"A Good Wifes Guide"

[cati]

A Good Wifes Guide​

This article appeared in one of the popular ladies journals of 1955. (Good Housekeeping) I think. All you need to do is change wife to sub or slave and presto change-o, you have a perfect example of today's submissive.

1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people.

3. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

4. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

5. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc. and then run a dust cloth over the tables.

6. Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

7. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

8. Be happy to see him.

9. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

10. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first–remember his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

11. Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

12. Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

13. Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.

14. Don’t complain if he’s late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

15. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. -

16. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

17. Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

18. A good wife always knows her place.


The only one I have a problem with is #14. Any opinions?

 

[chris9]

A Good Wifes Guide​

This article appeared in one of the popular ladies journals of 1955. (Good Housekeeping) I think. All you need to do is change wife to sub or slave and presto change-o, you have a perfect example of today's submissive.

1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people.

3. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

4. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

5. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc. and then run a dust cloth over the tables.

6. Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

7. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

8. Be happy to see him.

9. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

10. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first–remember his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

11. Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

12. Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

13. Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.

14. Don’t complain if he’s late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

15. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. -

16. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

17. Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

18. A good wife always knows her place.


The only one I have a problem with is #14. Any opinions?

Now I know why feminism was born...

I have a problem with # 10. My topics are just as important and sometimes more so than his.
# 4+5 made me laugh... My man most certainly won't notice these...

Besides, this only works for subs/slave that can be housekeepers. At the moment I'm often home after him. And having some food ready is job of the one home earlier. There are just some things I can't see happening in my relationship, whether D/s or not...

BUT this is probably the answer to a question around some time ago, what a 1950's household means as a BDSM term.

 

[graceanne]

Now I know why feminism was born...

LOL I agree. I can also see why some men strayed. I don't know about other guys, but if I didn't get pissed at Kenny for going places without me, or coming home late he'd think I didn't love him, or was loosing interest. But otherwise it's pretty cool.

edited to add: 'Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.'? And taking care of three screaming, whining, needy children is less than what he's gone through? Don't get me started.

 

[chris9]

LOL I agree. I can also see why some men strayed. I don't know about other guys, but if I didn't get pissed at Kenny for going places without me, or coming home late he'd think I didn't love him, or was loosing interest. But otherwise it's pretty cool.

edited to add: 'Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.'? And taking care of three screaming, whining, needy children is less than what he's gone through? Don't get me started.

As long as you get them clean and quiet when he returns...

 

[graceanne]

As long as you get them clean and quiet when he returns...

*snorts* My children, quiet?

Has hell frozen over yet? He's lucky if they're clean.

 

[raven2]

*snorts* My children, quiet?

Has hell frozen over yet? He's lucky if they're clean.

I really do find articles like this amusing. I have seen similar ones before and they really do give you food for thought (if you haven't got it ready on the table).

1, 2 and 10 are what get me. My wife and I have been married for almost 27 years and I can think of a few times when I have come home to a cooked meal, but not very often (1/2 the time she is later than I am). As to taking a few minutes to refresh herself for me .... LOL. And listening, I usually do it for her. But that is the way things go now as oppsed to 50 years ago.

 

[graceanne]

Actually . . . my mother in law gave me a lot of this advice. About having the kids clean, the house clean, and freshening myself. Know what? I wash the kids in the morning, and before they go to bed. If they're really nasty I might wash em again, quickly. I get dressed in the morning, brush my hair etc. I still look exactly the same in the evening, mostly cause I don't wear makeup during the day. And he wouldn't want me to, he likes me without makeup. And I clean the house all day. Their is very few moments that I'm not cleaning or making the kids clean. If things aren't perfect when he gets home, he's fine with that, as long as it's not a pig sty. And even then he's ok with it, cause hek nows that if the house is dirty that I'm not feeling well.

As for conversation, I would LOVE if he'd talk to me more. I say 'how was your day' he says 'fine' I say 'anything interesting happen' he says 'no'. Later on I usualy find out (from my mother in law) that something happened, but he's the worlds most UNcommunicative person. grr

 

[rosco rathbone]

It's an ideal to be striven for. I like the overall vibe.

 

[graceanne]

It's an ideal to be striven for. I like the overall vibe.

I like the overall vibe, I just think some of it is unrealistic.

 

[seth6138]

cati, where were u 25 yrs ago when i decided to get married?

 

[FurryFury]

OMG!!!!

LMAO!!!

1.) Nope he cooks.

2.) He says he prefers me without make up and hair down.

3.) Yay! I'm a "little gay!" (I'm usually cheerful too!)

4.) It's his clutter, if I touch it he bitches.

