Lately I've been kinda curious about cyber sex. I was wondering if I could get some opinions about it. Good, bad, boring, etc...how to go about finding someone to cyber with, what you're supposed to do. I really have no idea what it's all about, but I think I'd like to give it a shot and see why people do it. Thanks
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Good question.
I've done it just a couple of times and like in real life, it depends on the partner. But my general opinion, it's pretty boring. For me it suffers from the same problem I find in a lot of erotic writing, it looses the purpose for the act(s). A personal connection needs to be established.
I have had very stimulating and arousing conversations but they weren't in the conventional cybersex format. The grew over time.
Good luck.
I've done it just a couple of times and like in real life, it depends on the partner. But my general opinion, it's pretty boring. For me it suffers from the same problem I find in a lot of erotic writing, it looses the purpose for the act(s). A personal connection needs to be established.
I have had very stimulating and arousing conversations but they weren't in the conventional cybersex format. The grew over time.
Good luck.
asian cunny
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I agree with Mr.Neb, cybering can be a lot of fun and very stimulating, but it can also very boring. It all depends on the partner and the rapport between you.
I don't like guys without manners, who don't introduce themselves first but say: "Wanna cyber?" or "What are you wearing?" or "Spread it for me". Such unrefined speech. I tend to ignore them.
Gentlemen who are well mannered, kind and considerate are a come-on for me.
But then comes the sexual play itself, you have to be imaginative and innovative. Explain word for word what you'd like to do to your partner, and how you react to his/her ministrations. You can become adept at this by reading a lot of literotica. ;-))
An unimaginative partner is very boring. A partner who is experienced in real life can usually be more imaginative than a novice.
I guess you'll have to try it to see whether you like it. You can go to literotica's chatroom for that. I used to go there a lot, some time ago. For now I'm kind of fed up with cybering, as it tends to become repetitive and boring after a while. Well, I guess that nothing beats the real thing!
I don't like guys without manners, who don't introduce themselves first but say: "Wanna cyber?" or "What are you wearing?" or "Spread it for me". Such unrefined speech. I tend to ignore them.
Gentlemen who are well mannered, kind and considerate are a come-on for me.
But then comes the sexual play itself, you have to be imaginative and innovative. Explain word for word what you'd like to do to your partner, and how you react to his/her ministrations. You can become adept at this by reading a lot of literotica. ;-))
An unimaginative partner is very boring. A partner who is experienced in real life can usually be more imaginative than a novice.
I guess you'll have to try it to see whether you like it. You can go to literotica's chatroom for that. I used to go there a lot, some time ago. For now I'm kind of fed up with cybering, as it tends to become repetitive and boring after a while. Well, I guess that nothing beats the real thing!
Three Tips
Three tips:
1) Always ask 'em for the IRL age (and make sure they're over 18.)
2) Be careful! You have no idea how many freaky, homsexuals will masquerade as women!
3) Make sure to not "spill" yourself on the keyboard or on your clothes. (Believe me. It's happened and it's a bizz-natch to clean up.
)
Three tips:
1) Always ask 'em for the IRL age (and make sure they're over 18.)
2) Be careful! You have no idea how many freaky, homsexuals will masquerade as women!
3) Make sure to not "spill" yourself on the keyboard or on your clothes. (Believe me. It's happened and it's a bizz-natch to clean up.
)
ShyGuy68
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Ok I have to give my 2 ¢ here.
First when I started to chat on the net, I had my bad spells where I went specifically after cybersex.
Now I'm much more choosy about who I do it with. I really do prefer to have more of a relationship, than just the cybering.
In my opinion, that is possible, and I have had some of those relationships on-line, and still have, where we talk about much more.
And when you really know each other, it's also more interesting to cyber, because you know what the other persons turn on's are, and what "buttons" to push.
I agree with that you need a good imagination, and the ability to paint a mental picture/sitution, to get your partner into the mood.
But as for being experienced in real life, well I know for a fact that that is not nessecary. I read a lot of erotica, and listened and remembered what I've heard from my cyber partners, and have learned from them.
