A guy who wants to tell his girlfriend he's bi

[Missouribiguy]

Hey all,

I have been thinking about getting back into writing erotica, but of late, I've been a bit iffy on the subject. Lately, however, I've been thinking about doing a story about a bisexual man who tells his girlfriend that he's into guys.

So, what suggestions would you offer? Should the man be a virgin and wants to play around with his gf's approval? Or perhaps, the guy had already has a sexual experience with a man, and decides to come clean to his girlfriend?

 

[Missouribiguy]

So, you all don't have nothing

 

[chocolatecookie3]

I just wrote a story in that vein! It's in my submissions if you want to read it. I can't think of any good variations. Maybe the gf sets him up for a night of sex with a guy and watches?

 

[MyRubiLips]

Hey all,

I have been thinking about getting back into writing erotica, but of late, I've been a bit iffy on the subject. Lately, however, I've been thinking about doing a story about a bisexual man who tells his girlfriend that he's into guys.

So, what suggestions would you offer? Should the man be a virgin and wants to play around with his gf's approval? Or perhaps, the guy had already has a sexual experience with a man, and decides to come clean to his girlfriend?

So, you all don't have nothing

I must start with a question of my own. What interest do you have in this? Are you bi? In a relationship with a woman, and if so does she know? Etc. It would be easier to offer up ideas/suggestions if we know where your interests lie!

 

[Missouribiguy]

I must start with a question of my own. What interest do you have in this? Are you bi? In a relationship with a woman, and if so does she know? Etc. It would be easier to offer up ideas/suggestions if we know where your interests lie!

Ok, I shoot.

I am currently single, but open to finding a relationship with a man or woman (more leaning toward the later). Technically, I fall inbetween the bi-curious to not sure line, though I attracted to both sexes, so I guess I am definately classified as bisexual. I am also a virgin to both, so most of what I think about could be just fantasty, though I am open to actually having sex with a another man.

Also, I am open to the idea that once the relationship gets to the point of being serious, I would like to tell him or her that I have these urges for the opposite/same sex. I prefer to go with a male/female couple and maybe explore the trials and tribulations when he decides to come out to her.

Case in point, I was thinking about either going with the idea that he had no previous male to male encounters and feels he has miss out. Maybe, I could play up her fantasty of two men together, and see what could happen.

So, since I open up a bit, what would you guys think would work?

 

[SwitchMami]

Knowing

Well, I actually have experience in this area!

My lover is bisexual, and also the father of my child.

We hooked up initially because neither of us wanted a serious relationship, and realized shortly in that we enjoyed being together, and stayed that way.
One night, pre-coitus, we were discussing fantasies and different things that turned us on, and he told me he had this one story he'd like to tell me.
He went on to tell me this really hot story about this couple that met at a party and were making out and everything, and this guy found out this person he was attracted to was another guy.
He admitted, after a lot of prodding on my part, that it was a true story, and that he was trying to gauge how I felt about bisexuality.
Anyway, it lead up to really hot sex for us, and not I get his take on guys, and ask him for tips, or give HIM tips ...

All in all, it worked.

 

[Missouribiguy]

Well, I actually have experience in this area!

My lover is bisexual, and also the father of my child.

We hooked up initially because neither of us wanted a serious relationship, and realized shortly in that we enjoyed being together, and stayed that way.
One night, pre-coitus, we were discussing fantasies and different things that turned us on, and he told me he had this one story he'd like to tell me.
He went on to tell me this really hot story about this couple that met at a party and were making out and everything, and this guy found out this person he was attracted to was another guy.
He admitted, after a lot of prodding on my part, that it was a true story, and that he was trying to gauge how I felt about bisexuality.
Anyway, it lead up to really hot sex for us, and not I get his take on guys, and ask him for tips, or give HIM tips ...

All in all, it worked.

Nice


I wanted to try to tell the story from a guy who begin his relationship with a woman, but cannot deny his bisexual desires, which he failed to act on for many bullshit reasons. Once the two starts to get more into and enjoy each other, the man feels the urge to tell her about his fantasties, not knowing how she would fully react (his GF would be for gay rights, and even homosexual friends, but he isn't sure how she would feel about a boyfriend who thinks men are hot).

