A day of bondage (long)

[Guest]

Ok, this is the situation:

My girlfreind and I have been dabling in a bit of bondage and D/s roleplaying. Mostly, I'm the top. Sessions usually last for 2-4 hours, depending on our mood and what the Top had in mind. The sessions are usually pretty mild and involve tying each other up to the bed, teasing etc. I'll give an impression of the stuff we've been doing:

As I said, teasing: for the entire evening, I tied my girlfriend up to the bed (and blindfolded her) using scarfs and handcuffs. First I shaved her. Next, I cooked dinner, ate it off of her and fed her. Also, there was a lot of teasing with ice-cubes and drinks (wine mostly). I also used a small 'egg-vibrator' on her (does that make sense?)

Another time, I dressed her in a scanty maid's outfit and made her clean the room. Again, a lot of teasing and fondeling. In the end, I tied her up to a chair and read her an erotic s&m story I found on the web (sorry, not Literotica).

One time a tied her up in a standing position and poured chocolate over her. (there where extra sugar lumps in it, which were still hot...ouch)
On other occasions, I tied her up, whatched porn etc.

Over time, I've made some gear, including a spreader pole, some wrist and leg cuffs and a colar and belt. I also bought some stuff, such as cheap handcuffs, a ballgag and nipple clamps as well as a latex bra (no nipples) and panties (crotchless) and said maids dress.

I'm definitely more into bondage and D/s than she is. I spend more time reading stories and making equipment for example. Don't get me wrong, my girlfriend doesn't dislike bondage, it's just more on my mind than hers. Hey, I'm a guy, sue me. There are some things my girlfriend is uncomfortable with. She is a bit claustrophobic. Blindfolding is ok, but she does not like to be cut off completely. for example, she's a bit frightened of the ball gag, and I haven't used it yet. She isn't too fond of pain either, but strangely does not mind spanking.

Now, some time ago, we agreed to an all-day session. (I believe it was on a bet) Basically starting in the moring and going through to the wee hours, she has to do whatever I say. We agreed to do it next saturday. If she likes it, we might do it more often, which is something I would enjoy. On the other hand, I'm unsure what to do the entire day. I'm looking for something to fill the day, or perhaps several different 'scenes'. In the evening, we could go out or something.

This is where I need your help. I want to make it an entertaining experience, but I haven't done this before, so I have no idea how to fill the day. I would welcome sugestions. Please help!

 

[Natalie Nessus]

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[Guest]

I tried. It didn't work. Something to do with my intranet.

so sorry.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

I tried. It didn't work. Something to do with my intranet.

so sorry.

Sorry

 

[WillowWhip]

Start off by sending her a note telling her exactly how your day will go. {Yes, you do have to make plans in advance, but only after negotiating limits in advance.}

Tell her exactly how she is to dress... possibly in a dress without panties?

Meet early in the morning at your favorite eatery and go over the instructions you have given her. Explain the consequences for each action you feel needs correcting throughout the day.

Go about your day doing whatever pleases you but constantly whispering to her your plans for the evening.

You could possibly instruct her to expose herself to another man, then explain her "punishment" if she can't bring herself to do it.

Make clear that the "punishments" are either something she will or will not enjoy {depending on the agreement you two have come to when negotiating your day}

Keep the sexual tension high throughout the day.

Either fix her a nice dinner, have her fix one for you {while wearing appropriate attire, of course} or go out to dinner and tease her constantly. Anticipation is a wonderful, don't you agree?

From this point forward use your head boy, if you profess to be a top, be one! Have her satisfy your fantasies. Only you know what they are.

 

[poohlive]

I'm a novice to the whole bondage world. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate the idea... I just haven't had much in terms of experience in the field.
One thing I don't agree on, is punishments. Punishments seem to me like you're trying to force yourself too much on your partner. Like you want her to go too far, and if she won't go that far, you punish her by making her go even farther. Then, it doesn't even become about the bondage anymore, it's how you can make these impossible things for her to do so she won't do them so you can make up even more impossible punishmnts.
If you want to try the whole punishment thing be my guest, go for it. I'm just saying if you want to keep the bondage and stuff light, like you've been doing, maybe you shouldn't take it to that level.

