A Cry For Help :(

[Wolfie_67]

Im 38yrs old and a virgin, my problem is i masturbate alot, 3/4 times a day sometimes it can be more to the point im sore, anyway reason im reason im posting here is i need advice, i have a major problem which tbh is scaring me and upsetting friends i have, when i get aroused i seem to want to tell ppl mostly women that im hard, need to masturbate or i am masturbating, and the way i do this is either msn or some sort of chat or through a game called world of warcraft, in this game u can whisper ppl, so when i get hard and need to masturbate i pm a female i know, or if theres a female character i whisper them, and tell them im horny and i need a to masturbate or i actualy am, now this is freakin me out, as i dont have an answer why i do this, but what scares me more is say the person i whisper is a child, i dont want to do this, i enjoy masturbation alot being a virgin its all i have, but when i get aroused i HAVE to do it were ever i am, doing what i have done as cursed me to loose alot of friends as u can understand as its somethink ppl just dont want to know esp women, and its making me depressed, i dont want to be like this and why i am i dont know as ive only been like it the past 2months, and i just cant explain it why its like im addicted to masturbation well i think i am if im honest but why i feel i have to tell ppl i dont know, so i need advice and quick, i havent been to my GP as yet as i find it very very hard to talk face to face about sexual issues or even masturbation, so i heard about the forums from a female friend, im not sure if this is the right place to post i dont know, and i know most of you ppl are based in the USA but any advice would be welcome, im scared of the future and dont know where to turn, ive even heard from a female friend that there are pills to stop guys gettin horny or gettin a hard on or even stops guys reaching orgasm basicaly kills all sex drive for good, so if thats true will mean i cant get hard so then i cant masturbate and feel the urge to tell ppl but im not sure how true this is, i would like womans opinions if these pills are true and will kill all sex drive and then i wont feel the need to mastubate and upset ppl do u think i shud take them plz giveme ur opinion im not sure what else to write or post, if ive posted in the wrong forums etc im sorry just new to this and very very confused. thanks for you time.

I hope you can understand my post as im completly crap at typing and puttin into things into words so again sorry.

 

[Missouribiguy]

Not to be mean, but, what are you talking about?

 

[LoboBoy]

I think he's saying he's a 38yo Virgin and he jacks off compulsively and to make it worse, he has to tell people when he's doing it.

If I understand right, he uses his online game to message other players to tell them he's doing it. He's freaking out cos not only is this creepy, but he realises he has no way of knowing if the players are underage or not...yet still can't help himself.... even though he has no inclination to be telling this crap to kids.

To the original poster...don't self medicate with libido reducing drugs, go to see a sex therapist or shrink. I think you have some major issues.

If you messaged one of my kids online like that...I'd hunt you down.


Your problem is not that you're too horny...it's the anti-social, invasive aspect of your behaviour.

 

[none2_none2]

Wolfie_67,

There are 12-step programs for all sorts of sexually addictive behaviors. I assume some of them probably have locations in the uk. If not, at least some of the resources are online. I googled "12 step" "sex addiction". One particular site seemed to have a lot of links to other sites:

http://open-mind.org/Sex-Love.htm

Counceling works for some people. For others it is expensive and the results don't work. 12-step works for some people. The advantage to it is that you get to realizing that you aren't alone in dealing with addictive problems.

If you truely are addictive to something, there is no magic pill, magic prayer, or magic plan to make it all go away.

Best Wishes!

 

[trask9]

A cry for Help

Mastrubation is normal for both men and women and healthy.
Yours is some sort of addiction and need that you need professional help to deal with it.
I gather you are not a social person and spend most of your time on the computer either playing sex games or watching porn.
Turn off the computer, seek professional counceling now. You can be helped but you need to find out what is at the root of your problem.
You can't change what you don't acknowledge. Knowing you have a problem is the first step and you have taken it. Congratulations for seeking help.
Keep us informed to your progress.
TJ

 

[Ashleey]

yeah, thats kind of scary...me, my brother and my 11 YEAR OLD niece all play WOW...and i sure wouldnt want someone whispering that stuff to her!! You really do need to get some help. Good luck.

 

[georgewas]

You arent alone but you are addicted. Stop using forms of media where you could be approaching children. Phone sex is made for people like you.

Seek professional help

 

[Samuelx]

There's nothing wrong with masturbation. I do it daily. The only time I don't do it is I spend the night at my boyfriend's place. He, uh, keeps me busy.

 

[bisexplicit]

There's nothing wrong with masturbation. I do it daily. The only time I don't do it is I spend the night at my boyfriend's place. He, uh, keeps me busy.

Did you read what the post was about at all?

 

[Ontario Curious]

I agree

Mastrubation is normal for both men and women and healthy.
Yours is some sort of addiction and need that you need professional help to deal with it.
I gather you are not a social person and spend most of your time on the computer either playing sex games or watching porn.
Turn off the computer, seek professional counceling now. You can be helped but you need to find out what is at the root of your problem.
You can't change what you don't acknowledge. Knowing you have a problem is the first step and you have taken it. Congratulations for seeking help.
Keep us informed to your progress.
TJ

Ditto

This site may not be the best place to seek help but it's a start. Professional counselling is a good option. You might talk to your family physician who could give you some leads. Alternately, you may wish to put the internet into use.
As a former long-time virgin, I sympathise with your situation. I think you need another outlet, other than sex, although there's nothing wrong with masturbation -- unless it becomes an obsession. (I imagine you recognize that relationships need to be more than about sex.)
Cheers

 

[Samuelx]

Yes I did. Someone seems to be lacking self-control. Nothing is wrong when done in moderation. Excess and lack of self-control always lead to trouble. Our friend should learn self-control, and not simply cease and desist all, uh, activities.

 

[LoboBoy]

Yes I did. Someone seems to be lacking self-control. Nothing is wrong when done in moderation. Excess and lack of self-control always lead to trouble. Our friend should learn self-control, and not simply cease and desist all, uh, activities.

his problem is not jacking off. His problem is that he has to tell random women and children that he is about to do it or that he's just started doing it. THAT is not normal.

 

[hardway]

I agree

Lobo boy hit the nail on the head. His problem isn't masturbating or how much he does it, its his need to tell others even when he knows it's wrong,no, especially when he knows it's wrong. Its alot like flashing.