Honestly, i want to make the first part mostly a story between the two, with the scenerio that woman not only accepts her boyfriend's bisexual idenity, but also helps him explore his desires. I definately play up the drama of the guy's phlight, especially since I am a bi-virgin (currently single, but i will tell my SO the truth no matter what, if the relationship is a keeper).

 

[chocolatecookie3]

I love the idea of focusing on the angst of wanting to tell the girlfriend but not knowing how she will react. Maybe they are watching porn, and he admits he gets aroused by the men too?

On a personal note, I think you will find girls who like bisexual men and are open to you playing with them!

 

[Missouribiguy]

I love the idea of focusing on the angst of wanting to tell the girlfriend but not knowing how she will react. Maybe they are watching porn, and he admits he gets aroused by the men too?

On a personal note, I think you will find girls who like bisexual men and are open to you playing with them!

Hell, I could go a step further, and have him purposely slip in a bisexual porno.

I definately want to make some realistic tension between the two.

Any other suggestions for a good romp?

 

[BuckyDuckman]

You have the seed of an idea without fleshing it out. In your seed of an idea, I believe you have a feeling for who the guy is and whom the woman happens to be. The wonder of fiction, however, would be how those people can change. Imagine the happily married couple of 10 years where the hubby had this thing happen to him with another guy before they met. Contrast that against the new couple where the guy has been active with other men for a long time. What I mean is, how the guy comes to be aware of his other needs is as important as anything else.

Just as important becomes why he feels the need to tell her. Full disclosure? Because he wants her to join in? Because he wants her to understand why he's going to gay bars and jerking off to gay porn? Because he wants her to fool around with other guys so she can come home with a pussy full of cum for him to suck?

I think your seed is too small to inspire the people in this forum to offer suggestions. Either flesh it out with details about the people involved or borrow from the suggestions I've made so far. Your sexuality doesn't matter. Pick a direction and explore it from there.

 

[Missouribiguy]

You have the seed of an idea without fleshing it out. In your seed of an idea, I believe you have a feeling for who the guy is and whom the woman happens to be. The wonder of fiction, however, would be how those people can change. Imagine the happily married couple of 10 years where the hubby had this thing happen to him with another guy before they met. Contrast that against the new couple where the guy has been active with other men for a long time. What I mean is, how the guy comes to be aware of his other needs is as important as anything else.

Just as important becomes why he feels the need to tell her. Full disclosure? Because he wants her to join in? Because he wants her to understand why he's going to gay bars and jerking off to gay porn? Because he wants her to fool around with other guys so she can come home with a pussy full of cum for him to suck?

I think your seed is too small to inspire the people in this forum to offer suggestions. Either flesh it out with details about the people involved or borrow from the suggestions I've made so far. Your sexuality doesn't matter. Pick a direction and explore it from there.

Ok, so I guess I have to pick one, don't I?

I think most of it is probably partly full disclosure and the other would be she caught him in the act or so.

How does this scenerio sound to you? Our male character (the couple will be in their mid 30's/early 40's) has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for a two year period and he wants her to ask him to marry him. However, he had a secret, his first sexual encounter, which happen a year before he met his girlfriend/fiance was with another man, and he can't shake the feeling it gave him. he enjoyed the act, and wanted to try it again, but he loves his girlfriend, and don't want to cheat on her. Plus, on top of that, he thinks he should come clean about these desires because it would make them come together, though he fears that it could pull them apart, and he just wants to be honest to her. I mean, when you have a secret, wouldn't you want to share it?

I might have it that she discovers gay porn and/or sexy chats to another man on his computer, and she confront the boyfriend. He decides to come clean and tells her the whole story about his first time. Of course, I would play the good scenerio, having it revealed that she enjoy male to male erotica and has thought about it.

 

[BuckyDuckman]

Ok, so I guess I have to pick one, don't I?

I think most of it is probably partly full disclosure and the other would be she caught him in the act or so.

