A potential drawback to Lit get-togethers?

[Cheyenne]

After the events of yesterday on the bb, I've been thinking.

Does anyone worry about going to Lit get-togethers and having your picture taken, only to have someone post it on the bb without your permission? Or send it to people you haven't "authorized" to have it?

What about threads started after such events discussing who was there and what they did? Does that worry you at all?

 

[Guest]

 

[Bluesboy2]

After the events of yesterday on the bb, I've been thinking.

Does anyone worry about going to Lit get-togethers and having your picture taken, only to have someone post it on the bb without your permission? Or send it to people you haven't "authorized" to have it?

What about threads started after such events discussing who was there and what they did? Does that worry you at all?

I would prefer that my pic not be directly posted on this board. That being said, its not too hard to find it. I just dont wanna be responsible for damaging peoples eyes.

 

[Asendin]

naa my pics already posted here, but i do see your point about asking permission first.

 

[Weird Harold]

Does anyone worry about going to Lit get-togethers and having your picture taken, only to have someone post it on the bb without your permission? Or send it to people you haven't "authorized" to have it?

That's why there was a strict "no cameras" rule in the arrangements for the LV lit-together that was aborted by 9/11. There were a lot of people who wou;dn't come if cameras were allowed.

I personally don't care if my picture is posted, and I don't share any pictures without permission -- unfortunately, I think I'm probably an exceptionthat proves the rule in that respect.

 

[Kitte]

Re: Re: A potential drawback to Lit get-togethers?

I would prefer that my pic not be directly posted on this board. That being said, its not too hard to find it. I just dont wanna be responsible for damaging peoples eyes.

Honey I am sub by nature but dont make me beat you for that comment...you are adorable

 

[bluespoke]

Would it be any different to showing someone your holiday snaps without asking permission of a friend in the pictures?

If you permit others to take pictures of you then you rather imply permission for them to be passed amongst friends.

 

[amelia]

it really does depend on respect and trust.

i would never post someone's picture without permission b/c i would respect their right to make the decision about having their pic floating around the internet. i might post a picture of me with them edited out.

i always try to respect people and be trustworthy.

 

[Cheyenne]

Would it be any different to showing someone your holiday snaps without asking permission of a friend in the pictures?

If you permit others to take pictures of you then you rather imply permission for them to be passed amongst friends.

Holiday pictures passed among friends in real life is a whole lot different than pictures of relative strangers posted to a porn board. Especially potential candid shots that you didn't even know were being taken at the time of the get-together.

 

[Weird Harold]

Would it be any different to showing someone your holiday snaps without asking permission of a friend in the pictures?

Sharing digital pictures via e-mail is more like printing copies and mailing them to friends -- the pictures pass out of your control.

Posting pictures here, is like pinning one to every power pole and fence post in town.

 

[bluespoke]

Sharing digital pictures via e-mail is more like printing copies and mailing them to friends -- the pictures pass out of your control.

Posting pictures here, is like pinning one to every power pole and fence post in town.

Not being one who 'performs' in public I don't think I'd be too worried.

 

[Weird Harold]

...Especially potential candid shots that you didn't even know were being taken ...

You've got nothing to worry about, we'll just ban lampshades and you won't have to fear those "Wh is that accountant wearing the lampshade," questions.

 

[Cheyenne]

Not being one who 'performs' in public I don't think I'd be too worried.

But there are those of us who do NOT want our face shown here for any reason, ever! For many different reasons, all of them valid to the person who they apply to.

Someone who doesn't think it is a big deal to post pictures because it doesn't matter to them if THEIR face is out in public would be exactly the person I would worry about at a Lit get-together. They may not understand how serious of an offense it would be to some of us to have our pictures posted. And yes, I know they can be removed by Laurel once posted without permission, but it is too late at that point. The damage could already be done.

 

[Persephone36]

It's a good question Cheyenne. It was something that weighed on my mind *after* I was at the NYC July lit get together -- I don't think I really thought too much about it prior. For one thing, Tulip and Perky -- being the hostesses -- they made it so incredibly clear what was okay and not okay to share after these events. Pictures being one of the main issues. Tulip addressed that a number of times in the thread about getting together well before the date.

The reason I was more concerned after was that there were a lot of photos being taken -- I personally didn't want *any* photos taken of me (their might have been, I don't know) but I don't think I made that clear up front -- so that was my look out. I wasn't so concerned about photos being put up on the board -- I just didn't want photos of me being in someone else's hands from that night.

And for that matter -- I still don't know about that. But I'm fine with it. Again, Perky and Tulip were always in control of what was going on -- and I had complete faith and trust in them.

The key is having good strong organizers -- who respect the rules of these get togethers. Tulip has done so many for the NY crowd -- if anyone has questions on guidelines -- they should go to her (when she get's back from Australia)

P.

 

[Guest]

Um, why can't the guidelines be set prior to the get together, like Weird Harold mentioned??

Are any of you suggesting that a scenario like that could not be trusted?

That would be sad. I would think, just give the cameras to the people who don't want their picture taken, snap up the roll of film, put the camera away and have fun.

 

[MissTaken]

Actually, it goes well beyond photos and get togethers.

