30 Years Age Difference

[DaddysTastyTreat]

I met a man 30 years my senior, and fell hard for him.

Is 30 years too big an age difference? If your daughter brought home a man over twice her age... What would your reaction be? Would you date someone 30 years your junior?

 

[KrazieKat69]

I know a lot of people see age as just a number and I know a few couples that have an age range like your saying.. If you both truly care for one another then that should be all that matters. I see the question you have about “what’s everybody else gonna think” but as long as others don’t make it an awkward thing then let it ride!!

 

[DaddysTastyTreat]

Thanks, Kat.

My only consolation is that my parents are still older than him, by more than a decade.

But still, I hesitate to think what my mom will say.

 

[writermanbrit]

Is 30 years too big an age difference? If your daughter brought home a man over twice her age... What would your reaction be? Would you date someone 30 years your junior?

A 30 year gap is not a massive problem depending on their ages, not the gap.

If my 17 yr old daughter brought home a man of 37 never mind 47 I would not be happy at all, as I would not consider she had the experience to make a commitment at that age............ but if she was 29 and the man 59 then I might withhold my judgement and see how it went.

Of course I would date a woman 30 years younger, but I certainly would not expect it to last for ever, with marriage and children etc...... but not everyone wants or needs that to be happy, so each case on it's merits I suppose, and I would quite understand her parents not approving of the relationship due to my age.

 

[DaddysTastyTreat]

See, I'd take his name and bear his children.

He has expressed a desire for both. (Marriage and family)

 

[Smoothshavendad]

As a 58 yr old man, I say screw his head off!!! Us old men need love too!

 

[DaddysTastyTreat]

As a 58 yr old man, I say screw his head off!!! Us old men need love too!

Sir, I like your style. Thanks for the enthused advice.

 

[KrazieKat69]

Thanks, Kat.

My only consolation is that my parents are still older than him, by more than a decade.

But still, I hesitate to think what my mom will say.

As long as you’re happy I think they should be happy for you! I don’t know your family dynamics to know how they’d react etc but as a parent I’d be happy as long as my son or daughter are!!

 

[KrazieKat69]

As a 58 yr old man, I say screw his head off!!! Us old men need love too!

Ha, there ya go!!! That’s the law to live by!!! What he said!!

 

[Wordsworth]

See, I'd take his name and bear his children.

He has expressed a desire for both. (Marriage and family)

Would be consider a compromise? You take his name and bear my children, for example?

-I'm asking for a friend.

 

[writermanbrit]

See, I'd take his name and bear his children.

He has expressed a desire for both. (Marriage and family)

I know this is a sex forum, and all the older guys are saying to just go for it, have a great time and all that, but there is a serious side as well, especially regarding children.

I was an older parent, with my first child born when I was 49, and another when I was 53, and it has been (and still is) a wonderful experience, but I am now separated and that's partly because my younger wife still had ideas of behaving like a twenty something - I know, that's the way to do it and all that from all you people on the outside, but reality and fantasy can be different.
My children would prefer to be with me and say their mother has no time for them, but of course the female usually gets custody (uk laws), so that makes for unhappy children and unhappy dad.
The bigger potential problem is the fact that it's not only a woman's age which is a cause for concern, but the older the father is, the higher the risk of abnormalities, and so you could have an older father (who will not have the same energy as a 30 yr old month after month) and a child which needs extra care and attention for the rest of it's life........ it is something which older parents have to think of and tests are done during pregnancy....... but it's a fact.

Not wishing to be Mr doom and gloom, but just saying to think about those things as they would impact on a long term relationship.

 

[DaddysTastyTreat]

I know this is a sex forum, and all the older guys are saying to just go for it, have a great time and all that, but there is a serious side as well, especially regarding children.

