A pet peeve of mine

[College_geek]

Is it that I'm so ugly that no girl would want to play with me? All these other girls I know make out with each other when they're drunk and then I secretly get all jealous when they talk about it. Is it just because I don't party or drink? Would no girl make out with me sober? Or drunk? Is it because I don't always talk about my bicuriousity? I want to know whether I enjoy being with a woman or not, but no woman at school has ever showed any interest. ARG!

Sorry for the rant.

 

[John Doe]

Many women do not show interest. They merely accept, reject or ignore the interest of others. Meaning you may have to make the first move.

Like grabbing her boob.

 

[human_male]

You're not ugly, you're pretty. Ok you're big, but a lot of people like that, and anyway I doubt it's your looks or size that's the problem. You're gonna have to make the first move because how is anyone supposed to know that you're up for it unless you do? It amazes me that gay women ever get together at all.

 

[human_male]

I know how you feel though. Sometimes I'm convinced no one likes me because I'm the ugliest guy in the world, but then I think maybe a lot of women would go for me if only I made more of an effort. Don't be like me. Just go for it! Although grabbing a boob might not be the best approach.

 

[killallhippies]

Is it that I'm so ugly that no girl would want to play with me? All these other girls I know make out with each other when they're drunk and then I secretly get all jealous when they talk about it. Is it just because I don't party or drink? Would no girl make out with me sober? Or drunk? Is it because I don't always talk about my bicuriousity? I want to know whether I enjoy being with a woman or not, but no woman at school has ever showed any interest. ARG!

Sorry for the rant.

if they're making out at parties while drunk they're probably just dumb sluts. kill them.

 

[Queersetti]

I suspect that these other girls you're talking about are treating the notion of bisexuality as a lark, in which case, they would certainly avoid someone who appears to take the matter seriously, as I am assuming you do.

Is there some sort of GLBT social group or club on your campus that you can get involved with?

 

[killallhippies]

I suspect that these other girls you're talking about are treating the notion of bisexuality as a lark, in which case, they would certainly avoid someone who appears to take the matter seriously, as I am assuming you do.

Is there some sort of GLBT social group or club on your campus that you can get involved with?

this why i kinda like you. you essentially said what i was trying to say, but in a nice, clear fashion. awesomeness, yo.

 

[buffybot]

not sure what to tell you sweetie other than... i know your pain.... i've got a friend that somehow gets more play that a bad pop song.. and i don't know if it is because he makes the first move... or what... but i feel you... umm ok.. i sound kinda dumb in this post.. but i wanted to show soem solidarity here.

 

[capricious_chic]

You say no woman has shown any interest so I have to ask - have you shown any?

I had many bi experiences when I was young and drunk, mostly in play. It is more "safe" when you can attribute it to alcohol. These aren't the experiences that will let you know one way or the other if you are bi - they can help, but rarely are they anything more than the opportunity to say, "this one time I was so drunk that I...".

Many bi/lesbian women don't want to be with another woman who is unsure of their sexuality. There are some, so don't fret. I have one friend who only pursues straight women.

Find some social group like Q suggests or go to the local gay bar every once in a while.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

Is it that I'm so ugly that no girl would want to play with me? All these other girls I know make out with each other when they're drunk and then I secretly get all jealous when they talk about it. Is it just because I don't party or drink? Would no girl make out with me sober? Or drunk? Is it because I don't always talk about my bicuriousity? I want to know whether I enjoy being with a woman or not, but no woman at school has ever showed any interest. ARG!

Sorry for the rant.

You're certainly not ugly, so scratch that off your list.
It could be because you don't party or drink, though is that the kind of experience you really want? My first two encounters with women were at sorority parties in college, and they were HIGHLY unsatisfying. In fact, though the interest was there, so was the crying and whining and overall uncertainty of everything. I actually put it out of my mind and got married to my high school sweetheart a year later. That's over now and I've found a wonderful woman to share my life with, but the point I was trying to make is that you're not likely to learn much about what you really want in that setting.

There is a lot of talk about making the first move, and that is by far the most direct approach. That said, I've never put a lot into the vibes a person puts off on a first meeting. There's so much selling going on that I begin to feel like I'm at a flea market. Someone suggested a gay bar, which is probably the best way to narrow the market. At any rate, if you're really looking to gain experience with women the best thing you can do is find groups, as Queersetti suggested. As you reassess, though, don't look within as you're certainly not someone I'd shy away from.

~lucky

 

[Girl From Mars]

Hey, you got my first post, so feel honoured!

