Just a top tip for topip, rather than being vague with your thread title and content you are much more likely to get responses along the lines of what you're after if you are specific.
The title - 38m looking - for what? a lot of the views this will get are going to be after an answer to that but most won't be bothering to message you if you haven't put the answer in the thread itself.
"38m looking for chat with women" would immediately narrow it down to women and chatting.
For the contents asking people to message you for more info is wasting time for you and them, just providing basic information (kinks or lack of, specific interests, relevant personal details etc) saves you from having to answer the same question X number of times and saves X number of people from asking it.