5.) The kids are the ones who should take care of school books and toys, in fact they also dust!

6.) A fire? Oh yeah, I'll light a fire but it won't provide any rest and it won't be in the damn fireplace!

7.) No problem on the washer, dryer or vacuum. I use those as little as possible anyway. The kids have to wash their own damn faces. Geez! I do tend to keep things quiet. HE is the noisy one.

8.) I'm always happy to see him, unless he is where I don't expect him to be. (Like in the basement, at my elbow, at three in the morning, while I'm trying to wash sheets that have been vomited on and he suddenly isn't in bed like he's supposed to be but is SPEAKING in MY EAR! At times like that I do SCREAM!)

9.) This is a done deal, I always do that shit!

10.) I listen, sort of. Well, sometimes I do. Shiiiit that man can TALK ad naseum about anything and everything but mostly about something I don't fucking care about. Sometimes, it's true that I only look like I'm listening. Or I listen just enough to make a few points so he knows I heard him then tune him out as he goes on and on about some inane thing while I need to be working.

11.) Never complain? Hahaha! I rarely do but damn! If he has a very real need to be home and relax he shouldn't be out at the clubs with those whores! Ha! (My man prefers to be home, wailing on his ax, sucking on that electronic dick or what have you. I ain't got no complaints there.)

12.) My goal is pretty freaking realized. *grins*

13.) Haven't we covered this one already??? *sigh*

14.) WTF??? Riiight. Hold on to that thought.

15.) God, my husband would plotz if I pulled that shit on him. He rarely even sits down. He likes to pace.

16.) Yep, I got all dat pillow shit cause he sure can't make his pillow right but his shoes? Naw, man, he keeps those on. My voice is so soothing that when I was refusing to speak because I was in danger of losing it, he was upset. Aww! Course he also knows when I'm pissed I say noffin. I just clean the shit up and leave! *snort giggles*

17.) Excuuuse me? He is always going to exercise fairness and truthfulness. Hahaha! I guess he done become a God his self because humans just don't work that way! How am I supposed to know anything if I don't ask questions? That is just messed up to me!

18.) Oh I know my places! Hehehe! I know them and hold them dear and so does he! *grins* He wouldn't have it any other way either.

Fury

 

[chris9]

Fury, that post needs a spew alert very badly.
Especially # 6.

 

[chris9]

In regards to # 1: Does he really want to have his favorite dish every night? And I'm at a complete loss to say what his favorite is...

And did anyone else notice this:

They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

Now, are the children little treasures or do they play being little treasures? Or should only dad think they are?

 

[cati]

Seth...

Chuckling, I hope you don't think that I endorse this article...sheesh. We didn't have kids 25 years ago. But I was the one who stayed up to greet him and make him something special (occasionally) when he worked the afternoon shift. Sometimes he wouldn't come home until late, having worked over time. Whatever it was I had made was already cold or ruined and I went to bed tired of waiting for him. A man should always call if he's going to be late. If he doesn't come home at all, forget it...trouble on the homefront.

I'm not much of a housekeeper then or now. When the boys were toddlers, I would straighten the house, pick up their toys before the hubby got home, so that things were half assed presentable. I would start dinner while he relaxed and "played" with the kids.

Take off his shoes and rub his feet...you're kidding right? I got miffed when he asked me to shine his shoes.
In the early years of our marriage, I might have put on fresh makeup, maybe a dab of cologne.
That was my first marriage. I spose I'm still trying to get it right this second time around.... laffs.

#12. Ok so lets get a little mellow with a little mood music... perform a little yoga to relax. Get into the lotus position (cause that's the only one I know).
Draw a tranquil "Calgon" bath and hope that it takes him away.

 

[FurryFury]

Sorry Chris, I didn't mean to make ya spew!

Oh and my first marriage was very different. I got up before he did and went to bed afterwards, so I could look "perfect" for him. I cooked, cleaned, ironed and put him through law school. I wore sexy gear every night, not that it did me any damn good. He was NEVER happy with ANYTHING! He was in charge too, in a very non consent way. Well, look what happened, he got me pregnant when he wanted to then left.

The 50's dream didn't work for me. Ah well, thank God there are other dreams! (Like dancing on his grave.) *Smiles sweetly*

Fury

 

[cati]

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I hear ya furry girl. Chalk it up as experience.


When I think about this "guide" it really isn't too fantastic. Most of us prolly do 75% these things without giving it a second thought. We may try to be the perfect partner most of the time but we are human afterall and prone to life's usual stressors.

