2nd therpay session

[burrish]

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[ffemtp]

Hang in there it may take sometime for progress to be seen and felt.
You will know if you need to toss in the towel and at least you will be able to at the point say you tried.

Hugg hugg hugg i think you need one.

 

[ReadyOne]

It may take him a while to decide he has your confidence, or for you get to where you're really comfortable.

I'd take a checkpoint in session 6, and if it looks really bad, then ask for a referral. If it's neutral, you may find it stays neutral for a long time and then you decide to cut your losses/conclude therapy is no good.

What I'm saying is both "give it a chance" and "after it's had it's chance, do something else". You can get to a point where you need to either feed it or starve it so that it will live or die and not just linger on.

Of course, we all hope the third alternative -- you start gaining from it -- is the one that happens and that will let you go on in a successful way.

PS: Listen to the guy when he says you are handling something well (or much better than most). He's got the experience to know how bad it can really be. So accept credit where it's due and realize you are capable and competent.

 

[James G 5]

not all people work out with all therapists, either
give it a few more sessions
if it's still not working, try another therapist instead of giving up

 

[lovechild27]

therapy isnt some magical thing where you go in two or three or four times and POOF its all better. Does it take a while...yes. I spent a lonnnggg time in therapy and it took a while to get to the heart of things. I know if I hadnt stuck with it I wouldnt be able to have the awesome relationship I do today with my guy, I wouldnt have the confidence to do the things I do. So stick with it and know that the real work is what you do for yourself outside of the office. The shrink is there to help guide you down the path...but you are the one that has to actually walk.

 

[midwestyankee]

not all people work out with all therapists, either
give it a few more sessions
if it's still not working, try another therapist instead of giving up

JG5 is absolutely correct here. Give therapy a few more sessions to get a better sense of what the experience of talk therapy is all about. If, after a half dozen sessions you don't care for this particular therapist (and they're people with a wide variety of points of view, so there is a wide variety of therapists to choose from) but have the sense that talk therapy might help, then by all means get a referral to another one.

ReadyOne also gave good advice. Therapists see different people all week long and over the course of their careers they get an excellent perspective on how well people deal with the troubles in their lives. If he tells you it appears that you're handling some things well, chance are you are.

However, if this therapist appears to hold views that just don't square with yours (I've heard of some, for example, who hold moralistic positions that would be offensive to some people) then it's time to look elsewhere.

You know how it often helps to talk over your troubles with a friend? Think of your therapist as a friend (well, a sort-of-expensive friend) who has terrific listening skills and the broad experience to help you see yourself and your responses to your problems more clearly. With this help you can make the choices you will need to make in order to deal with the problems.

Good luck. I'm glad you took this step and also that you posted to keep us in touch with your progress.

 

[Jenny _S]

Burris,
There is an old joke that goes:

Q: "How many Shrinks does it take to change a light bulb?"
A: "Only one, but it takes a long time and the light bulb has to want to change."

There's way too much truth in that joke. Hang in there.

 

[Mstrskey]

It's only the 2 nd shot hun...

try to give it a bit more time and see if you feel like you're making any progress.
I know in the beginning I felt as if I were going backwards instead of forwards, all the focus seemed in my eyes to be on me and not on our relationship, but eventually I began to see the method to the madness.

If after a few more sessions you still feel like you're wasting your time...seek out a different therapist and try again, or see if you're comfortable with the fact that this therapy isn't working for you and try something different.
Hang in there girl!

 

[Limbhugger]

Hi Burrish,

The title of this thread caught my eye. I soon realized I didn't know what was going on and went back and read all your posts on this matter that I found.

My advice of your situation would be radically different than what I have seen given. So I shall refrain. I'm just a guy making his way through life and certainly no expert so what do I know? Besides, my wife says my advice usually comes across something like a Mack truck hitting a watermelon on the freeway.

At any rate, the point I wanted to make is, take care of yourself. Look out for yourself. That is critical to you and those youngsters you mentioned. It isn't selfish. I'm really glad you're seeking answers in a way you feel may help and hope you find what you seek. But the bottom line is, take care of yourself.

Best wishes,

Hugger

 

[Lust Engine]

As long as you're going & getting so me kind of resolution, go for it! Keep it up!