I have been concerned on more than one occasion that I had shared personal information with someone I trusted who eventually stopped calling or writing. I am fortunate to never have had a real "falling out" with someone, but in any event, once the words are spoken or typed, you no longer have control.

As Siren brought up in a recent thread, sharing personal information of any kind is potentially dangerous as you can't be sure that you will always be friends or that information won't be shared privately or publicly, with good intentions or malice.

It is best to use caution, always.

While some are very comfortable posting and sharing information here, to the casual observer, this is a porn site. Our presence here could be damaging personally or professionally especially if misunderstood.

We are an open minded lot, but the rest of the world has yet to catch up with us!

 

[TWB]

It is an issue, and the picture should not have been posted yesterday, no matter how tempting it was. If I ever got involved in a get together I think Weird Harold has the right idea, except for those folks who don't care about it being posted. They could run off in a corner and take all the pics they wanted, without anyone else in the background.

 

[Rambrat]

After the events of yesterday on the bb, I've been thinking.

Does anyone worry about going to Lit get-togethers and having your picture taken, only to have someone post it on the bb without your permission? Or send it to people you haven't "authorized" to have it?

What about threads started after such events discussing who was there and what they did? Does that worry you at all?

I would hope that I made a good impression. If not...there are people who aren't going to like me anyway (I know...how can this be Rammie).

But I would worry about the picture...I don't photograph well.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Well, as the person who took a pic at a small Oregon Lit-together, it just all depends on how much you trust someone I guess. I make it real clear to anyone from Lit. who shares their pics with me, or allows me to take their pic, that I will not share their pics with anybody else - without their explicit permission for the specific instance. I expect the same from them. I don't mind people knowing what I look like, but I want people to ask permission first, and I want to know who my pic is being shared with.

It doesn't matter if other people are with me in the pic, or if I have posted my pic before, or it is in my Av (which it never will be) - they must ask permission, and ask it for each and every instance. There are no circumstances that would allow someone to break that rule - and that person ever be trusted by me again.

As others have pointed out, there is a big difference between other types of pics being shown/shared, and with pics that link people to Lit. - this place is still dangerous to people's reputations, both professional and personal, and I expect my friends and acquaintances to respect that. If they don't, they will no longer be a friend or acquaintance - and I may take further steps, such as letting other people know what happened and why. It is as simple as that.

 

[someplace]

It's all about communication

As someone who helped host a Lit-together where many pictures were taken, I can explain how we handled this question, to the satisfaction I believe, of all attendees.

We discussed before and during how pictures were to be taken and also used. There were some people who did not want their pictures even taken at all. We respected that. They let their wishes be known both to me privately and to the group. The key is: they told us specifically, not left it to be figured out by osmosis.

Once pictures were taken, we discussed what was to be done with them. In several instances, people gave permission for their picture to actually be posted onto Lit, though I don't believe that was ever done. In our case one person took the majority of the pictures and posted them to a personal web page (for a limited period of time) which was shared with the attendees.

Under any Lit-together lies a mutual air of respect, trust and friendship. If you have solid fears about your part in such an activity, then I feel you should seriously consider whether you need to attend. Our group really enjoyed themselves and are eagerly awaiting the next Lit-together!

 

[someplace]

Re: Re: Re: A potential drawback to Lit get-togethers?

Honey I am sub by nature but dont make me beat you for that comment...you are adorable

Isn't he just, though????

(psssst btw Kitte: I'm not sure, but I think he may be a switch, so I think it's ok....)

 

[glamorilla]

None of the information I share with anybody here is potentially damaging to me although I've become much more wary of who I share information with. I've noticed there are some here who see the gathering of information as potential ammo to be used as soon as an arguement breaks out and to me that's not developing a friendship.

I was sorry I missed the chance to meet some of you at the nyc thing. it's been a really weird year and a lot of things,particularly my career,have been completely out of my control. It's something I've spoent pretty much my entire adult life focused on and the past five or so months have been very confusing.

The way i behave here...wisecracks and dirty talk and generally acting like a goofball. It's very much me. It isn't an act or an internet persona...but it isn't something I let out in real life often. It's usually reserved for two or three of my closest friends.All kidding aside if I showed up the people at the nc get together would have thought me a cold,snobby bitch. I'm very different when I'm around people I'm meeting for the first time...I don't like being touched,I'm not affectionate,I'm very dark and scary~serious and usually in a crowd situation unless i can lose myself on a dance floor I prefer to perch somewhere and just watch the crowd rather than join in and be sociable.

I have no idea what went on yesterday but posting a picture here of someone without thier consent isn't the brightest of ideas although I don't see what's wrong with sharing a nice picture or two. It would probably go a long way to getting better turnouts at future get togethers.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

The picture probably shouldn't have been posted. But then neither should any of the other shit that was posted yesterday.

I had had a concern that I expressed in private to someone who shared that concern to others who made it public.

There is a lot of information that gets passed between members here that could potentially damage many lives. I think a picture for 2 minutes would be the least of anyone's concerns.

Posting/sharing personal info is not justified because someone else posted/shared personal info.

 

[Carl East]

Anyone wanting to bring a camera and take pictures of me is welcome, it just doesn't bother me in the slightest. I understand the need for privacy for others though, and in that I would expect certain rules to be adhered to.

Carl