I was an older parent, with my first child born when I was 49, and another when I was 53, and it has been (and still is) a wonderful experience, but I am now separated and that's partly because my younger wife still had ideas of behaving like a twenty something - I know, that's the way to do it and all that from all you people on the outside, but reality and fantasy can be different.
My children would prefer to be with me and say their mother has no time for them, but of course the female usually gets custody (uk laws), so that makes for unhappy children and unhappy dad.
The bigger potential problem is the fact that it's not only a woman's age which is a cause for concern, but the older the father is, the higher the risk of abnormalities, and so you could have an older father (who will not have the same energy as a 30 yr old month after month) and a child which needs extra care and attention for the rest of it's life........ it is something which older parents have to think of and tests are done during pregnancy....... but it's a fact.

Not wishing to be Mr doom and gloom, but just saying to think about those things as they would impact on a long term relationship.

You speak from personal experience, and I thank you for expressing your concern.

I will say, however, in my own defense, that I kind of behave like an older person now anyway: I do not drink, or smoke, I do not party, nor do I wish to. I read a lot, and listen to lectures on tape.

I do not wish to go out and seek others. For me, there is no one else.

I have finally met a man that fulfills all of my needs. He is understanding and accepting of my many neuroses and quirks. He is gentle with me, but firm in his ways. He encourages me to strive for my goals. He believes strongly in personal growth - having and achieving one's goals.

I am willing to take whatever risks there may be with an older partner. I, myself, am young and fertile... I'm sure that helps. *Shrug* and our genetics are very different from one another... That is probably a contributing factor as well.

 

[Jada59]

Two things come to mind if you want to marry a much older man and have kids. one is that the older he gets, the less sperm he has. And he could die while the kids are young. Of course that could happen to anyone but it's more likely, the older one gets. Make sure he has good life insurance or you could be stuck struggling to pay for those kids, unless you have a really good job!

I did date a much older man. Neither of us were looking for marriage and we got along just fine so it was great!

But I once went on a blind date from hell. My much older friend set me up with this guy. Her BF was much older than her and the guy I was set up with was somewhere between their ages. I have a feeling if I had just gone out with him, it might have gone better. But it was a double date. All three of them new each other.

All night long, all they talked about was a time frame from either before I was born, when I was a baby/toddler to little kid. I just couldn't relate to what they were talking about. I quickly grew bored. And then it got worse. The guy I was set up with wasn't so much doing this, in fact he kept trying to change the topic but to no avail. My friend and her BF kept trying to make me feel stupid because I couldn't relate to what they were saying. And then they blamed me when we all got carded when we tried to order drinks.

I am assuming that your guy isn't the type like I mentioned above.

You might also get nasty comments from strangers. I once went to lunch at a fancy restaurant with my dad. I would have thought that it would be obvious to strangers that he was in fact my dad. He is no longer with us but people I have shown his picture to have said they could see the resemblance. But these two old ladies at another table kept saying, "Look at that MUCH older man with that young lady!" And then implying that I was a gold digger. I was seething into my salad but my dad thought it was funny!

 

[dannyboy1958]

in my opinion

As several have commented its the age at which it happens - 17 years v's 47 - id be upset - 30 v's 60, not so much an issue.
My wife now had an ex partner who was 25 years her senior, she found it funny when people referred to him as her father - he didnt.
My BIL has a wife 28 years his junior happily married, she devoted two lovely kids but he struggles to keep up with all the daddy duties attached to kids.
A friend of mine is 72 his wife - 25 - very happy, but resigned to the though she might be a widow before shes 40!

As a 60 year old - Id say go for it and enjoy it too.

As someone said to me recently - opinions are like arses - we all have one and thy are all different!

Good luck.

 

[DaddysTastyTreat]

You might also get nasty comments from strangers. I once went to lunch at a fancy restaurant with my dad. I would have thought that it would be obvious to strangers that he was in fact my dad.

I have had similar experiences with my own dad, who is in his seventies. We were checking out at the grocery store, and the cashier said 'Enjoy the day with your...' and she gave me this disgusted look, 'companion.'

I was so upset. My dad didn't understand why I would let her comment ruin my day, but I was just taken aback by how rude she felt entitled to being.

