A bad fuck.

[Guest]

Just so you guy's don't think I'm a troll here let me start by saying that I'm a regular contributor to the board but I've gone unregisterd because frankly I'm embarressed.

Last night I went to bed with a wonderful beautiful woman and couldn't keep it hard enough to give her the kinda fuck she deserved, I like this woman HELL I love this woman but I couldn't do justice to my feelings.

She said it was ok but I'm sure she just said it to make me feel better, I know I can get an erection so why can't I get it when I need it.

I feel like such a jerk

Worthless

 

[Guest]

Stress? Like a rough week at work kinda stress. Think of any possible mental things going on, or see a doctor to rule out a physical issue. Any recent medication changes? Something simple can have a big old domino affect on your whole body.

If it happens again, just eat her for an hour or so instead, she'll forget all about it

 

[Guest]

God I hopee you are right

 

[tswyk]

From a woman's point of view:

Being with someone that you care about should not be stressful. That said, we all know that life is not perfect.

I have had some experience with men who did not maintain their erections and I have 2 thoughts here.

1) If it is a rare occurance, no worries. There are plenty of other things that we can do that will bring us both pleasure. Sex is not all about HARD THRUSTING, some passionate soft touching will get the job done, too. And, this is also one area where patience IS a virtue.

2) If it is a common occurance, I'd recommend a visit to the doctor. That little blue pill can work wonders for men who have the urge, but not the ability. If I were in a steady relationship with someone with this issue, I would highly encourage them to explore this option. Yes, as I said above, you can have good sex without all that HARDNESS, but...if you can solve the problem by simply taking a pill, do it.

As always, communication is key. Please talk with your partner and be open about your concerns and needs.

Best of luck -

t

 

[lovetoread]

Honestly,when a woman says its ok,it really is.

 

[DeityMun]

It happens occasionally... it's actually happened to me a couple of times (boy, I don't go around admitting that much! *L*). With me, it's all mental. I just think about things WAY too much.. wanting to last longer, wanting to please her more, etc., and it distracts me from my own pleasure, and I start to lose my own arousal. Sometimes, you have to lose yourself in it.. surrender to the feeling and turn off the brain for a little bit.

 

[Cheyenne]

Honestly,when a woman says its ok,it really is.

Yup! What she said.

 

[just pet]

Honestly,when a woman says its ok,it really is.

Very true

Although performance in a one night stand is crucial, in real life it is a small part of the excitement. Relaxation is vital. Enjoy the moment, the accouterments, the passion, the love. The gymnastics will happen.

 

[Guest]

I'm mid thirties and although I have had the odd problem I really wanted this to work as this relationship is just beginning and I think she may be the one.

I know I can get a good erection when I masturbate and I was thinking maybe I should stop jerking the gherkin for a while and see if my lust for life comes back ?

 

[Worm]

Here is a story hope it makes ya feel better!!

Well there I was, 15 years old finally alone with my girlfriend. A million thoughts were racing through my mind. I was a virgin while she was a lot more experienced. We began making out taking our clothes off. I ripped off her shirt and began kissing down her neck and her nipples. My dick was so hard it felt like it was gonna explode like when you overcook a hot dog in the microwave. I begin unbuttoning her pants as she takes mine off. I position myself between her legs and then before I could even begin to slide myself inside her it happened...all over her belly and chest....I was so embarrased. I didn't know what to say, I didn't know what to do I just had this blank stare on my face and I was apologizing like I just accidently burned down her house or something.

 

[SamEyeAm]

It happens to all of us, uncluding me, at some point in our lives. Don't get hung up on it, because that in itself can make the problem worse. So many things can cause impotence, all of them honorable, by the way. Anxiety, stress, fatigue, medication side-effect, emotional distractions or conflicts, physical illness, age, performance anxiety, the position of the moon, you name it!

Bottom line: don't worry, bro! Talk to her today to reassure yourself that she really did mean it when she said that it was OK. Tell her how you felt, too.

