A Protest

[wanderingparis]

More a complaint, perhaps. It happens to me again and again. Why do I have to carry the burden of other men's crimes against their women? Why when I meet someone in a Breton bistro in Paris or in a steamy wine bar in Knightsbridge or in a plastic hotel bar in Tribeca is it always the same? They take in my shirt, my hairstyle, and most insultingly my shoes and decide that it is already ordained by some relationship god that I will hurt them, that I offer only the possibility of a fling, a passionate one but a fling nonetheless? Life is not a dress rehearsal and I am not playing a part. Another exchange with so much false promise devolves into a hookup and I awaken unshaven, my pants on the hotel floor, alone and used?

 

[Jamiegeo]

Boo fuckin hoo!
Get better in bed that way they wont walk away so easily.


Nah just kidding..
I dont honestly know why you are forced to carry such a burden.. It must be tough. Good onya though, as a bloke i'd like to thank you for suffering for my crimes.

 

[girlyboi85]

Women like men who will eventually hurt them. That's why they always inevitably end up with them.

 

[SimplyMsT]

Women like men who will eventually hurt them. That's why they always inevitably end up with them.

What a crock of shit ...

 

[sunshinegirl05]

Women like men who will eventually hurt them. That's why they always inevitably end up with them.

What the f.......?!

 

[Hornblende]

* Orders a large bucket of popcorn and awaits developments. *

 

[Jamiegeo]

I really want to see these shoes that cause Sooo much insult!.

 

[girlyboi85]

What a crock of shit ...

What the f.......?!

Clearly a joke, people.

 

[badjanus]

I hope you're OK
A couple of points though

Why are you wearing such a baggy shirt?
Why would you hurt your shoes? - that kink belongs on the fetish thread.

Happy to help

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I can't respond without further information.

What kind of shoes?

 

[SimplyMsT]

Clearly a joke, people.

Clearly you failed at the joke ...

 

[wanderingparis]

More

I see that there are interesting, clever people here and I thank you for commenting. Here is some clarification of my admittedly obscure post.
I have returned to the world after an extending period of mourning for the loss of my wife. She as pregnant with our first and the loss was life-shattering. Incidentally, sharing observations with anyone has been difficult and posting here, even anonymously, is therapeutic.
My life is lived largely on campus.i teach and write mostly. The things that I brought with me from life in the City (Yanks, that means Wall Street) exhibit a clear preference for nice things. I still dress as I did then. Tailored fitted shirts are much nicer than off the rack sizeless ones and expensive shoes are considerably more comfortable.
As I stick a toe in the social waters in the places where I live (I'm in the process of relocating to London from Paris where I no longer feel comfortable), I find my interactions with women singularly strange.
I am not a player. I was happily and faithfully married for enough years to demonstrate my constancy and ability o commit. I look women in the eyes and only surreptitiously check out their bodies (I am male and very sexual) but I try to connect with them personally, which means much more to me than a large pair of breasts.
Unless someone is wearing something very inappropriate, e.g., muddy trainers at a formal affair, I don't take notice of their footwear. I do appreciate a woman's sense of style but I wouldn't reject a person whose words revealed depth of emotion and intelligence because her mother never taught her how to dress or because she did but rejects it as meaningless.
But the women I meet? They conclude from my clothes, my shoes , the fact that I am in my earl forties and unattached, that I am athletic and have my hair cut nicely, that I am either gay or a player. I'm not. I'm putting out the wrong vibe. Getting these thoughts down here is helpful and the comments are marvelously entertaining. A few made me laugh aloud. No one should take offense because everything was meant casually and with good humour.
I know that I'm just getting back in things and I should give it time. The cri de coeur is surely premature but again, it is therapeutic.
If you care to comment, I'm listening.

 

[blu_caprice]

Bruh, we really need to see these shoes though.

 

[girlyboi85]

Clearly you failed at the joke ...

I'm not responsible for your failure in understanding.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Denny

Sorry for the loss of your wife. It must be difficult.