 

[DaddysTastyTreat]

Good luck.

Thank you!

 

[ArthurW]

Lady you are the one in love with him. The main question is do you love him? You see we can say anything we want but you must decide what you want. Love does not know age sex color or anything. I have seen age difference of 50 years work. How because it was how they cared about each other. She had 30 years and 4 kids from him.

 

[DaddysTastyTreat]

Lady you are the one in love with him. The main question is do you love him? You see we can say anything we want but you must decide what you want. Love does not know age sex color or anything. I have seen age difference of 50 years work. How because it was how they cared about each other. She had 30 years and 4 kids from him.

Woah.

Boom.

Yes. Thank you. You're absolutely right.

 

[Jada59]

I have had similar experiences with my own dad, who is in his seventies. We were checking out at the grocery store, and the cashier said 'Enjoy the day with your...' and she gave me this disgusted look, 'companion.'

I was so upset. My dad didn't understand why I would let her comment ruin my day, but I was just taken aback by how rude she felt entitled to being.

Yep. There are a lot of rude people out there.

 

[Adrraiya]

My dad had his youngest child with his new wife just 6 months before my son was born.

Daddy & I would take my son & my 1/2 sister out to movies, ice cream, etc....

People would always say "Y'all have such cute twins"...... I would simply smile & say "That is my Dad. I am his oldest. This is my son & that is his youngest daughter."

I took no offense. My Dad never looked his age.




Consider that I have dated a man 20 years younger than me & when younger I dated a man 30 years older than me.

Age is just a number... don't let it get to you.

 

[sanishen]

You make the most of your man and your love life - it is yours to live. Age difference is not a big thing if you enjoy one another and really do care. I liked your daddy story. I do hope you write more.

Kiss

N.

 

[masterslave00]

As a 58 yr old man, I say screw his head off!!! Us old men need love too!

And we are like a wine - the older the better. We last longer (well, sometimes it even takes time to get hard ), we usually are "old school" gentlemen, we usually eat pussies, don't demand anal sex (it was not hip when we were young) etc...

Sir, I like your style. Thanks for the enthused advice.

Just a shame that you have fallen for someone else already

I met a man 30 years my senior, and fell hard for him.

Is 30 years too big an age difference? If your daughter brought home a man over twice her age... What would your reaction be? Would you date someone 30 years your junior?

Go for it baby. If you love him, go for it...

 

[amflyer2018]

You speak from personal experience, and I thank you for expressing your concern.

I will say, however, in my own defense, that I kind of behave like an older person now anyway: I do not drink, or smoke, I do not party, nor do I wish to. I read a lot, and listen to lectures on tape.

I do not wish to go out and seek others. For me, there is no one else.

I have finally met a man that fulfills all of my needs. He is understanding and accepting of my many neuroses and quirks. He is gentle with me, but firm in his ways. He encourages me to strive for my goals. He believes strongly in personal growth - having and achieving one's goals.

I am willing to take whatever risks there may be with an older partner. I, myself, am young and fertile... I'm sure that helps. *Shrug* and our genetics are very different from one another... That is probably a contributing factor as well.

What you said right here tells me everything I need to know. You both love each other and if you both have found common ground, then go for it! No one can tell you who you should be with. Someone's age should not be a factor if you have found happiness. Let your heart guide you. It sounds like you have given this a lot of thought and I think you know what you want and what makes you happy. I think it will be a beautiful relationship. Best wishes to you both!

 

[thespiceoflife]

as a fit late fifties my lover was early 30s. We were amazing together and could have made it work. She was very keen but I had some reservations...not now but 10/20 years down the line. Sex was the best ever for both of us but I knew what she needed and wondered if I could deliver when she was still at her peak.
She has since found someone else after 6 years as I didn't commit. Interestingly her new man is the same age as me. I still have reservations but also huge regrets I didn't take the plunge.

 

[Midwest50Guy]

as long as you are both happy, who cares what anybody else thinks. go for it and be happy. you only live once.