6,000 posts non-the-wiser.

[SnoopDog]

Now I have been here for over 4 years and have 6,000 posts. I have been lurking, reading, posting, submitting pics, (very few) stories and poems, I started polls, sent and received PM's, hell I even had my "I'm quitting Lit"-mood.

But I still feel like i'm no real part of this community and often I still feel like i'm a n00b. Not to mention that I don't know anyone from thes boards. I mean really know something about someone.

Sad facts.



Snoopy, in a reflecting mood

 

[minsue]

I know the feeling.

 

[TheEarl]

That's not really true. You know stuff about me, cause I've whinged to you about it. And I'll bet you know stuff about other people here too.

And, without wishing to come over too sappy, I do notice and miss you when you're not here. You're a decent bloke.

The Earl

 

[SnoopDog]

That's not really true. You know stuff about me, cause I've whinged to you about it. And I'll bet you know stuff about other people here too.

And, without wishing to come over too sappy, I do notice and miss you when you're not here. You're a decent bloke.

The Earl

Hey, thnx man. You are right, I DO know you. It's just, you know, sometimes you see all the 'riendship' that seems to be happening on here and you ask yourself "How does sth. like that come about".

I didn't mean to offend you by saying what I said. You can be sure about that. And I do appreciate that there are some people on here, that are the reason why I do not have the feeling I shouldn't be here anymore. It's just that you wonder sometimes....


Snoopy

 

[Vermilion]

I thought it was just me... I really am a noob though, only joined in August. It's getting better - it helped when I got the AV. People notice the red shoes
I hope I can make it to the Lit-together... perhaps i'll feel more integrated when I can put real faces to people... Have you met anyone off the board in RL snoop?

(Hi, by the way, I don't think we've bumped into each other's posts before)

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[Guest]

ah snoop...the snoopinator!
i hug you.
still, you're not alone.

 

[SnoopDog]

I know the feeling.

Yeah, sometimes I feel like starting a group.

ah snoop...the snoopinator!
i hug you.
still, you're not alone.

Thnx for the hug. If that is the result, I should start more threads like that.

I thought it was just me... I really am a noob though, only joined in August. It's getting better - it helped when I got the AV. People notice the red shoes
I hope I can make it to the Lit-together... perhaps i'll feel more integrated when I can put real faces to people... Have you met anyone off the board in RL snoop?

(Hi, by the way, I don't think we've bumped into each other's posts before)

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Hi there. And welcome. Yeah, the red shoes really are quite an eye-catcher. (and openerfor that matter) Never met anyone which is mainly due to the fact that i'm in another country. Sometimes I think it would help if I was in the same time zone as america. Then again there are a lot of Europeans here as well.


Just to make sure. This was not meant to be a rant- or pity-thread. I just wanted to see whether or not some people feel the same. Or maybe someone has the reasons why. Still, it seems that most of my posts (or threads) just seem to talk at cross purposes.


Snoopy

 

[Vermilion]

Nah, you're not the only one. And I, for one, am in the UK... you're in Germany, yes? Not that long a journey if you fancied joining us in Manchester in June <looks at English Lady> June, right?

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ps- wait till it's the red panties

 

[ElizabethWest]

Snoopy, you're so cute.

When I came here regularly, I would notice when you were gone. You aren't alone; I feel the same way sometimes.

I've been lucky enough to meet two Literoticans in person.

 

[Guest]

its true snoop. you're right there is a lot of chatter here. i think it helps to just jump in when you feel like it. the more you do, the more peeps get to know you. but then again, i jump in and i usually don't have anything erudite to add to the conversation. ah well...
im only on the border of getting to know you and ive been around for what seems a squillion years. still one and 1/2 shorter than you.
i like you and always have.

 

[TheEarl]

Hey, thnx man. You are right, I DO know you. It's just, you know, sometimes you see all the 'riendship' that seems to be happening on here and you ask yourself "How does sth. like that come about".

I didn't mean to offend you by saying what I said. You can be sure about that. And I do appreciate that there are some people on here, that are the reason why I do not have the feeling I shouldn't be here anymore. It's just that you wonder sometimes....


Snoopy

I guess everyone feels like they're missing out on all the cool conversations and the tight-knit circles. You see other people making little inside jokes that you don't get and think that you're excluded from all of the cliques.

It's not until you have a sudden moment of strange self-awareness and realise, "Hey, I talked to The Earl about his depression last year," or "I remember hearing Snoop telling me about his first kiss." Then you see that you've got your own little overlapping circles that other people will feel jealous of.

The Earl

 

[angelicminx]

Sexy Snoopy, I think we all feel that way at times. Just know you are loved and appreciated. You are part of this dysfunctional family.

 

[gauchecritic]

It's just one of those things snoop. (I happened to mention you some weeks ago in some sort of list thread 'the german doggy guy')

But it's nothing new or 'net related Snoop and I've pissed and moaned about the exact same thing a few times. When I had a larger circle of 'friends' at college I still felt like an outsider (and drama students are renowned for gregariousness)

I've had pm's and mails from various Litsters over the years and still my inbox remains conspicuously empty, probably because of the tone of replies I make and my inability, nay reluctance, to engage in small talk, unless it's basically about me. Although I'm definitely not saying that you have my social disease. (unfeasibly large ego)

There are any number of people here that feel at least sympathetic towards you (or apparently stand in awe and thereby feel awkward about attempting any kind of relationship)

Putting Yourself Forward.
Just as I entered college I realised that this is what you have to do if you want to make any headway at all in terms of friendships on here or in RL.
My best mate in college admitted to me that he didn't like the look of me when we first met (I was a scruff, arrogant and looked hard) after our first class together, where I purposefully employed my 'close friendship' persona to any that would listen (commenting as often as possible and not fearing being made a fool of by the 'popular' crowd) my best friend realised I wasn't what his prejudices assumed me to be. (there was a recent thread about this which I just about killed)

There's only a slight difference between that and being a noob here.
One is that we have only words on the page for communication and two, that becoming part of a particular clique (yes, however much it is denied they do exist however loosely) becoming part of one clique precludes you from joining another.

