32-year-old Virgin ... Help!

[shyvirgin2015]

Hi everyone,

I'm an avid Literotica visitor, but as you can tell by my user name and the title of this thread ... I have a bit of a problem away from the computer!

I am a 32-year-old female virgin, and I've never been in a relationship. I used to be extremely picky with guys and very self conscious of myself, so I never ended up in relationships when I was younger. As I moved into my mid-20's, it became more of an issue that I was scared to tell men that I had never been in a relationship and that I was a virgin. And now here I am, at 32, even more scared than ever so I avoid dating and relationships.

I was wondering if anyone has any advise for me on how I can confidently tell men that I'm a virgin. I don't have any reason that I am aside from that I just always avoided it. I want to have sex ... Badly. But I know men my age will just run the other way knowing that I am extremely inexperienced. Or will they? Am I just making an assumption here?

I would really love to end this no-sex, no-relationship streak of mine but am terrified that I will send men running as soon as they find out.

Help!

Thanks in advance,
shyvirgin2015

 

[pensivepoet]

Hey Nero
I have this idea on how to feed the lions.....

 

[lovetoread]

Hi everyone,

I'm an avid Literotica visitor, but as you can tell by my user name and the title of this thread ... I have a bit of a problem away from the computer!

I am a 32-year-old female virgin, and I've never been in a relationship. I used to be extremely picky with guys and very self conscious of myself, so I never ended up in relationships when I was younger. As I moved into my mid-20's, it became more of an issue that I was scared to tell men that I had never been in a relationship and that I was a virgin. And now here I am, at 32, even more scared than ever so I avoid dating and relationships.

I was wondering if anyone has any advise for me on how I can confidently tell men that I'm a virgin. I don't have any reason that I am aside from that I just always avoided it. I want to have sex ... Badly. But I know men my age will just run the other way knowing that I am extremely inexperienced. Or will they? Am I just making an assumption here?

I would really love to end this no-sex, no-relationship streak of mine but am terrified that I will send men running as soon as they find out.

Help!

Thanks in advance,
shyvirgin2015

Just tell them.

If you cant do this then you are not ready for sex.

 

[seth6138]

Just tell them.

If you cant do this then you are not ready for sex.

Couldn't have said it better myself..

 

[TwinkleStars]

Just tell them.

If you cant do this then you are not ready for sex.

Pretty much sums things up.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Why tell anyone shit! I cant imagine any real man caring about virginity. We wont believe it if you swear it on a Koran.

 

[Aella_]

Hi everyone,
But I know men my age will just run the other way knowing that I am extremely inexperienced. Or will they? Am I just making an assumption here?

If they were like some of my male friends or cousins, I don't think inexperience would be the main thing that'd scare them away. Rather, the fear that you might have done it to "save yourself for marriage". If so, I'd start first by throwing subtle hints that I'm not interested in marriage at this stage, or I'd do things that show that I'm not the "clingy" type.
((personal opinion, I might be wrong.// And in the hope that this user is for real, and not a prank))

 

[Aglaopheme]

Seek out the help of a professional.

Don't listen to dishrag up there stay away from your cousins.

 

[Disgustipated]

We already have one of you. We've named him"eeyore".

 

[Tryharder62]

If it were me I would start by just enjoying some dates with men you are compatible with. Have some fun and put the sex aside until you know someone well enough to want to have sex with them. Hopefully by then you will feel more comfortable with that person and yourself. I would tell the person before sex just because there are a lot of things that can be done to make your first time a good experience. If you find the right person I think you will be able to tell them what you wrote in this thread. Thinking of you!

 

[shyvirgin2015]

Thanks to the couple of you who gave an honest, mature answer.

To the rest of you douchebags, get a life. You don't think it was embarassing enough to try and discuss this?

If you have something decent to contribute to my issue, please private message me ... I will be thankful for any mature, real response to my concern. I won't be reading any more responses on this thread.

 

[juttjaw]

Thanks to the couple of you who gave an honest, mature answer.

