A couple of questions :)

[Thefraserman]

How do I go about in asking my girlfriend to try new things, sexually? I want to try different things but she always declines. I want to try having sex outside, no. I want to try it in the forest, a' natural, but no.

I mean, she had this 'incident' which shall remain unnamed, cause, you know, that happened 15 years ago, and I truly think that totally damaged her sense of sexual adventure.

Do you know how repetitive it gets doing it on the bed all the time? Sure its fun, but it gets boring at times.

I also want to try very light bondage but I also dont know how to bring this up to her without making her decline.

Any thoughts?

 

[ma_guy]

How do I go about in asking my girlfriend to try new things, sexually? I want to try different things but she always declines. I want to try having sex outside, no. I want to try it in the forest, a' natural, but no.

I mean, she had this 'incident' which shall remain unnamed, cause, you know, that happened 15 years ago, and I truly think that totally damaged her sense of sexual adventure.

Do you know how repetitive it gets doing it on the bed all the time? Sure its fun, but it gets boring at times.

I also want to try very light bondage but I also dont know how to bring this up to her without making her decline.

Any thoughts?

Hmm.. How does she respond to alcohol??? I don't mean getting her snockered but a few drinks tends to loosen inhibitions..

As far as the light bondage.. How deep of a sleeper is she? I bound my ex's hands while she was alseep and then went to town on her. She thought she was dreaming but woke up when she came the first time only to find her hands tied behind her back... She didn't complain and I did the same on a few other occassions over the years without any complaints then either.

 

[peachykeen]

how long have you been with her, first of all? If she has had a past experience that was physically and/or emotionally scarring, it may take a good deal of time before she is comfortable enough with you to stretch her boundaries. And, if she has not really dealt with what happened to her, she may never be.

Look I know this might be a bit much to get into publicly, so if you want to PM me, maybe I can try to help. I have some personal experience in getting over feeling 'damamged' and I will be happy to talk with you honestly about it.