One other thing, being a bloke doesn't help at all. Women have a facility for friendship that guys just don't possess. (that's a fact by the way not just personal observation) So we have to work a hell of a lot harder just to keep up.

I've only lately come to realise that I actually do have quite a few friends here at Lit and quite a few people in RL that count me as friend. It's a humbling experience.

In RL I often speak of the number of people I know around the world, with whom I have deep and meaningful discussions, laughs, frivolity and relationships. More lately I've begun to use the word 'friends' rather than 'people'. You're one of them Snoop. 'That German Doggy Guy'. (now I've probably pissed you off thinking for some unknown reason that you're German)

(Edited to add: self-deprecation by people sometimes stops them from trying to be your friend. VELLA!)

 

[Guest]

It's just one of those things snoop. (I happened to mention you some weeks ago in some sort of list thread 'the german doggy guy')

But it's nothing new or 'net related Snoop and I've pissed and moaned about the exact same thing a few times. When I had a larger circle of 'friends' at college I still felt like an outsider (and drama students are renowned for gregariousness)

I've had pm's and mails from various Litsters over the years and still my inbox remains conspicuously empty, probably because of the tone of replies I make and my inability, nay reluctance, to engage in small talk, unless it's basically about me. Although I'm definitely not saying that you have my social disease. (unfeasibly large ego)

There are any number of people here that feel at least sympathetic towards you (or apparently stand in awe and thereby feel awkward about attempting any kind of relationship)

Putting Yourself Forward.
Just as I entered college I realised that this is what you have to do if you want to make any headway at all in terms of friendships on here or in RL.
My best mate in college admitted to me that he didn't like the look of me when we first met (I was a scruff, arrogant and looked hard) after our first class together, where I purposefully employed my 'close friendship' persona to any that would listen (commenting as often as possible and not fearing being made a fool of by the 'popular' crowd) my best friend realised I wasn't what his prejudices assumed me to be. (there was a recent thread about this which I just about killed)

There's only a slight difference between that and being a noob here.
One is that we have only words on the page for communication and two, that becoming part of a particular clique (yes, however much it is denied they do exist however loosely) becoming part of one clique precludes you from joining another.

One other thing, being a bloke doesn't help at all. Women have a facility for friendship that guys just don't possess. (that's a fact by the way not just personal observation) So we have to work a hell of a lot harder just to keep up.

I've only lately come to realise that I actually do have quite a few friends here at Lit and quite a few people in RL that count me as friend. It's a humbling experience.

In RL I often speak of the number of people I know around the world, with whom I have deep and meaningful discussions, laughs, frivolity and relationships. More lately I've begun to use the word 'friends' rather than 'people'. You're one of them Snoop. 'That German Doggy Guy'. (now I've probably pissed you off thinking for some unknown reason that you're German)

(Edited to add: self-deprecation by people sometimes stops them from trying to be your friend. VELLA!)

what a wonderful post. i thoroughly enjoyed reading it...and not to inflate your ego, you are right.
sometimes it just needs to be brought to attention by people who care.
thanks gauch.

 

[minsue]

what a wonderful post. i thoroughly enjoyed reading it...and not to inflate your ego, you are right.
sometimes it just needs to be brought to attention by people who care.
thanks gauch.

Ditto.

 

[Pure]

as some see things, there's always an 'in crowd,' the ones with the cool friends, intense communications etc. i think that's partly a myth, since some in this crowd only feel partly 'in', and think others are really and securely in.

that said, some people, mostly women, seem to have this networking zeal and ability; they also seek out phone calls, meetings irl, etc.

men, including me, often think like gauche; we think there is 'small talk' and 'deep talk'; the latter about 'really important things.' but women's small talk is the oil for the machine. in person, if a woman meets another, one comes up with something like "i like your new ear rings," and the other responds. there's a connection so that when one is really upset, there's a connection already there, based on the so-called 'small talk.'

another area many of us men fall down in, is, self revelation; more women both reveal and emote. they admit to being upset. they admit, 'my ex ran off with his secretary; the sleazeball.'

of course many guys are socially skilled, outgoing, well connected, etc. but the rest of us seem lacking. OTOH, some of these 'successfully social' males hide almost everything [or some just feel little; think little]; they're like salemen of themselves, in the worst cases.

--

so snoop, i think you and I and others need to make more efforts: while the 'inbox' is often empty, i bet, like me, your 'out' box is too. {IOW, how many outgoing PMs do you send each day? outgoing emails, etc.?} most people in fact respond. OF the outgoing ones, how many encourage responses, by, for instance, asking something as opposed to simply, 'here's what i think.'


i think we 'wallflowers' have to come off the wall, even if it's to make very mundane, everyday conversation, some of which shows interest in others; the big issues will arise naturally.

 

[Mansa Musa]

Well, I´ve been posting here for 3 years and I´m not cool either. Do I give a damn? Hell no! As long as Recidiva sends me PMs, all is right in the world. As is, you have your very own German Literotica to play in, just invite some more Germans to the site. There are a few Americans in Germany who would love to be able to meet more English speaking Germans. OurLadyOfTheHighways and I are always interested in meeting new people.

 

[SnoopDog]

Thnx for all the kind words. Still, I get the feeling that you guys take this just as a complaint. It wasn't really meant that way.

Anyways, I appreciate all what's been said,

Oh by the way, the German Lit pretty much sucks. (No offense)



Snoopy