A parallel life

[Sorites]

Sometimes I see a woman and I can imagine what it might be like to get to know her. What it might be like to sit with her, to talk, to laugh; to feel her cheek brush against mine; to know that shared temptation, and feel it quicken both our hearts; to reach out, to touch, to be touched, to give in to that strongest pull...

I love my wife, I love my life, but sometimes I wish I could step outside of it now and then, to explore the possibilities just outside my grasp, just beyond the strictures of the good and the sensible, the safe and the static. I want a parallel life that I can visit, a special place I can go where there are no consequences, only actions. And I want someone to meet me there, someone with whom to share this secret little corner of existence.

 

[SoulWeavinGirl]

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[quietlylooking]

Sometimes I see a woman and I can imagine what it might be like to get to know her. What it might be like to sit with her, to talk, to laugh; to feel her cheek brush against mine; to know that shared temptation, and feel it quicken both our hearts; to reach out, to touch, to be touched, to give in to that strongest pull...

I love my wife, I love my life, but sometimes I wish I could step outside of it now and then, to explore the possibilities just outside my grasp, just beyond the strictures of the good and the sensible, the safe and the static. I want a parallel life that I can visit, a special place I can go where there are no consequences, only actions. And I want someone to meet me there, someone with whom to share this secret little corner of existence.

Very well said. This is very much what brings me to Lit. As I get older, I realize I don't want my life to go by without ever having experienced more. And I realize it won't always turn out perfect (in fact, it never really can, can it?), but it can make my life richer.

 

[Anomaly1964]

I've had that, and have been lucky enough not to get caught, but there are always consequences, always. I've also found that usually the fantasy is better than the reality. It's the "grass is always greener" syndrome.

So, so true...

And yet we still venture into the pasture...

 

[gcoop3]

Sometimes I see a woman and I can imagine what it might be like to get to know her. What it might be like to sit with her, to talk, to laugh; to feel her cheek brush against mine; to know that shared temptation, and feel it quicken both our hearts; to reach out, to touch, to be touched, to give in to that strongest pull...

I love my wife, I love my life, but sometimes I wish I could step outside of it now and then, to explore the possibilities just outside my grasp, just beyond the strictures of the good and the sensible, the safe and the static. I want a parallel life that I can visit, a special place I can go where there are no consequences, only actions. And I want someone to meet me there, someone with whom to share this secret little corner of existence.

I think you have summed up very well why many of us come to Lit. Hopefully those of us looking can find ways to connect to each other in ways we can live with and hopefully the consequences are worth the reward.

 

[Sorites]

Intellectually I have surely known that there must be many others out there who feel something similar. But it's not exactly something that can be openly discussed, and so there is a kind of inner loneliness that goes hand in hand with feeling this way.

It's really nice to see some responses from those who identify with this sentiment.

And of course I agree that actions do not truly exist without consequences; I suppose I figured that as long as I was out on a limb, I might as well be honest about what I want, even if that honesty went untempered by realism.

 

[amofiga]

Like soulweavingirl I've had that parallel life via some long term affairs with married women who also felt the need to have a "parallel life" with someone who understood their needs in a non-judgmental relationship. It can be wonderful. It can also be disasterous as I found out. Getting caught cheating is no fun.

 

[Jessicaaaturbox]

Sometimes I see a woman and I can imagine what it might be like to get to know her. What it might be like to sit with her, to talk, to laugh; to feel her cheek brush against mine; to know that shared temptation, and feel it quicken both our hearts; to reach out, to touch, to be touched, to give in to that strongest pull...

I love my wife, I love my life, but sometimes I wish I could step outside of it now and then, to explore the possibilities just outside my grasp, just beyond the strictures of the good and the sensible, the safe and the static. I want a parallel life that I can visit, a special place I can go where there are no consequences, only actions. And I want someone to meet me there, someone with whom to share this secret little corner of existence.

I totally agree with this. This is why I join Lit. I love my fiance, but I think I need to get out of that reality for a little bit of time. I need to breathe!