1) I plan ahead or try to. Most of the time I make what he likes, unless its bisquits with cream gravy or some other Mid-Western delicacy and then I'll pass.

2) Get made up 'cause I look so plain and crappy without it. But even my face needs a breather *s

3) Lively..who can stand such an upbeat broad?

4) Clear clutter maybe once a week.

5) Forget the dust cloth. But I think about doing it often. *s

6) We have two fireplaces. I get complete satisfaction when I lite the woodburning stove...as he doesn't have a clue.

7) Meh. I tend to vacuum at strange hours.

8) Define thrilled.... Hey I smile, what more can I say?

9) No choice but to listen.

10) The only place I let him go without reserve is a strip club. Most times I ask to go too. Dinner with buds or workmates np... just remember to bring home the doggie bag.

11) Buy Calgon bath stuff and give his head a good soak.

12) Do not, not come home.

13) Points to the Dom-o-lounger...aka. recliner.

14) He doesn't like his feet rubbed. He's very very sensitive.

15) I can only hope that he continues to be fair and truthful.
Truth like trust is relative.

16) Yeah, I occasionally splurge and buy him a small stash of the smelly stuff.

My responses here, don't seem to match the points above....DOH.

 

[raven2]

Sorry Chris, I didn't mean to make ya spew!

Oh and my first marriage was very different. I got up before he did and went to bed afterwards, so I could look "perfect" for him. I cooked, cleaned, ironed and put him through law school. I wore sexy gear every night, not that it did me any damn good. He was NEVER happy with ANYTHING! He was in charge too, in a very non consent way. Well, look what happened, he got me pregnant when he wanted to then left.

The 50's dream didn't work for me. Ah well, thank God there are other dreams! (Like dancing on his grave.) *Smiles sweetly*

Fury

Yes and many of them are so much better *slowly picks up flogger*

 

[Blushing Bottom]

LMAO
Watchya brewing here, Stepford Subs?

A Good Wifes Guide​

This article appeared in one of the popular ladies journals of 1955. (Good Housekeeping) I think. All you need to do is change wife to sub or slave and presto change-o, you have a perfect example of today's submissive.

1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people.

3. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

4. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

5. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc. and then run a dust cloth over the tables.

6. Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

7. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

8. Be happy to see him.

9. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

10. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first–remember his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

11. Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

12. Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

13. Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.

14. Don’t complain if he’s late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

15. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. -

16. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

17. Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

18. A good wife always knows her place.


The only one I have a problem with is #14. Any opinions?

 

[rosco rathbone]

I like the overall vibe, I just think some of it is unrealistic.

Definitely unrealistic, especially if she works or you have kids or both. It's the attitude that counts.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

It's the attitude that counts.

Attitude is 90% IMHO

 

[rosco rathbone]

Attitude is 90% IMHO

Fer sure.

Even if she doesn't always know her place, reminding her is about 100% of the fun.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Fer sure.

Even if she doesn't always know her place, reminding her is about 100% of the fun.

 

[graceanne]

This article appeared in one of the popular ladies journals of 1955. (Good Housekeeping) I think. All you need to do is change wife to sub or slave and presto change-o, you have a perfect example of today's submissive.

1. I try - I really do. But I normally don't eat, so I forget other people want to eat, and I forget to thaw meat. I normally am doing a quick thaw and making dinner as he watches TV.

2. Rest? What's that? Have I mentioned I have a hyperactive 2 year old? I get dressed in the morning, do my hair and brush my teeth, and he's lucky I get that done.

3. If he's that bored, he can stay home for a day with the two year old, and I'll go to work - bet he won't complain about being bored anymore.

4. Once again - I try. But I try that all day.

5. see number 4

6. can I echo what fury said here?

7. Cleaning my children makes them have the uncontrolable urge to play in mud. They get wiped down in the morning, and baths at night. I give up otherwise.

8. always. Unless he's just done a number 14.

9. same here

10. I wish he'd talk to me. grr

11. In his dreams. He goes out without me, or is late without letting me know their will be hell to pay. And he woudln't have it any other way - it's how he knows that I notice what he does and care.

12. *laughs hysterically* Did I mention the hyperactive 2 year old?

13. I try here, too. I really make it a goal to hug him and kiss him and ask how his day was before I unload on him about his stupid Y chromosone, and what our son did that day.

14. In his dreams.

15. Or let him watch TV while I make dinner.

16. He can take of his own shoes. On the other hand, offering to take them would get me an interesting look. hehe

17. Yeah. And while we're at it lets bow down and call him God. He's human, he's gonna fuck up, and sometimes the only way he'll know he's fucked up is if I point it out to him.

18. A good wife always knows her place.