A big hello :)

[satin_coals]

Hello all I just wanted to post a thread to introduce myself to you all as it seems the right thing to do.

My name is Fallyn. I'm a bisexual, 22 year old female and I live in Australia. I was introduced to the BDSM lifestyle by an ex a few years ago but he liked to take it further than me so we parted. I've always been interested in it. Certain things in my childhood really shows now, the person I am today. I just never really saw the link until someone shared opened my eyes to this 'sexual' lifestyle.

I'm not into the whole dom/sub lifestyle 24/7. Outside the bedroom, I like my relationship to be 'equal' .. Do not think I do not 'serve' or 'worship' my partner outside of the bedroom, I do dearly, and lovingly. But there are things in my life I would always like to have a say in and some control. In otherwords, I don't think I could sumbit to someone 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I guess that doesn't make me a 'true' submissive in some peoples eyes but *shrug* oh well ..

I'm looking forward to posting veiws, experiences, etc. with you all. Reading over past posts, I have come to realise you are an insightful bunch

*waves*

Fallyn.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Welcome Satin to the great indoors.

As long as you and your partner are happy in however you choose to live the lifestyle that is all that counts. For some that is 24/7 and for others just getting together and playing every now and again. So have fun on the journey about finding out what works and doesn't work for you.

 

[Andante]

A big welcome

A big welcome to you from sunny Denmark!
You're right; you may not be a "true submissive" in some peoples eyes, but there is no way you will ever be able to fit everyones likes and perceptions. What really matters is that you know what's right for you, and pursue that.
Personally, I think you come across as a very serene 22-year old with clear and strong views on who you are and where you want to go. That's good.
Enjoy your time here and don't be afraid voice your opinion or ask questions.

 

[Gil_T2]

Hello all I just wanted to post a thread to introduce myself to you all as it seems the right thing to do.

My name is Fallyn. I'm a bisexual, 22 year old female and I live in Australia. I was introduced to the BDSM lifestyle by an ex a few years ago but he liked to take it further than me so we parted. I've always been interested in it. Certain things in my childhood really shows now, the person I am today. I just never really saw the link until someone shared opened my eyes to this 'sexual' lifestyle.

I'm not into the whole dom/sub lifestyle 24/7. Outside the bedroom, I like my relationship to be 'equal' .. Do not think I do not 'serve' or 'worship' my partner outside of the bedroom, I do dearly, and lovingly. But there are things in my life I would always like to have a say in and some control. In otherwords, I don't think I could sumbit to someone 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I guess that doesn't make me a 'true' submissive in some peoples eyes but *shrug* oh well ..

I'm looking forward to posting veiws, experiences, etc. with you all. Reading over past posts, I have come to realise you are an insightful bunch

*waves*

Fallyn.

Hi to another Aussie finding a place on LIT to enjoy, your system works fine for my partner & I outside of play she is totally equal & is my love, lover & subslut & we are later 40s & early 50s although we do play a lot. she lovers MASTER's crops, paddles, floggers, ropes etc.

There is also an Aussie thread in the playground & several who post there are also into the lifestyle.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=41835&page=1

 

[Shankara20]

you are an insightful bunch

*waves*

Fallyn.

that is me she is talk about FYI

Welcome. This is a good place filled with lovely people (by-and-large that is )

 

[lne_iii]

Hi and welcome.


LNE

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

that is me she is talk about FYI

Welcome. This is a good place filled with lovely people (by-and-large that is )

Hey Fallyn..........Welcome .........smiles...........Sir Shank is also known as The Enlightened One around these shores. Just remember that and you will be okay hun .........laughs.

@}-}rebecca------

( Another damned Aussie )

 

[graceanne]

Hello, and welcome!

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Welcome satin, to the chaos and confusion that is Lit!

 

[satin_coals]

thankyou

Thanks guys for all your warm welcomes!

