A new relationship

[tealsphynx]

Ok this may be a little wrong...but I'm noticing some similarities in my relationship between Me and my toy, and my Son (2wks old) and me. I feel like he is my Master and I his slave. If I don't figure out what pleases him I'm rewarded with this ear piercing scream. He apparently has a breast fetish. I'm breastfeeding so it makes sense he would want to suck for food..but he likes to suck when he is obviously not eating and doesn't really like pacifiers (aka my sanity saver when my niples can take no more and his daddy is trying desperately to warm the bottle of pumped milk faster). He is demanding, and not always fair, but always loving. Any ideas what vanilla society would think of this thought?

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Hmmm... it would be sociologically interesting to follow this child to adulthood and see if he retains his natural tendency toward D/domination, and what, if any, influence his environment (your homelife) has on that tendency. The intriguing thought is, if we have other new parents of less demanding/more passive babies, one could do a study comparing the naturally passive (pyl) babies and their development to the naturally demanding (PYL) babies' development and proclivities in later life. Anyone who might want to fund this study and/or provide children for it, speak right up.

 

[tealsphynx]

Wish I had the money to, it'd be an interresting study. You sound like you'd be a prime candidate to do the research. I've never been great at researching...but I will deffinitely be watching him as he grows up. Though with daddy being a male sub it could influence the child toward that...We still aren't sure how we'll handle our playing as he gets older though. It seems from posts I've read that other families have handled this situation quite well..so I'm sure we'll figure something out too.

 

[laurel-marie]

Ok this may be a little wrong...but I'm noticing some similarities in my relationship between Me and my toy, and my Son (2wks old) and me. I feel like he is my Master and I his slave. If I don't figure out what pleases him I'm rewarded with this ear piercing scream. He apparently has a breast fetish. I'm breastfeeding so it makes sense he would want to suck for food..but he likes to suck when he is obviously not eating and doesn't really like pacifiers (aka my sanity saver when my niples can take no more and his daddy is trying desperately to warm the bottle of pumped milk faster). He is demanding, and not always fair, but always loving. Any ideas what vanilla society would think of this thought?

He takes a bottle! Consider yourself lucky....my little one only wants mom. She went through a phase, at about the same age yours is, of wanting to suck non-stop. No pacifier either. She liked her thumb, but at that age, she couldn't find it on her own.

As for the vanilla society...hmmmmm, my guess is frowning disapproval.

Good luck.

 

[laurel-marie]

Hmmm... it would be sociologically interesting to follow this child to adulthood and see if he retains his natural tendency toward D/domination, and what, if any, influence his environment (your homelife) has on that tendency. The intriguing thought is, if we have other new parents of less demanding/more passive babies, one could do a study comparing the naturally passive (pyl) babies and their development to the naturally demanding (PYL) babies' development and proclivities in later life. Anyone who might want to fund this study and/or provide children for it, speak right up.

Interesting.
My little girl has 4 males at her beck and call...one being my husband.
At a start like that, i have doubts of her being submissive.

 

[Aeroil]

Just be careful about playing in the baby's presence, you don't want his first memory to be of his father all naked and tied up, with clothespins all over him eh?

 

[arctic-stranger]

Hmmm... it would be sociologically interesting to follow this child to adulthood and see if he retains his natural tendency toward D/domination, and what, if any, influence his environment (your homelife) has on that tendency. The intriguing thought is, if we have other new parents of less demanding/more passive babies, one could do a study comparing the naturally passive (pyl) babies and their development to the naturally demanding (PYL) babies' development and proclivities in later life. Anyone who might want to fund this study and/or provide children for it, speak right up.

There has been a very long experiment about this going on. It is called Parenthood. All children are, to some extent, demanding. None of our three children ever had a bottle, and all of them could belt out an ear piercing scream.

And the thing is, they can change as they grow up, in surprising ways. Our quiet second baby turned out to be a real hell raiser of teen ager, and our outgoing first born girl is now a shy 16 year old. Except that she is a wonderful DJ.

and our six year old..broadway, look out. If i had to guess i would say they would all have dominant streaks. but who knows?

