3-somes?

[zigzagzarf]

ok my wife and i are planning on having a 3-some for many reasons..(shes been with girls before and would like to do it again and my wife is the only girl i've ever been with and she wants to let me see what another girl would be like in bed)

anyway, we are planning on getting her bestfriend to be our third...what are some good ways to bring this up to her friend?...my wife is planning on trying to seduce her friend and just go from there but she ain't really sure on how to do it...see the only time my wife was with another girl before she was drunk and that girl came onto her...so where kinda clueless as to how to go about doing this

any advice would be a great help so thanks in advance

 

[catalina_francisco]

Depends whether the best friend is going to be into this idea. It is often best to involve a third who has no previous connections to either of you....that way there is not risk of feeling that one or the other has been secretly lusting after another all this time, avoids losing a friend, makes the need to find a way to open the topic obsolete as you state it up front in an advert, and can be a more discreet approach avoiding unwanted negativeness. An unwilling and unimpressed friend can be very vocal and embarrassing. Have fun either way.

Catalina

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

Agree with Catalina ... beware jeopardizing a friendship. Perhaps your SO can broach the concept and gauge reaction before "going in for the kill". If that doesn't work, then an acquaintance as opposed to friend might be the best way to start.

 

[AV guy II]

Indeed. If your SO's friend isn't up for it, then hold back and look elsewhere. There's no sense in losing a friend over that.

 

[ReadyOne]

One source for a 3rd is an "ex", assuming you parted on good terms are still in the same geographical area...

 

[Lust Engine]

Always a touchy subject to say the least. Have great hot sex...lose a friend? Is it worth it?? So many idiosycracies here to consider. Think it through with worst case scenario leading the way & then decide.

 

[sexxyange1]

My SO and I have been hunting for third party in the bedroom for a few months now without much luck. We aren't willing to sacrifice friendships and have tried bangmatch and other adult hook up sites. Any thing we're missing in our hunt?

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

My SO and I have been hunting for third party in the bedroom for a few months now without much luck. We aren't willing to sacrifice friendships and have tried bangmatch and other adult hook up sites. Any thing we're missing in our hunt?

Sexxy, would be glad to volunteer if only had a shortcut to Windor!

 

[Diamante]

My SO and I have been hunting for third party in the bedroom for a few months now without much luck. We aren't willing to sacrifice friendships and have tried bangmatch and other adult hook up sites. Any thing we're missing in our hunt?

I am having the same problem.

I've had a threesome with two guys and now I want there to be two girls in on the action.

The thing is, my one friend who I know would be into it because she's told me she wants to fuck me, has a boyfriend and I could NEVER sleep with him. We work together and it would make it way too awkward.

As bad as I do want to do this, I don't exactly know how to approach anyone with it. I guess it's one of those things that I would rather just come to me...even though I doubt that would happen.

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

I am having the same problem.

I've had a threesome with two guys and now I want there to be two girls in on the action.

The thing is, my one friend who I know would be into it because she's told me she wants to fuck me, has a boyfriend and I could NEVER sleep with him. We work together and it would make it way too awkward.

As bad as I do want to do this, I don't exactly know how to approach anyone with it. I guess it's one of those things that I would rather just come to me...even though I doubt that would happen.

Patience, patience.

 

[Shagadelic69]

My wife and I have talked about bringing in a 3rd (guy or gal), and we love to watch videos of 3 somes and orgies. My wife works at a dentist's office and she has told me about patients she would love to have a 3 some with. But when it comes down to making a decision, my wife backs off. So right now it is more of a fantasy. I am not sure if we will ever make the plunge. I can't wait for it to happen though

 

[JRaven]

Talk about it

Talk to your friend ABOUT sex. Find out what she's into. Knowing her thoughts about sex in general will let you know if she might be into it. If she's not into women, you'll find out without having to ask her to go to bed with you. Instead, you can mention to your friend that your husband likes her and that you wouldn't mind if she did it with him. Invite her over for dinner, let your husband seduce her.

Sorry. Started getting into story writing mode.
Good luck, and let us know how it works out.
Jenny

 

[Ezzy]

I have tried it a few times, and for the best, they have been outside friendship to start with, but became friends as the relationships deepened.

There was a certain reluctance (for me) to let friends see what I am capable of from the get go, and therefore for there to be a less risk taking attitude, can lower a boom on what fun you all have.

The other thing to remember is that the communication between the three of you needs to be very truthful and clear, when you find a possible third, make sure the ground rules of acceptable behavior have been gone over, this has always helped know and accept the limits.

I would look outside the friends you share, non jealous ex's are a good idea, but hard to find, I would consider trying to find a swinger bar or club or even a good gay/lesbian/bi club if you don't live in the sticks, try a few visits to the same bar/club, on the same night of the week, let your selves be seen as a couple looking and you will not take too long before you are noticed.

I had lesbian neighbors and gay neighbors while we were being straightish (myself and my girlfriend) the local gay/lesbian bar used to scare me slightly when I was being insecure about who I and my girlfriend were, and what we were doing there, it did not take long for the word to go around that we were friends of XX and YY and that we were straight. I even had the "pleasure" one night of overhearing a conversation between two guys at the bar, as I headed for the rest room. One said to the other, "He's straight, it is such a waste, I could just sit here and cry in my beer!" and his friend comforted him with, "It's a shame... but there are plenty more fish in the sea!"

My girlfriend talked me into a number of threesomes with two girls and myself, and a handful of two guys and her (me being one of the guys), but all started out as acquaintances not friends.

Take your time and find someone who is stable in other aspects of their life, this will save on any emotional ware and tear on yours should you find a happy third.

 

[ventress69]

Me and my hubby had a 3-some relation ship with my best friend for a while there,, then she got back with her hubby and it stopped but we are still best friends and flirt all the time. And we are talking about doing it again but my hubby might just watch and take pics this time. I guess it all depends on how your friend veiws sex.

Recently we have had hubby's friend over with us, but it was just me and him and hubby watched, but i guess that would be a different fetish thread huh.

ventress.

 

[bayou_boy]

3 somes

my wife and i have had several encounters. the most important thing is to find a person/couple who won't become emotionally attached to you.

 

[doncarlos]

My girlfriend of two years and I have discussed the idea of having another lady included in our great sex. We normally meet close to JFK airport but really have no idea about how to approach finding that third person. We like the general suggestions advanced here (no close friends etc) but dont know, for example, which boards or media are the best to use for advertising. Any ideas? Or interested parties? (lol)