 

[dreamer]

From a woman's point of view:

Being with someone that you care about should not be stressful. That said, we all know that life is not perfect.

I think that's a HUGE point to be made. "someone that you care about"

A lot of things cease to be problems then.

I'm a big fan of all means of enjoying each other anyhow. Use it as an opportunity to work on other things

 

[Guest]

I've got to go but I'd like to say thank you for the support and I'll reply to any new post's tomorrow.

 

[bknight2602]

Very true

Although performance in a one night stand is crucial, in real life it is a small part of the excitement. Relaxation is vital. Enjoy the moment, the accouterments, the passion, the love. The gymnastics will happen.

I don't think you maight realize that when this happens it is extremely depressing for a man. Even if she says that it is OK, as it might be, but the mental anguish that follows is not pleasant. If it happens over and over then as tswyk says a little blue pill might be just the thing one needs.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Relax and all will be okay.

If she is the one for you she will not mind and enjoy your tongue for now.

 

[just pet]

I don't think you maight realize that when this happens it is extremely depressing for a man. Even if she says that it is OK, as it might be, but the mental anguish that follows is not pleasant. If it happens over and over then as tswyk says a little blue pill might be just the thing one needs.

I realize this
I treat impotence in my practice
Sometimes just the fear of not performing well gets in the way
Sometimes it is physically based
Don't forget, that women frequently blame themselves for a man's "poor performance".
Understanding and communication is essential to all involved parties

 

[Guest]

Thinking it over I had a good erection to begin with but then I went down on her and when I came up for air and a fuck I had a half erection and just couldn't get it to work.

I really do think I need to lay off the porn and masturbation for a while and see if abstinence makes the cock grow harder, also I've wanted to do the right thing by this girl because I get a feeling around her I haven't ever had around a woman before....and that could be pressuring me.

 

[Rambrat]

Think about it.

On second thought...don't think about it!

You were with a beautiful woman who you were quite fond of and you wanted this moment to be special. You thought too much about the experience and how you wanted to preform. At one point, you lost the battle.

When this happens...slap the bitch and scold her for not turning you on.....
(I'm only kidding ladies)

When this happens, there is not much you can do about it. The harder you try...the less harder it gets. And there ain't a damn thing you can do about it. The bigger head is now controlling the little fucker.

The worst thing you can do...is to think about it...or worry that it will happen again. Block it out of your mind. This happens to ALL of us...and it isn't a matter of age.

 

[bknight2602]

I realize this
I treat impotence in my practice
Sometimes just the fear of not performing well gets in the way
Sometimes it is physically based
Don't forget, that women frequently blame themselves for a man's "poor performance".
Understanding and communication is essential to all involved parties

I'm glad to hear you say this. It feels like you may understand the feeling that men go htrough in this situation. Yes the fea can get in the way, but fear is a powerful emotion to be controlled. How do you "prescribe" overcomming fear?

 

[Guest]

When this happens...slap the bitch and scold her for not turning you on.....
(I'm only kidding ladies)

LMAO, thanks for that one dude, I've been in a mood all day and you just made me laugh so hard it hurt........I really needed that.

 

[Rubyfruit]

When this happens...slap the bitch and scold her for not turning you on.....
(I'm only kidding ladies)

*laughing* Good one, Ram.

 

[Rambrat]

LMAO, thanks for that one dude, I've been in a mood all day and you just made me laugh so hard it hurt........I really needed that.

No problem...

and remember...you're okay.

 

[caligula]

Sorry man, that sucked. It will probably bite me in the ass one day. I hope my woman says its okay.

 

[Guest]

we just talked and she wants to go bowling thursday she doesn't seem at all worried about the other night and say's we can "work" on it.....there's hope yet I think.

 

[Guest]

Maybe she's "the one" and you're falling in love, and that's hard to deal with?

Her attitude sounds wonderful, let that relax you.