 

[jasonlf]

Ok this may be a little wrong...but I'm noticing some similarities in my relationship between Me and my toy, and my Son (2wks old) and me. I feel like he is my Master and I his slave. If I don't figure out what pleases him I'm rewarded with this ear piercing scream. He apparently has a breast fetish. I'm breastfeeding so it makes sense he would want to suck for food..but he likes to suck when he is obviously not eating and doesn't really like pacifiers (aka my sanity saver when my niples can take no more and his daddy is trying desperately to warm the bottle of pumped milk faster). He is demanding, and not always fair, but always loving. Any ideas what vanilla society would think of this thought?

If a baby crying when he doesn't get what he wants is a sign of a future dom, I think I've met a *lot* of future doms.

 

[tealsphynx]

If a baby crying when he doesn't get what he wants is a sign of a future dom, I think I've met a *lot* of future doms.

In one of the places my dad used to work I was, for the longest time, the only individual of legal babysitting age. Many of the families there had babies and very young todlers...sometimes I watched all of them at once (13 of them! omg never again!) yeah, seriously a whole room full of future dom/mes there. Not a pleasant working condition, esp when mommies all seemed to decide that strained prunes was best to feed their little darlings before leaving them with me....eeeeww!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Sounds like fairly standard baby behaviour....at that age they are sort of limited in how they communicate, and also will learn quickly how best to get the attention they want. Neither of mine would take bottles, and I personally banned pacifiers because of the health reasons and the desire to not have to go through the terrors of breaking the habit down the road.....a couple of people did experiment on them with pacifiers though and I was pleased both children spat them out and became agitated at any sign it was going to be forced back on them. As to future Dom or sub, I had one quiet one and one demanding one...the quiet baby became very independent and very capable of getting her own way and getting people to do almost anything she asks....the louder and very demanding baby and one which required around the clock attention is now the more passive, introverted, and prefers to not make any decisions or have any responsibility.

Catalina

 

[Guest]

Ok this may be a little wrong...but I'm noticing some similarities in my relationship between Me and my toy, and my Son (2wks old) and me. I feel like he is my Master and I his slave. If I don't figure out what pleases him I'm rewarded with this ear piercing scream. He apparently has a breast fetish. I'm breastfeeding so it makes sense he would want to suck for food..but he likes to suck when he is obviously not eating and doesn't really like pacifiers (aka my sanity saver when my niples can take no more and his daddy is trying desperately to warm the bottle of pumped milk faster). He is demanding, and not always fair, but always loving. Any ideas what vanilla society would think of this thought?

First child??????

 

[tealsphynx]

Yup. Lovely little boy too, looks just like daddy.

 

[CutieMouse]

You'll do fine. Actually I've had it commented to me after seeing me dealing with my children that I'd make a great Domme. I can't see myself as that- far too little confidence in that arena; I'm more comfy on the submissive side of things thanks ever so much.

Parenting is a huge cycle. At that age (teeny tiny) yes they run the show- as they should. As they grow the power exchange gradually (hopefully or else you have a universe of spoiled children) shifts until things go from the child being the "Dominant" to the parent being the "Dominant" and (IMO and again hopefully) to a place where you could almost classify the relationship as being a "Switch" as everyone grows, respects, communicates, and learns from each other.

Good luck with the baby. Expect growth spurts around 3 weeks, 6 weeks, and he'll get easily distracted while nursing about 4 months. (in other words right as you figure things out something changes )

 

[Guest]

Yup. Lovely little boy too, looks just like daddy.

ROFLMAO!!!!!

Enjoy it now..............It gets worse......Much worse.

 

[YinandYang]

Babies work mostly on instinct, and as they spent nine months in 'Mummies tummy' they will come out with the knowledge that you are their provider, nature and all that. It is possible to see different personalities taking shape from the word go, but as for dom and sub I don't think those traits would be apparent in a newborn. I have a boy and a girl, and in my experience my son was more 'needy' than my daughter, but now they are older, my son is now the one who bosses his elder sister around! You can never tell. Its different the world through. And its very possible your son may grow up to be neither a Dom or a Sub. He will be what he will be