A guy not getting hard from oral?

[Guest]

This happened to me and my boyfriend today. Well, not the first time. He's a new partner, and maybe it's just nerves? We talk about everything and he says my technique is fine (and he would tell me if he wanted something I wasn't doing or vice versa) and we can't figure out what the deal is.

I really like this man and I want to please him...any ideas how we can help him relax or what might be going on?

 

[perks]

not the first time?

Did you give him time to recuperate?

 

[Guest]

I mean not the first time oral hasn't "done it" for him. He hadn't cum even once yet. It's not that he can't get an erection, just not from that...he can't figure it out either.

 

[InnocentAngel81]

i hate when that happens i feel so bad

 

[glamorilla]

It's kinda blunt but you should stick something up his butt.

Never fails.

 

[glamorilla]

Not that I've ever had to.

I just do that for fun.

 

[solid_]

It's kinda blunt but you should stick something up his butt.

Never fails.

*LOL*

 

[perks]

glam's right. The boy needs a shocker.

 

[glamorilla]

It doesn't have to be a shocker...just while your blowing him make sure to use your hands and fingers and take care of him.

 

[perks]

lmao, I was just talking something different, not a crazy OMG I've just been violated kind of thing.<giggle>

I'm not THAT bad.

 

[glamorilla]

Break out a 12 inch dildo and that boy's eyes'll be popping out!

 

[perks]

Break out a 12 inch dildo and that boy's eyes'll be popping out!

lol... HAAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

 

[Siren]

Just Blow on him

 

[Sillyman]

Do you have any problem with tooth scrapeage? The mild pain can cause a guy to lose his erection. He might not be noticing.

 

[freakygirl]

When my boyfriend and I first got together, I started to go down on him and he said "don't waste your time honey. It does nothing for me". I said.. "I can try, if it doesn't I won't try again" he said "ok, but please don't think it's you if nothing happens. No woman I've ever been with has been able to get me hard by giving me a blow job, they just don't turn me on".

I tried..

I succeeded

My moral to this story.. some men are NOT turned on by blow jobs. It might be your technique or it might be something he just does NOT enjoy. Don't fret about it. Find something else that turns him on.

 

[glamorilla]

The girl already said she had good technique so she should know that a little scrapage applied just ever so lightly along the head could send the poor guy into a 30 second spasm.

 

[Guest]

You guys are funny. I needed a laugh. I'm NOT sticking anything up his butt. I don't want anything up MY butt.

He likes oral, and he says it's not me, it's just no how do we say working this time.

 

[SleepingWarrior]

Maybe the guys cock just isn't that sensitive or he doesn't enjoy oral as some of the others have said. Personally I have had the same problem (kind of). I get hard to start out with but it loses that stiffness as the oral progresses because I'm not real sensitive to that kind of attention.

 

[Silverluna]

Well....what i heard helps is to play with his balls? You don't have to press anything up his no no place.....just ...well pump the organ? (hehe)

Or try just running your teeth over him.....(NOT actual biting...just...a tease)
Like some have said...some men just don't get off on it...

 

[glamorilla]

Are you taking care of the rest of his body?

I mean it's not like you put it in your mouth and let it sit there. A man's thighs,behind his kness,his side and especially his chest are all sensitive areas that need to be taken care of as well.

 

[Guest]

I know a woman who could take the chrome off a trailer hitch ball,
he well either get hard and cum or she will suck his balls out the head of his dick!

 

[glamorilla]

Either way it's a challenge!

 

[ScarlettRose]

i think an important question is is he getting an erection at all? or is it just oral that's a problem?

 

[DevilBoy79]

unfortunatly had this happen before, stress can cause a guy not to get hard, which so sucks for both people involved especially when both parties enjoy oral giving and recieving

 

[gothedistance]

It's fairly rare that I cum from oral. Not that I don't enjoy it, I absolutely love it. Just doesn't do it for me the same. Cumming isn't always the point.