As for ideas, why not let it involve a shower or bath? Water of some kind... even if it's simply dripping it onto her body slowly. Maybe a combination of hot and cold... very nice there.
Perhaps take her outside. A forest or something... obviously some place where you can't be seen or heard. I don't know how cold where you live... it might be fun though... especially if she's blindfolded and she thinks people are watching.
Why not try oils? All kinds of oils... Virgin olive oil comes to mind. Oh no, Extra Virgin cold-pressed olive oil. You want to talk about slick? That's the stuff. Key word here... experiment. I hear things like Viniagrette (I know I fucked up that word) irritates the skin. So, be careful.
Oh... don't tell her, but have a video tape recording for some of the things. Have her blindfolded, and then, once you're done for the day have her watch the tape. I read that in a story... it was very erotic (lol, ironically wasn't on Lit either).
So, have fun, and don't pull anything. Nothing ruins the mood of bondage like a stop in the Emergency room.

(Uhhh... Yeah Doctor, I don't know how that ball gag got there. Can you get it out?)

 

[petrel]

let her relax in the monring breakfast in bed with sexy food - croisants and fresh orange juice tell her to stay in bed and read trashy magazines (pick out any with lots of true life sex confessions at the newsagents before hand)
then how about a bath with lots of bubbles and a little babydoll nightie or something similar with mules (kitten heels a definate must) and a silky wrap make sure you are wearing clothing that you feel and look good in too and with a sexy edge. My favourite would be evening trousers and bare feet with a white shirt slightly open.
Spend the whole morning creating a sexy slightly trashy sensuas feeling in the house/flat.

then its up to you what you (both) fancy soem ides would be pretend to be a delivery/repair man
tell her she is goign to be your maid and prepare dinner/lunch -(get lots of nice easy food in beforehand so no-one has to work to hard)
involve sex in everything that you do ie eat with fingers
give her a massage and slip a blindofl over her eyes half way through before licking her all over and then fucking gently
rent some good porn or erotic movies to watch.
go out for an hour or so and leave her instrucitons to prepare herself for you
rig up a camera and get her to put on a striptease and show in front of it and then watch it together
make a tape of yourself reading out erotica or telling her what you would like to do.

Basically make the whole day sexy - not all hard bdsm or you will get too tired and probably a bit bored. Use it to reaffirm how sexy you find each other and the more relaxed you get the more you are able to try new things.

sorry this is long but hope it helped a bit

 

[cymbidia]

Petrel is right: if you're going to do a very long session of BDSM play, you can't be at the peak of intensity for all of it. There have to be some close, loving, whispering times, some times for food breaks, some times for white hot blazing sexuality, some places where you push her past what's totally comfy, breaks for a shower or bath. There have to be times through that day for lovemaking, for fucking, for kissing, for flogging, and for giggling. There will have to be some time-outs.

Having just returned from a long visit with my Master during which we played for four days and three nights without much sleep and without moving from each other's sight for even a moment, i can tell you that the longer you play, the more intense even small gestures and slight touches will be.

Prepare *yourself* for a far more emotional experience than you might have shared with her so far.

Remember that, as Top, you highest and most important priority is her welfare - physical and emotional.

And then relax.

I'm sub: i don't plan these things out, i just submit and react with all the honesty and openness i have to give. I'll mention this thread to my Master. Maybe he'll be willing to come here and tell you a bit about how to plan out a very long session. Maybe not. In any case, please know that it'll be nothing like the two hour things you're used to. Be ready for that.

Hope this helps even a little.

 

[mjnelson]

I like the outdoors thing. One time my GF and I went for a walk in the woods. She was wearing shorts and a bikini top. To make things more fun I had tied her hands behind her back. Then, I removed her bikini top so that her boobs were completely exposed. I would then play with her and chance that someone will see her.