hawaiianlover78
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Ok been with my guy for 6 month and we haven't had sex in 1 month. HELP is it me? I want him but maybe he doesn't want me anymore. What do I do?
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hawaiianlover78
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In a round way, to me this shouldn't be happening this early in a relationship. He should want to jump me when we see each other. I'll lay on his bed with my ass in the air pointing to his face and I've never been taken. Damn it i want to be taken, I like it rough. He knows it
hawaiianlover78
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You are right, I want sex and I can't be afraid to tell him that. But then again he's a guy, why doesn't he wanna have sex?
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Even for guys, sex drives aren't one-size-fits-all. Especially if there's other stuff happening in his life to distract him.
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There are lot of "shoulds" there. I know for myself, if you tell me what I "should" do, I will do exactly the opposite.
Maybe his "shoulds" are different than yours? Or maybe he is just a human being even tho he is a male and has his own ideas about sex, interfering life, and what he "should" do or should not do.
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Maybe he's tired of taking you and he's off somewhere on some other forum saying 'we've been together for 6 months and I'm always the one to instigate sex, when is she going to take me?'
It sounds to me like you need to communicate better, and if there's something you want you need to be proactive in getting it, especially so early in a relationship. Believe it or not but guys cannot read minds and aren't constantly ready and/or willing for sex.
Corner him in the shower, if he refuses your advances then there's something the two of you need to talk about.
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^this^
Even if you say yes every single time nobody likes to be the one who always has to make the move.
If you're in bed instead of presenting your behind why not grab his cock? This is usually an attention getting move that is difficult to misinterpret.
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6 months is not enough time for a relationship to go stale. I hate to say it but maybe he has someone on the side. That's why my now ex stop having sex with me 
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I hate to say this, does he have herpes? He might be too embarrassed to say he is having an issue.
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Although I agree you should try initiating yourself, and if that doesn't work then you really should talk to him about it... unfortunately when this situation happened to me, it turned out he was seeing someone else too. Hope things work out for you!
Sorry to say but it's prob over.
I've been with my Man for 18 months and seems like he can't go 6hours without molesting me....
There are lots of ways to try to "seduce him" without necessarily coming on too strong. Some guys are funny about women who come on strong wanting sex. Me, I love it when women are a bit open and slutty in the bedroom. However, just lying there with "your ass in his face" waiting for him to do something isn't necessarily what gets to him. If that's your usual behavior, it may just be getting to be "your usual behavior." You may have to initiate some sorts of actions that get him being open as to what gets his motor running.
It's the same with you. You say he "knows you like it rough". How does he "know" that? Have you told him or do you assume that your actions and feelings are obvious to him? Have you actually said to him, "Umm I love it when you smack my tender naked littls ass and fuck me like an animal" or "I love it when you hold my head tight and fuck my mouth." Does he like dirty talk like that or does that sort of thing turn him off. Some guys don't like to hear their wife or girlfriend use language like that but for me, the filthier the better.
How about porn videos? Does he respond to them? Do you respond to them? Some people are put off by them and some people find them to be a mutual turn on. You could find some that look good to you and then offer up to plop them in your player or computer and "see if we can learn something new."
Bottom line, sitting around thinking and wondering, wishin' and hopin' isn't going to get you where you want to go. I'm forever astounded at the antiquated notion of the "girl waiting by the phone for the guy to call." It's the 21'st century. It's an equal playing field and the rules, if there are still any, have changed.
It's the same with you. You say he "knows you like it rough". How does he "know" that? Have you told him or do you assume that your actions and feelings are obvious to him? Have you actually said to him, "Umm I love it when you smack my tender naked littls ass and fuck me like an animal" or "I love it when you hold my head tight and fuck my mouth." Does he like dirty talk like that or does that sort of thing turn him off. Some guys don't like to hear their wife or girlfriend use language like that but for me, the filthier the better.
How about porn videos? Does he respond to them? Do you respond to them? Some people are put off by them and some people find them to be a mutual turn on. You could find some that look good to you and then offer up to plop them in your player or computer and "see if we can learn something new."
Bottom line, sitting around thinking and wondering, wishin' and hopin' isn't going to get you where you want to go. I'm forever astounded at the antiquated notion of the "girl waiting by the phone for the guy to call." It's the 21'st century. It's an equal playing field and the rules, if there are still any, have changed.
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Yup. You want him. BUT. He doesn't want you, else he'd be fucking you. Are you both exclusive? Still? Besides emotions, do you have anything else invested in the relationship?
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Not all guys have a high libido. If you look in marriage forums, it's common to see complaints where the wife wants sex, but the guy doesn't. Your description sounds typical, and it never ends well. He may have low testosterone, or maybe he just doesn't have much of a libido. People with low libido (both men and women) usually want sex early in the relationship, but it falls off later. Desire for sex is usually fragile for these people.... stress or fatigue will kill it and they'll be resentful if you ask for it during these times. High libido people like me often need more sex when we're stressed. If this is the case, there's a chance that it's treatable with testosterone, though, if he's young, it may just be the way that he is. If you find that he's a low libido person, you'll need to decide whether this is something that you can live with. There are lots of cases of married couples where the woman says that he's a great guy and she can't leave him, but she's miserable because of his lack of desire for her. Don't become one of those people. Don't take it personally. Just move on if you can't accept it and be happy.
Someone mentioned that there may be someone else. I can't rule that out.
You can talk to him to try to find out whether it it's a libido issue or whether there is someone else. Either way, the prognosis isn't good. There's a chance that there is something going on entirely.
Good luck and let us know how things going!
Isn't it just a crying shame the number of marriages or relationships that end up with two people of different levels of sex drive? If only that could be learned about and worked out before getting involved. One of the things people should really consider doing as they enter a relationship is sitting down and questioning all of this sort of stuff like a job interview.....what sorts of sex do you really love and need and what sorts of things turn you off? How often to you like having sex? etc. People, we all do it, start out assuming that the other person is on the same wavelength with us and early in a relationship we do whatever we have to to make sure we are perceived as pleasing the other person. Then, after 6 months, a year, 10 years, we take them for granted, stop acting like we care, let ourselves get fat and sloppy and lazy. It's even the way some people behave in a job. I used to see young college kids start out like gang busters and then 10 years later they acted like they couldn't be fired for fucking off.
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You really need to find out what's going on with your guy and not try to assume. If he's not willing to talk honestly with you, then you might assume he's lost interest in you. I figure if two people really want to keep a relationship alive and honest and open, they will spill their guts about anything to make it work. If they hold back, it probably means that it's a weak relationship and maybe dying or dead.
hawaiianlover78
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Thank you everyone for your candid replies to my question, I think this relationship is over and he doesn't want to say it. So I'll be the one to say it.
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Good luck