Well that was just my opinion.
ShyGuy
First when I started to chat on the net, I had my bad spells where I went specifically after cybersex.
Now I'm much more choosy about who I do it with. I really do prefer to have more of a relationship, than just the cybering.
In my opinion, that is possible, and I have had some of those relationships on-line, and still have, where we talk about much more.
And when you really know each other, it's also more interesting to cyber, because you know what the other persons turn on's are, and what "buttons" to push.
asian cunny said:
I agree with that you need a good imagination, and the ability to paint a mental picture/sitution, to get your partner into the mood.
But as for being experienced in real life, well I know for a fact that that is not nessecary. I read a lot of erotica, and listened and remembered what I've heard from my cyber partners, and have learned from them.
Well that was just my opinion.
ShyGuy
Ezzie
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I've only tried cyber sex a few times and just couldn't get into it. I dunno, maybe it's my surroundings or my computer but something about a 4 year old screaming for water or getting knocked off line kills the mood. Tis the price you pay for being a single mother and having a Packard Bell/AOL combination. hehehehe
And anyway, I have a hard time saying(or typing) the P and D words and the words penis and vagina aren't all that sexy. lol
Ezzie http://smilecwm.tripod.com/fk/witch.gif
And anyway, I have a hard time saying(or typing) the P and D words and the words penis and vagina aren't all that sexy. lol
Ezzie http://smilecwm.tripod.com/fk/witch.gif
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Pussy, pussy, pussy! Dick, dick, dick!
Hey Ezzie, wanna cyber baby? I know the ankle biter isn't there now! http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm/la.gif http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm/la.gif http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm/la.gif Or, better yet... Wanna cum over? We can set up a web cam and let our fellow Lit friends watch!
Hey Ezzie, wanna cyber baby? I know the ankle biter isn't there now! http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm/la.gif http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm/la.gif http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm/la.gif Or, better yet... Wanna cum over? We can set up a web cam and let our fellow Lit friends watch!
Ezzie said:
I have the same problem. I have only had cyber sex a few times. The problems are that my son wakes up, phone rings, someone shows up, or my server boots me.
It also scares me to think, that in reality I have no clue as to who I am actually chatting with. How do you know someone especialy in a chat room that you have only just met?
I think that if I would have known the person better it probably would be a bit better. But only a bit, the best relationships are those that you know and consider a good friend.
I do have to say thou that the ppl I have chatted with did have some maners.
[Edited by dusk2dawn on 07-18-2000 at 10:52 PM]
Re: Pussy, pussy, pussy! Dick, dick, dick!
I would watch!
Tiggs said:Hey Ezzie, wanna cyber baby? I know the ankle biter isn't there now! http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm/la.gif http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm/la.gif http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm/la.gif Or, better yet... Wanna cum over? We can set up a web cam and let our fellow Lit friends watch!
I would watch!
Endlessly
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I'd watch too, dammit.
You know, I've never really been into the whole cybersex deal.. I mean, fer crying out loud, when I'm not on the BB here I'm usually in the best BDSM chat room around, the Hidden Chamber at The Park. But even there, back when Himself was my Master, I think we only ended up scening once. Why? Because watching other people scene bored us, and we thought we'd bore other people. (we got a ton of compliments, however, so we were wrong. He went off to boot camp the next day though.)
I do remember the first time I ever did cyber though; I had always thought of cyber as probably being boring and anything but stimulating.. Himself knew that, too. He and I were talking about sex, more specifically, about whether we thought we were going to have sex the next time we saw eachother. I mentioned something flirtatious about teaching him the ins and outs of a two-person orgy, and with alot of flattery and flirtation he wheedled me into a student-teacher roleplaying sort of environment. It was sexy and tons of fun.. As has been stated above, it's best with some sort of connection. It doesn't hurt if your partner is a serious writer, either.