As for 99% of the rest, I buy my clothes at Walmart and my shoes wherever flip flops are cheap. I'm old but even when young I had no problems finding a decent woman or a one night stand even though most often my wife was with me.
Yes, she too buys her clothes at Walmart, flea markets, and yard sales. We've never worn clothes that are uncomfortable or not appreciated by others.

Lighten up and join the real world. There are some great people out there.

Protests of any type are a waste of time.

 

[numeniusa]

You don't have to allow a promising encounter to become a hookup. You can choose to know a woman more thoroughly first. Talk, eat, drink, experience something together over a few dates, if it's something more long term and/or meaningful you seek. Maybe you're meeting women in the wrong sorts of places if the women you encounter are only interested in a hookup with a 'player', as you put it?

(May I ask why your profile says late forties?)

 

[wanderingparis]

Not sure. I just turned 44 December 26th. My wife was four years older and and did pretend to be older for her sake when we were first married.

There are no eligible women on campus. I'm not one of those guys who hits on students half my age. I'm no longer connected to or at home in the financial world.i am struggling a little to find a comfortable place.

You don't have to allow a promising encounter to become a hookup. You can choose to know a woman more thoroughly first. Talk, eat, drink, experience something together over a few dates, if it's something more long term and/or meaningful you seek. Maybe you're meeting women in the wrong sorts of places if the women you encounter are only interested in a hookup with a 'player', as you put it?

(May I ask why your profile says late forties?)

 

[wanderingparis]

No insult was intended to Walmart shoppers

I'm sure you can look very good. I prefer other stores and since I can afford it, what's the harm?

Where I do disagree is regarding the value of literary expressions of protest. Some of the world's greatest literature is born of social and cultural protest: Dickens, Dreiser, Lawrence...

Since this is Literotica, it would seem that musings on relationships erotic and otherwise are as appropriate as dick pics.

Of course, you don't have to read anything I or any other poster writes. All you saw was one men's sincere expression of regret.

Sorry for the loss of your wife. It must be difficult.

As for 99% of the rest, I buy my clothes at Walmart and my shoes wherever flip flops are cheap. I'm old but even when young I had no problems finding a decent woman or a one night stand even though most often my wife was with me.
Yes, she too buys her clothes at Walmart, flea markets, and yard sales. We've never worn clothes that are uncomfortable or not appreciated by others.

Lighten up and join the real world. There are some great people out there.

Protests of any type are a waste of time.

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

You're not dressing like Tony Manero are you? Anyway, this dark side of trust is prevalent the world over, you're not the only one dealing with this. One thing to try & learn is how to bring your potential partner beyond the point of these preconceived notions or learn to walk away with a smile & say, "Thanks for your time" & look elsewhere.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

Clearly a joke, people.

obviously not so clear...

 

[lakesailer_mi]

* Orders a large bucket of popcorn and awaits developments. *

*sits down next to Horn* (whispers...why do they write these things?)

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

People of Walmart

We don't dress like those Walmart people photos. We do buy clothes there, Sears, and other places where "the workin man shops." I've never claimed to be well dressed, well versed, or well off.
But I have a loving wife and great family.

Fancy shoes and fancy clothes don't always get the fancy girls. You need to climb off that high horse and get your head out of the clouds.
There are many fine ladies in your age bracket that would be happy to share a cup of tea, wine, or tap water and conversation.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

*sits down next to Horn* (whispers...why do they write these things?)

for the drama.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Why when I meet someone in a Breton bistro in Paris or in a steamy wine bar in Knightsbridge or in a plastic hotel bar in Tribeca is it always the same?

Stop going to pompous, douchie places.

My life is lived largely on campus.i teach and write mostly.

Oh?

Bruh, we really need to see these shoes though.

I bet he's wearing TOMS. That must be his problem. Those things can repel a woman faster than a dick that looks like a corn cob.

 

[AKentuckyLady]

#firstworldproblems

#I'mtoosexyformyshoes