so important.

 

[herecomestherain]

Kiss her face softly, small kisses like you have all the time in the world - then head closer to her mouth - when you get there, again just take your time, press her lips with yours just slightly open, stop and breathe her in. Let her respond.