[hugs to all]

~~~Fallyn~~~

 

[Gil_T2]

Hey Fallyn..........Welcome .........smiles...........Sir Shank is also known as The Enlightened One around these shores. Just remember that and you will be okay hun .........laughs.

@}-}rebecca------

( Another damned Aussie )

we are every where where sexual enjoyment are.

 

[Bandit58]

Hello all I just wanted to post a thread to introduce myself to you all as it seems the right thing to do.

My name is Fallyn. I'm a bisexual, 22 year old female and I live in Australia. I was introduced to the BDSM lifestyle by an ex a few years ago but he liked to take it further than me so we parted. I've always been interested in it. Certain things in my childhood really shows now, the person I am today. I just never really saw the link until someone shared opened my eyes to this 'sexual' lifestyle.

I'm not into the whole dom/sub lifestyle 24/7. Outside the bedroom, I like my relationship to be 'equal' .. Do not think I do not 'serve' or 'worship' my partner outside of the bedroom, I do dearly, and lovingly. But there are things in my life I would always like to have a say in and some control. In otherwords, I don't think I could sumbit to someone 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I guess that doesn't make me a 'true' submissive in some peoples eyes but *shrug* oh well ..

I'm looking forward to posting veiws, experiences, etc. with you all. Reading over past posts, I have come to realise you are an insightful bunch

*waves*

Fallyn.

Hi Fallyn I am Gil_T2's sub, we have been together for 2 1/2 years and our life is much as you described in the paragraph I have put in bold. Our relationship comes first, the D/s second but for me it's always there humming along in the background.

Some might say I'm not a "true" sub either I have opinions, I have my own money and the control of it, I'm not told how to dress or wear my hair, though Master Gil will give His opinion/preference if we are going somewhere special. There are so many levels in this lifestyle, it's a question of finding where you are most comfortable in!

 

[Ebonyfire]

I'm not into the whole dom/sub lifestyle 24/7. Outside the bedroom, I like my relationship to be 'equal' .. Do not think I do not 'serve' or 'worship' my partner outside of the bedroom, I do dearly, and lovingly. But there are things in my life I would always like to have a say in and some control. In otherwords, I don't think I could sumbit to someone 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I guess that doesn't make me a 'true' submissive in some peoples eyes but *shrug* oh well ..

Fallyn.

Welcome.

There are thousands of ways to live the lifestyle. And being 24/7 does not necessarily mean serving and worshiping 24/7. That is the stereotypical view of 24/7. I have boys who serve part-time, and never see my bedroom. I do not deal with submissives who have that mentality. It is all too easy.


You said:

"I'm not into the whole dom/sub lifestyle 24/7. Outside the bedroom, I like my relationship to be 'equal' "

It is also not necessarily true that 24/7 and D/s relationships are not between equals. That is only one philosophy. All of my submissives are equals. We engage in a power exchange. Although there are many in the lifestyle to do engage in the "serve me cause I am superior than you" mentality, the majority believe that their submissives and slaves are equal as human beings, and value them as such. I always say that I do not want to be served by someone who thinks they are inferior.

To many of us, it is not about the bedroom or about sex. It is all good, as far as I can see and to each his or her own.

Mistress Ebonyfire

 

[catalina_francisco]

Oh, nice to see another Aussie on board (i'm also a born and bred one though living in Europe these days)!! You will find where you fit and what makes you happy if you are able to just keep your options open and enjoy the journey for all its ups and downs. Have fun.

Catalinahttp://members.home.nl/animation.world/index/dolzz/Dolzz05.gif

 

[shy slave]

Hi satin

I am owned by Andante

Welcome to the madness (both Lit and BDSM!!)

I have been told too many times to count that I am not a real sub.

It used to make me feel confused about what a 'real sub' was.

I use the word slave, but I now realise it is all about how people view the word not how I view it. If my view matches someone elese then thats great, if it doesn't, well never mind, we can agree to disagree.
(Incidentially there are lots of threads on the meaning of sub/slave/bottom and everyone seems to have a different opinion )

My answer to people who say I am not a real sub/slave is to laugh.
Sometimes I give them a quick answer, sometimes I argue (depends on my mood), but mostly I laugh and just tease them into admiting they wish they could have a slave as great as me!!

Hope you enjoy being here

 

[satin_coals]

Hi Fallyn I am Gil_T2's sub, we have been together for 2 1/2 years and our life is much as you described in the paragraph I have put in bold. Our relationship comes first, the D/s second but for me it's always there humming along in the background.

Some might say I'm not a "true" sub either I have opinions, I have my own money and the control of it, I'm not told how to dress or wear my hair, though Master Gil will give His opinion/preference if we are going somewhere special. There are so many levels in this lifestyle, it's a question of finding where you are most comfortable in!

thanks Bandit .. for your lovely welcome, and support. I look forward to posting with you, and your Master Gil, in the future.

~~~FallyN~~~