You know, I've never really been into the whole cybersex deal.. I mean, fer crying out loud, when I'm not on the BB here I'm usually in the best BDSM chat room around, the Hidden Chamber at The Park. But even there, back when Himself was my Master, I think we only ended up scening once. Why? Because watching other people scene bored us, and we thought we'd bore other people. (we got a ton of compliments, however, so we were wrong. He went off to boot camp the next day though.)
I do remember the first time I ever did cyber though; I had always thought of cyber as probably being boring and anything but stimulating.. Himself knew that, too. He and I were talking about sex, more specifically, about whether we thought we were going to have sex the next time we saw eachother. I mentioned something flirtatious about teaching him the ins and outs of a two-person orgy, and with alot of flattery and flirtation he wheedled me into a student-teacher roleplaying sort of environment. It was sexy and tons of fun.. As has been stated above, it's best with some sort of connection. It doesn't hurt if your partner is a serious writer, either.
LadyChance
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I have cybered a few times and enjoy it but with someone I know. Not personally of course but someone who has takin' time out to get to know who I am, and not what I am wearing or what I look like. I mean do you realize this is a computer its not like you can't use your imagination and picture what you what or who you want.
It's a big turn off to have someone come on to me within' the first three lines of conversation, but to have someone get to know me and then allow me to get to know them. Then I know what he likes and he the same about me.
So when you do cyber just remember the person on the other end is a person they can give pleasure but they have to know who you are or at least what to do with you once they get you. Anyway that's just my thoughts.
Good Luck and Have Fun.
It's a big turn off to have someone come on to me within' the first three lines of conversation, but to have someone get to know me and then allow me to get to know them. Then I know what he likes and he the same about me.
So when you do cyber just remember the person on the other end is a person they can give pleasure but they have to know who you are or at least what to do with you once they get you. Anyway that's just my thoughts.
Good Luck and Have Fun.
How to...
Well, this is my first post, so we'll see what I can do here *smyle*
I don't personally like it all that much, but if you are looking for a partner, here's what I suggest:
Be polite, ask how s/he is doing first, and get accquanted with the person.
Ask if they have any special fetishes. Not only does this allow you to see if they like anything special that you do, but it also allows you to steer clear of the people who are a little too kinky for ya
Use REAL language. IE: "How are you?" instead of "How r u?"
And finally, (mainly if you are a guy), if you orgasm while typing one handed, for the sake of the lady don't log off immediately. I've only cybered twice and both guys did that. Hmph. I'm not saying all guys do that though
Hope I was helpfull
--Kayotika
Well, this is my first post, so we'll see what I can do here *smyle*
I don't personally like it all that much, but if you are looking for a partner, here's what I suggest:
Be polite, ask how s/he is doing first, and get accquanted with the person.
Ask if they have any special fetishes. Not only does this allow you to see if they like anything special that you do, but it also allows you to steer clear of the people who are a little too kinky for ya
Use REAL language. IE: "How are you?" instead of "How r u?"
And finally, (mainly if you are a guy), if you orgasm while typing one handed, for the sake of the lady don't log off immediately. I've only cybered twice and both guys did that. Hmph. I'm not saying all guys do that though
Hope I was helpfull
--Kayotika
Big Willie
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if you are really interesting in cyber check out http://www.adultchatnetwork.com thats probably your best bet. mostly you pick it up on the way. hell i did. its dead simple really just do what everyone else does. even the sounds there are cool/funny
cheers
Big Will
cheers
Big Will
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Cybersex can be incredibly erotic, but only with the right players....you have to visualize, feel....smell...As several women have already observed in their posts, its important to get to know the person as a person. The "wanna fuck" routine is best left for 16 years olds. After being on-line for 5 1/2 years, however, almost all cyber has become one dimensional - flat. There are a very few special friends who play....but infrequently. The chemistry has to be right. Good cyber, like good real time lovemaking depends on the chemistry of the moment and the feelings two people share.
Someone (the author escapes me) wrote a book entitled "The Joy of Cybersex."
Someone (the author escapes me) wrote a book entitled "The Joy of Cybersex."