How does this scenerio sound to you? Our male character (the couple will be in their mid 30's/early 40's) has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for a two year period and he wants her to ask him to marry him. However, he had a secret, his first sexual encounter, which happen a year before he met his girlfriend/fiance was with another man, and he can't shake the feeling it gave him. he enjoyed the act, and wanted to try it again, but he loves his girlfriend, and don't want to cheat on her. Plus, on top of that, he thinks he should come clean about these desires because it would make them come together, though he fears that it could pull them apart, and he just wants to be honest to her. I mean, when you have a secret, wouldn't you want to share it?

I might have it that she discovers gay porn and/or sexy chats to another man on his computer, and she confront the boyfriend. He decides to come clean and tells her the whole story about his first time. Of course, I would play the good scenerio, having it revealed that she enjoy male to male erotica and has thought about it.

Your story, you can take it any direction you want. But the act of writing (for me) is also the act of discovering. Especially if I have a good handle on the people/characters involved. It's imagining how she's going to take it that makes the writing fun. Maybe she's secretly into bi-guys? Maybe it's a fantasy of hers? What if she discovers his stash of gay porn, masturbates to it, and she's as eager as he is for the reveal? Or, what if she's never considered the idea before until he says something?

There can be a perk in being a bi-guy for the woman - namely, twice as much dick. How sexy/romantic could it be to play tongue tag around the shaft of another man with the man/woman you love?

I still think you have a budding seed of a good idea that can go in so many different directions. I've written several stories that deal with similar topics. Maybe she's turned on by the idea of her man being submissive (and a potential cuckold) and she likes the idea of seeing him on his knees with a big dick in his mouth, making it ready for her? Maybe she delights in how hard it makes him and enjoys the teasing? Or, maybe she wants to humiliate him and enjoy teasing him about how he's less than a real man because he likes to suck dick, too?

Or maybe you're story will be about how afraid he is to tell her and how she doesn't care. If that's what he likes, she's fine with it. She wants to share it with him. "How can I help?" is her attitude and she straps on a dildo for him? Or she blows him and kisses him with a mouthful of his spunk?

Again... all seeds, my friend. Good luck with your imagination! Start writing - keep it as real as you can - and see where it takes you!

 

[Missouribiguy]

Ok, here's a tasty scenerio:

The girlfriend discovers the boyfriend's stace of gay porn magazines and DVDs. While she is shocked by it at first, she watches one of the DVD's and finds herself being very aroused by the movie. She decides to see if her boyfriend would open up to her, and leaves the porn out for him to find it.

To add some tension, I would have how the guy has wanted to tell her, but he didn't know how to make it know. So, when he comes home (they are live-ins) and finds his porn stash out in the open, he realizes she already knows, but decides to play it cool.

That's my current idea, does it sound pretty good, or could I try to add more to it?

 

[BuckyDuckman]

Ok, here's a tasty scenerio:

The girlfriend discovers the boyfriend's stace of gay porn magazines and DVDs. While she is shocked by it at first, she watches one of the DVD's and finds herself being very aroused by the movie. She decides to see if her boyfriend would open up to her, and leaves the porn out for him to find it.

To add some tension, I would have how the guy has wanted to tell her, but he didn't know how to make it know. So, when he comes home (they are live-ins) and finds his porn stash out in the open, he realizes she already knows, but decides to play it cool.

That's my current idea, does it sound pretty good, or could I try to add more to it?

I think you've got it. Tell the story! No reason to add to it, especially if you're going to include the sex. Let us know when it's posted so we can all read it!

 

[Missouribiguy]

I think you've got it. Tell the story! No reason to add to it, especially if you're going to include the sex. Let us know when it's posted so we can all read it!

Cool, I got a story going, woohoo!

Still, I am trying to decided a title for this thing. I was thinking something "Thou Shall Not Fear" or maybe the less mysterious "His Gay Porn Stash".

 

[BuckyDuckman]

Cool, I got a story going, woohoo!

Still, I am trying to decided a title for this thing. I was thinking something "Thou Shall Not Fear" or maybe the less mysterious "His Gay Porn Stash".

Personally, I'd go for the direct method. One of my better stories has a really crappy name: "Needlepoint and Cream Pie."

 

[Missouribiguy]

Personally, I'd go for the direct method. One of my better stories has a really crappy name: "Needlepoint and Cream Pie."

Ok, "His Gay Porn Stash" sounds way better. I get started working on it sooner later.