To the rest of you douchebags, get a life. You don't think it was embarassing enough to try and discuss this?

If you have something decent to contribute to my issue, please private message me ... I will be thankful for any mature, real response to my concern. I won't be reading any more responses on this thread.

No wonder why you're still a virgin... jeesh..

 

[Disgustipated]

Thanks to the couple of you who gave an honest, mature answer.

To the rest of you douchebags, get a life. You don't think it was embarassing enough to try and discuss this?

If you have something decent to contribute to my issue, please private message me ... I will be thankful for any mature, real response to my concern. I won't be reading any more responses on this thread.

You should have called me a motherfucker instead of a douchebag because facts.

 

[Killswitch1]

Just tell them.

If you cant do this then you are not ready for sex.

Couldn't have said it better myself..

Why tell them. Just do the nasty. No one needs to know you're a virgin.

 

[Killswitch1]

Thanks to the couple of you who gave an honest, mature answer.

To the rest of you douchebags, get a life. You don't think it was embarassing enough to try and discuss this?

If you have something decent to contribute to my issue, please private message me ... I will be thankful for any mature, real response to my concern. I won't be reading any more responses on this thread.

Well that was a short date!

 

[snugglestruggle]

Well that was a short date!

He found someone to take his internet virginity.

 

[Wrong Element]

I won't be reading any more responses on this thread.

Well, damn. I had the perfect answer all teed up too.

(But in case you change your mind, and speaking as a guy: if it's meant to be, he isn't going to care. And I agree with just having a good time with dates in social settings, which can be an end in itself even if sex doesn't result ... not that I took that stance often myself when I was dating.)

 

[Aella_]

Thanks to the couple of you who gave an honest, mature answer.
To the rest of you douchebags, get a life. You don't think it was embarassing enough to try and discuss this?
If you have something decent to contribute to my issue, please private message me ... I will be thankful for any mature, real response to my concern. I won't be reading any more responses on this thread.

Good attitude.
Just letting you know that all this wasn't about you or your post (which was absolutely fine); it was about us, GBers. We have a habit of poking fun at any newcomer who is naiive enough to start a thread here.
Moreover, there have been so many threads like yours that turned out to be pranks/hoaxes, it's difficult sometimes to suss out which is which.

 

[Aella_]

Seek out the help of a professional.

Don't listen to dishrag up there stay away from your cousins.

Hah! Every time you use that word, guess who looks more like a "dishrag"?
So keep'em coming, you're actually doing me a service.

 

[removed9556]

 

[Aella_]

'Us, Gbers'?

Christ. I don't want to be a member of a club that includes you. Fortunately, I'm not.

He's looking for splitting, as usual.
If I would've said : them instead of us, he would have been up'n arms, accusing me of hypocrisy or trying to attack other GBers.

I foresaw this sort of post. I also knew that there was no win in any of the two scenarios, so I chose the more ridiculous one instead of the more costly one (the one that implied that I distanced myself).

Give your h8r boneR a rest, and stop the obsessional search for meaning in every f..g word, geez, Des! Words are not that important; it's the intended meaning, that counts.
I don't seek contact with either of you, but you do.

 

[Disgustipated]

Words are not that important; it's the intended meaning, that counts.

If you use the correct words, this isn't an issue, ####.

 

[removed9556]

 

[Aella_]

'Either of you': How many of me do you think there are? My name is Legion, for we are Des?' Now I'm imagining an army of louche Spartacist aesthetes, all throwing their lilies into the air and chanting 'I'm Des!'

Also, words are meanings. There is no intention. If you cannot control your language, hashtag, it controls you.

You and Aglaopheme at the moment.
As I told you Many times, there's more to our interactions than the fact that you're Brittish, and I'm stupid:
We're like chalk and cheese: you're obsessional, and I'm more ADD. So we don't speak the same lingo and there's a small chance of us interacting without one of us going bazooka.

So better keep our distance until the atmosphere surrounding us changes.

 

[removed9556]