No - you're certainly not ugly - in fact, quite the opposite.

Bear in mind though that drunken kisses attributed to alcohol are often to attract male attention and not because of any attraction between the girls kissing, which probably isn't what you'd want anyway, surely?

As has been said, try talking to people you know definitely are bi or lesbian, try the groups available to you at school.

 

[Queersetti]

this why i kinda like you. you essentially said what i was trying to say, but in a nice, clear fashion. awesomeness, yo.

I left out the part about killing them, though.

 

[killallhippies]

I left out the part about killing them, though.

that's the nice part.

 

[Ma Petite]

*kiss kiss*

1)college geek, you are not ugly, you are quite lovely and make me jealous. By the way, which college are you at/ what state at least?

2)human_male You are so beautiful!!!! *blushes* do not considerself otherwise. Your eyes are so amazing and your smile so welcoming and gentle.

3)you dont usually wnat to get with the drunk college people, they are stupid and well, can ruin your life if they feel like it. you are so beautiful and look as though you are fun and enjoyable to be around in more then one way. oops, sorry, didnt mean to cum onto you.

So sweet, pm me sometime!

-Tears

 

[human_male]

2)human_male You are so beautiful!!!! *blushes* do not considerself otherwise. Your eyes are so amazing and your smile so welcoming and gentle.

Aww thanks. I need to hear that just a bit more often. *sniffles*

 

[human_male]

So sweet, pm me sometime!

Did you mean me or geek?

 

[Guest]

You are beautiful.

Learn to accept that... believe it. It is true.


I wouldn't let what happens at drunken college parties phase you.
They aren't what counts in life. Promise.

 

[Programmer Cat]

Sorry for the rant.

Don't be. If it's any comfort, my wife is voluptuous like you. If she was more comfortable with the idea of playing with others, I bet you and she would have a yummy time, and if your boyfriend is bi we could put on a show for you girls.

 

[Xectxny19X]

hehe...what are YOU complaining about...heck, no one wants to kissy face w/ me sober or drunk...and heck, I'm all OUT! *hugs* awww....!

 

[sxxyblueyes]

I feel your pain.. I don't have any girls around here either Well.. at least *I* can't seem to find any that are interested. I guess I am either 1) not looking hard enough or 2) I am just not what some girls are looking for??
So here I sit... patiently waiting/looking for a special girl to come my way It will happen one day - have hope (for both of us)

 

[Xectxny19X]

You're not ugly, you're pretty. Ok you're big, but a lot of people like that, and anyway I doubt it's your looks or size that's the problem. You're gonna have to make the first move because how is anyone supposed to know that you're up for it unless you do? It amazes me that gay women ever get together at all.

OMG...I wonder about that too sometimes... oh well.

 

[ctguyx]

Is it that I'm so ugly that no girl would want to play with me? All these other girls I know make out with each other when they're drunk and then I secretly get all jealous when they talk about it. Is it just because I don't party or drink? Would no girl make out with me sober? Or drunk? Is it because I don't always talk about my bicuriousity? I want to know whether I enjoy being with a woman or not, but no woman at school has ever showed any interest. ARG!

Sorry for the rant.

Im not a girl, but i would definitely make out with you!

 

[human_male]

hehe...what are YOU complaining about...heck, no one wants to kissy face w/ me sober or drunk...and heck, I'm all OUT! *hugs* awww....!

It's certainly not because of how you look either. You just need to make an effort.

Seriously, all you gay girls... straight women can afford to just sit back and be passive because they can rely on men making the first move. But women don't, so if you want a woman you're going to have to step up!

I should talk though. I can't bring myself to ask the girl I like out for coffee. Every time I see her I try but I just can't do it and it's been too freakin months now! I'm pathetic! *runs out of the room sobbing*

 

[College_geek]

straight women can afford to just sit back and be passive because they can rely on men making the first move.

Not necessarily. Granted my current (first and only) boyfriend did make the first move, he was the only guy to ever actually give me any notice. Men aren't always reliable in that sense, or guys my age are pussies and won't admit to liking larger women for fear of being insulted by their friends.

 

[One fun guy]

Ok, I am going to go against the grain here a little bit. Have you tried to go for the women who are in the same "league" as you? In my profession I see alot of people hook-up. Attractive people hook up with other attractive people, not so attractive people hook-up with other not so attractive people. There are exceptions, there are no absolutes. The one constant though is confidence. The more confident you are the prettier you appear the better the chance of hooking up with your desired partner. Beware of the fine line between appearing confident and obnoxious.