A question about FLAMERS

[pinkstarfish]

The internet kind. The one's who like to sow discord and insults over-enthusiastically.

For me, if I let myself be vile online to people, it would mean that I had a secret. Unless I didn't mind people in RL knowing I was a cruel, meanastycunt. Otherwise, it would be a part of myself that I hid in some way, right?

Keeping this kind of "dirty little secret" would make me hate myself (if I didn't already) for spewing venom. Even if it was an internal part of me that I wasn't consciously controlling, I think that deep down these acts stem from fear & loathing. (Sorry, I couldn’t resist)

Do you ever ponder this? I mean, people annoy the crap out of, irritate, and piss me off all the time on the internet. There is another board that I post on that is completely unmoderated, and even more personal than this board. Often while reading it I’m offended or disgusted my comments made, but I never post in that train of thought because it's like drinking poison. Plus, it’s just not me, and like I said, I don’t chew people up and spit them out with insults in RL. It’s hard not to think that it’s simply “okay” to say what the fuck ever you want to say without thinking of the other person’s feelings. It is! Trust me, I know I have plenty of venom, I think we all do. But sometimes I think it’s best to control your emotions for the sake of compassion.

I know not everyone thinks this way, however.

Thoughts?

Do you spew?

or

Are you nice?

 

[morewickedfun]

im basically the same on line as i am in rl
if im in a mood, i spew. if someone is nasty, im nasty back.
Same in rl.

 

[rosco rathbone]

So you are saying that trolls live in bad faith; existentially speaking.

 

[pinkstarfish]

Me too. Perhaps a little less outward about my pervishness.

 

[pinkstarfish]

So you are saying that trolls live in bad faith; existentially speaking.

I'm talking about myself.

I left the topic open, and I'm not judging anyone or name-calling.

I'm just asking.

 

[Sean]

I am sweetness and light at all times. Except when I'm not

 

[rosco rathbone]

I'm talking about myself.

I left the topic open, and I'm not judging anyone or name-calling.

I'm just asking.

No Troll like the Troll Within, what what?

 

[pinkstarfish]

No Troll like the Troll Within, what what?

I guess...

 

[pinkstarfish]

Vote, that's right!

Come on...

 

[JazzManJim]

Plus, it’s just not me, and like I said, I don’t chew people up and spit them out with insults in RL. It’s hard not to think that it’s simply “okay” to say what the fuck ever you want to say without thinking of the other person’s feelings. It is! Trust me, I know I have plenty of venom, I think we all do. But sometimes I think it’s best to control your emotions for the sake of compassion.

This is pretty much where I sit. I think far too many people take the freedom to have ot say whatever they want to mean that they should be obliged to say every stupid and cruel thing they think. License to speak should not automatically grant the license to be an asshole. I prefer to remember that just because I can say whatever I wish here, that does not mean that I should.

 

[pinkstarfish]

Thanks for your comments, Jim.

This isn't as black and white as I thought it might be.

Could it be that the haters aren't voting?

I wonder (as I often do) why that is?

Maybe I'm on their iggy lists.

 

[Sean]

This is pretty much where I sit. I think far too many people take the freedom to have ot say whatever they want to mean that they should be obliged to say every stupid and cruel thing they think. License to speak should not automatically grant the license to be an asshole. I prefer to remember that just because I can say whatever I wish here, that does not mean that I should.

The freedom to say what you like on here can be a relief valve for the pent up frustrations of RL. If you spend all day having to be at least civil to people, it can be therapeutic to vent and know there are no consequences.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Me too. Perhaps a little less outward about my pervishness.

Odd ... but I am a bit more pervy off the board.

 

[pinkstarfish]

Odd ... but I am a bit more pervy off the board.

I'm around children and Christians constantly.

I also spend time with a widowed 43 year old woman, and never talk about sex to her either. Then there's my family (husband's side) whom I never discuss sex with eitther unless it's with my youngest sister-in-law.

So basically, I hide my inner perv and save it for hubby, strictly.

Except online or when I masturbate.

 

[hobbit.]

The freedom to say what you like on here can be a relief valve for the pent up frustrations of RL. If you spend all day having to be at least civil to people, it can be therapeutic to vent and know there are no consequences.

inded, well said. (what has Ralph Lauren, RL, got to do with this?) just to show no hard feelings over your posting my picture on line, i have posted your home and office telephone numbers, home and work email addreses, mobile number, fax numbers (home, office and parents) on certain soccer club websites (and to ensure your warmest welcome, your views on the team as selected at weekend)

does your national insurance number still end in 72?

enjoy.

 

[JazzManJim]

The freedom to say what you like on here can be a relief valve for the pent up frustrations of RL. If you spend all day having to be at least civil to people, it can be therapeutic to vent and know there are no consequences.

There are always consequences to being an asshole. You may not feel them youself, but that does not mean that others won't. Assuming that one can come here, flame whomever they like, and that nothing ill will ever come of it, merely because you won't feel the effects is, to me, incredibly self-involved.

 

[JazzManJim]

Could it be that the haters aren't voting?

I wonder (as I often do) why that is?

Maybe I'm on their iggy lists.

It could be that, even given relative anonymity, no one really likes admitting they're an asshole. No one wants to be on the extreme end of anything.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

I expected pics..

 

[huskie]

I'm a bit more obnoxious in real life... only cause I don't have to type and spell and stuff...

 

[pinkstarfish]

There are always consequences to being an asshole. You may not feel them youself, but that does not mean that others won't. Assuming that one can come here, flame whomever they like, and that nothing ill will ever come of it, merely because you won't feel the effects is, to me, incredibly self-involved.

That's a polite way of putting it.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

When I first started hanging out on forums a few years ago, I found it warped me IRL for a short time period. So I'd have a spirited discussion with a person and say something like, "Wow, that must be the dumbest fucking thing I've heard all year. Congrats." People talk like that online, but face to face, that is uncool.

So I've worked on tempering myself all around, and I try really hard to not talk to people online any differently than off. I slip sometimes, but not too often.

 

[pinkstarfish]

inded, well said. (what has Ralph Lauren, RL, got to do with this?) just to show no hard feelings over your posting my picture on line, i have posted your home and office telephone numbers, home and work email addreses, mobile number, fax numbers (home, office and parents) on certain soccer club websites (and to ensure your warmest welcome, your views on the team as selected at weekend)

does your national insurance number still end in 72?

enjoy.

I knew someone would say this.

 

[pinkstarfish]

When I first started hanging out on forums a few years ago, I found it warped me IRL for a short time period. So I'd have a spirited discussion with a person and say something like, "Wow, that must be the dumbest fucking thing I've heard all year. Congrats." People talk like that online, but face to face, that is uncool.

So I've worked on tempering myself all around, and I try really hard to not talk to people online any differently than off. I slip sometimes, but not too often.

You're class, Lady.

I think I've said that before.

 

[pinkstarfish]

I'm a bit more obnoxious in real life... only cause I don't have to type and spell and stuff...

hahaha... Cute.

 

[hobbit.]

I expected pics..

http://www.secretarmies.com/images/day_flame.jpg


any more comments wise ass?