A few questions...

[theshadow]

Okay, I have no problems admitting that Im still a virgin, however I have for the first time in my life started a serious relationship, and very soon I believe I shall be ready to make love to my girlfriend.. Im a little scared though for a few reasons!!

When I masturbate.. it takes anything up to 20 mins b4 I cum/orgasm and during this period Im prone to losing hardness.. Is this okay? Im very hard to get aroused at the best of times and Im scared incase when Im penetrating my g/f I will lose hardness and spoil things...

If anyone could offer me some advice about this I would be ever so grateful!!

 

[Weird Harold]

If anyone could offer me some advice about this I would be ever so grateful!!

Don't think about it; just let things happen.

One of the most common causes of "lack of arousal" is too much thinking. Worries about performance are often self-fulfilling prophecies.

 

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[theshadow]

Nope, nver taken drugs and Im not on any medication.. perhaps its nerves and the feeling that i aint comfortable with my body..

 

[Bindii]

Nope, nver taken drugs and Im not on any medication.. perhaps its nerves and the feeling that i aint comfortable with my body..

Do try to relax, worrying will only make matters worse. Instead concentrate on getting to know each others bodies..you will probably find that arousing enough to maintain your erection.

Its no big deal if you get a little soft while your making love, more than likely she won't even notice - just keep her otherwise occupied....

Try not to be nervous, she is just as nervous as you.

Enjoy

 

[marksgirl]

Invest in a cock ring. These little thing do wonders! I've been married for 16 years and had lots of practice. I love em!

 

[alphacat]

For her sake, taking 20 minutes is a damn good thing... it takes girls (at least teenage ones) much longer then guys to reach orgasm. Maybe 15-30 minutes. So it's a really good thing for her that it takes you that long. And as long as you're using more then just your cock on her, I doubt she'll notice if you go soft for a minute.
Give her LOTS of foreplay, which should get both of you really excited, and be very gentle. I'd recomend, while you're penetrating her the first time, take it really slowly, and ask her if it hurts or what she wants. Let her know that it's okay to say she wants to stop - this will build her trust in you, and she'll be more comfortable and relaxed and it'll be more enjoyable for both of you. Anyway, I think you'll do just fine

 

[theshadow]

Thanks for all the advice people!! You have helped me to relax about things now!