👀 Mother’s Day Reflections: How Doms Really Nurture Their Good Girls!! 👅

[flameinsidesoul]

How We Really Raise Our Submissives Not just with rules, but with reward… and ruin.

So yeah… world’s out here celebrating mothers. But I’m sitting back thinking about what real Doms, Daddies, Mommies, Owners, and Trainers do. We raise submissives. Not just to listen — but to feel, to ache, to evolve.

It’s not just: “Do what I say.”
It’s:“Let me teach you how to become who you’re afraid to admit you want to be."
The kind of girl who earns her orgasms. Who gets called good when she’s filthy. Who knows her place… and loves the view from down there.

Let’s be honest, A smart Dom knows when to choke her. But a wise Dom knows when to untie her and say, “Now show me what I taught you.”

You don’t just discipline. You design. You build rituals, set standards, fuck with her mind until submission becomes second nature.

A glance becomes a leash. A voice note becomes a vibrator. A denied orgasm becomes the sermon she meditates on all day.

And rewards? They’re never free. She earns every drop of cum.... Every slap. Every kiss. Every ruined orgasm while crying into the pillow.

Why?Because when she finally gets it…She knows it matters.

So I’m curious....

How do you train your sub?

What do you take away when she breaks a rule?

What do you make her do to earn the pleasure back?


Most importantly, Are you building a dependent toy…Or a powerful, obedient force of nature who chooses to kneel because she knows your worth? Drop your rituals. Your secrets. Your methods of molding. Because some of us aren’t here to play. We’re here to raise greatness.

 

[calmlikeabomb]

Lovely way of putting it.

Communication, trust and vulnerability are really the key. Communication specifically (both verbal and non verbal) is so important at all stages of the relationship.

Asking questions because you are seeking to understand the human being before you. Being open minded to accept that whole you may perform certain acts together, your reasons for doing so may be completely different (eg: my need to spank her because of my sadism vs her desire to be spanked because the sharp sting gives her a cathartic release and let's her forget everything that's bothering her, suffocating her).

And growth comes from change, and as the dom, my responsibility is to make sure the change, whether it is pushing her boundaries, or diving deeper into her fantasies, comes from a place of trust, and that she knows that she can trust me to push her, stretch her beyond her limit, but that she can also trust me to hold her at the end and help her find her way back to who she needs to be.