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[Jeanie99]

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[guardiaknight]

Any recent changes in your life or health? Any new stress? How long has it been since you last had a satisfying orgasm? Was it with a partner or without? Anything of note happen since then, that might be related?

Sorry to bombard you with questions, those are just the things I could think of off the top of my head that might be relevant to ask.

 

[Jeanie99]

There is always stress but I left my high stress job in June and have been just been not done much since then. I've always had problems having a satisfying orgasm but id say the last year had been the worst. My last even simi great one was with a partner but I think I did most of the work for him. Haha.

 

[Noor]

Im just gonna ask and see if anyone has real information or suggestions that could help. I cant seem to have a good orgasm anymore. I can cum but its brief and lackluster. Especially after spending quite some time working towards that goal. This is not just a problem when im solo. It happens with a partner also.

It happened to me after major surgery.
Adding hrt helped.

 

[Donald1961]

Im just gonna ask and see if anyone has real information or suggestions that could help. I cant seem to have a good orgasm anymore. I can cum but its brief and lackluster. Especially after spending quite some time working towards that goal. This is not just a problem when im solo. It happens with a partner also.

Do you get oral ,that is performed on you longer than an hour

 

[Donald1961]

Do you get oral ,that is performed on you longer than an hour

You can always try video taping your self satisfaction to see what can possibly help you

 

[Jeanie99]

Do you get oral ,that is performed on you longer than an hour

No. An hour?? Wow!

 

[Donald1961]

No. An hour?? Wow!

You need a man to work with you that is not a lick lick and says your turn ,,Dr Ruth always said that the only way to get orgasms and multiple orgasms is by having a partner performing oral sex until the female is sexually satisfied, even if it takes 4hours

 

[Donald1961]

You need a man to work with you that is not a lick lick and says your turn ,,Dr Ruth always said that the only way to get orgasms and multiple orgasms is by having a partner performing oral sex until the female is sexually satisfied, even if it takes 4hours

A plus is to find a man that loves the feel ,the flavor, and who enjoys giving a woman oral

 

[LMWM321]

I took the hrt about 15 years ago for awhile but quit.

Talk to your doctor. ..If it's not obvious from the above responses, you're not going to get good advice here. For example, it is NOT simply a matter of someone using better oral technique (jeezus people, WTF?...)

HRT, particularly testosterone, has been shown to help some men and menopausal women with improved sexual functioning - incl. increased desire, sexual responsiveness, and ability to orgasm. But there could be a myriad of other physical and psychological reasons. So, again, a GOOD doctor - ie., one who fully appreciates the importance of sex - is your go-to.

I will say that always making having an Orgasm the goal of sex can become quite counterproductive. When it doesn't happen, it can cause a person to approach sex with a sense of pending failure. ..Which is NOT conducive to enjoying sex.

When my wife, who was struggling with menopause, and I heeded the advice of a sex therapist to focus ONLY on mutual pleasure, my wife resumed having orgasms.

 

[Noor]

I took the hrt about 15 years ago for awhile but quit.

Maybe try again? The topical estrogen or estring might help

 

[Donald1961]

Talk to your doctor. ..If it's not obvious from the above responses, you're not going to get good advice here. For example, it is NOT simply a matter of someone using better oral technique (jeezus people, WTF?...)

HRT, particularly testosterone, has been shown to help some men and menopausal women with improved sexual functioning - incl. increased desire, sexual responsiveness, and ability to orgasm. But there could be a myriad of other physical and psychological reasons. So, again, a GOOD doctor - ie., one who fully appreciates the importance of sex - is your go-to.

I will say that always making having an Orgasm the goal of sex can become quite counterproductive. When it doesn't happen, it can cause a person to approach sex with a sense of pending failure. ..Which is NOT conducive to enjoying sex.

When my wife, who was struggling with menopause, and I heeded the advice of a sex therapist to focus ONLY on mutual pleasure, my wife resumed having orgasms.

And if you listen this shithead you will be spending lots of money to come up with the solution ,,,, when life's problems most are fixed by KISS ,,, keep it simple stupid if you are rich go his way but if you are simple like most of us then go my way and in the long run you will be sexually satisfied,,his way you will owe doctors alot of money paying there retirement instead do it my way and enjoy life or do it his way and be poor ,upset and miserable for the rest of your life super stressful used because you are broke

 

[Donald1961]

And if you listen this shithead you will be spending lots of money to come up with the solution ,,,, when life's problems most are fixed by KISS ,,, keep it simple stupid if you are rich go his way but if you are simple like most of us then go my way and in the long run you will be sexually satisfied,,his way you will owe doctors alot of money paying there retirement instead do it my way and enjoy life or do it his way and be poor ,upset and miserable for the rest of your life super stressful used because you are broke

Also this guy also has sex with other men ,and are you going to go to a doctor on the word of a faggot, there are lots of gay people who are married and have children and are doctors that want you to spend all your money when you can experiment and most likely get what you want ,,but going by Dr. Ruth she said that 95 percent of all women in the world has never had the big O ,,, and there is no doctor in the world that can give you one ,first it's illegal second the ones who said they could are in prison for raping their patients

 

[Noor]

Wow, who says she’s broke and doesn’t have decent medical care?
This is something that can happen to women esp if their hormones are off. You start to orgasm and it just frizzles out. Has nothing to do with your partners technique or relationship with your partner. The OP also mentions this problem with masturbation.
There are also medications that can cause this.

 

[Noor]

Also this guy also has sex with other men ,and are you going to go to a doctor on the word of a faggot, there are lots of gay people who are married and have children and are doctors that want you to spend all your money when you can experiment and most likely get what you want ,,but going by Dr. Ruth she said that 95 percent of all women in the world has never had the big O ,,, and there is no doctor in the world that can give you one ,first it's illegal second the ones who said they could are in prison for raping their patients

hrt, which can only be obtained through a prescription by a doctor, can definitely help with orgasms. It’s not illegal either.

 

[Donald1961]

Wow, who says she’s broke and doesn’t have decent medical care?
This is something that can happen to women esp if their hormones are off. You start to orgasm and it just frizzles out. Has nothing to do with your partners technique or relationship with your partner. The OP also mentions this problem with masturbation.
There are also medications that can cause this.

You are on a sex forum chat not a medical forum chat if you want to be a doctor maybe you should find a medical chat room because your answers are going to make women not want to have any sex anymore

 

[LMWM321]

Also this guy also has sex with other men ,and are you going to go to a doctor on the word of a faggot, there are lots of gay people who are married and have children and are doctors that want you to spend all your money when you can experiment and most likely get what you want ,,but going by Dr. Ruth she said that 95 percent of all women in the world has never had the big O ,,, and there is no doctor in the world that can give you one ,first it's illegal second the ones who said they could are in prison for raping their patients

Are you referring to me? I am not gay; however, if it suits you to believe I am, I am fine with that. Though I do wish you would drop the offensive labels. And even if I was gay, my advice would be the exact same. The OP should talk to a doctor.

Not that I want to encourage you, but she said it’s more difficult to orgasm even while masturbating. So how does that square with your idiotic advice about finding a partner who is better at oral?

 

[Donald1961]

Are you referring to me? I am not gay; however, if it suits you to believe I am, I am fine with that. Though I do wish you would drop the offensive labels. And even if I was gay, my advice would be the exact same. The OP should talk to a doctor.

Not that I want to encourage you, but she said it’s more difficult to orgasm even while masturbating. So how does that square with your idiotic advice about finding a partner who is better at oral?

Ok whatever you say JOE BIDEN