….pick up younger woman at a bar, what makes older men attractive to younger woman

[shizzz]

The age gap can be whatever you think. If you’re an older guy, what has worked for you? If you’re a younger woman, what would/could/has worked for you?

Older man who may be getting released back into the wild soon and have no idea what I’m in for…..

 

[Britva415]

Look rich.

 

[12oclocktales]

Look rich.

Right on. Like the old song said: There ain't no romance without finance.

 

[shizzz]

Right on. Like the old song said: There ain't no romance without finance.

Seems like I got no chance

 

[12oclocktales]

Seems like I got no chance

Not true, friend. Gotta stay hopeful. Another music quote, different genre, spoken by the man to the lady: “You got the money, honey, I got the time.” Probably won't work, but it's a nice thought.

 

[shizzz]

Attitude and confidence is what everyone says.

But where is the love for the pitiful and pathetic? That’s what I need. Some gal that wants to turn my frown upside down

 

[littlecordelera]

I dated an older guy in college. When we met, I was 19 and he was 48. We dated for about four years, but only because he was very wealthy, and I needed money for college. He was an attractive, wonderful guy, but we had very little in common. I lived in the young-adult world, and he lived in the middle-aged world. Without the money aspect, I wouldn't have had any interest in him. Given our age difference, I couldn't see him as a long-term relationship, and if I just wanted sex, there were far better options.

So to answer your own question, put yourself in her position. Why would she be interested in you? There may be plenty of reason, but you need to decide what that is and be prepared to present your case.

Good luck!

 

[Britva415]

I lived in the young-adult world, and he lived in the middle-aged world.

Got to ask, out of curiosity - Did he pick you up at a bar?

 

[LittleSwitchy]

The age gap can be whatever you think. If you’re an older guy, what has worked for you? If you’re a younger woman, what would/could/has worked for you?

Older man who may be getting released back into the wild soon and have no idea what I’m in for…..

What age gap are you referring too? If it’s 5- maybe 10 years. It MAY work out. If it’s over 10 years. I’m going to say there’s some daddy issues or gold digger.
What do you want exactly? Do you want a relationship or just fun? If fun then go for it. Just don’t catch feelings. Keep it low key. Just be upfront and honest with what you’re looking for and expect.

 

[littlecordelera]

Got to ask, out of curiosity - Did he pick you up at a bar?

No. He was a customer at a place where I worked. The thing he was purchasing was very big and expensive and requires a lot of support after the sale. The process takes time and visits, so he and I interfaced often. As you can tell, I would rather not say what the item was in these forums.

 

[Rob_Royale]

I had a young female coworker admit her attraction to me after she'd moved away. She liked that I was smart, fun, friendly, treated her like an equal and seemingly uninterested in impressing her. Casual confidence she called it.

 

[Mature4P]

Money, money, money and nothing else.

 

[shizzz]

No. He was a customer at a place where I worked. The thing he was purchasing was very big and expensive and requires a lot of support after the sale. The process takes time and visits, so he and I interfaced often. As you can tell, I would rather not say what the item was in these forums.

You said ‘interfaced often’.

More like ‘in her face often’.

 

[lc69hunter]

I have been pleasantly surprised. I am in my early 70's, a widower (2 years), and since I have come back to life after, I have been with two women in their early 50's, one in her early 40's (married), and a 24 year old (took her to Vegas, thank god for Cialis).

 

[Soccerfanpen21]

Be real, be interested and roll the dice, you may get lucky.

 

[stickygirl]

I dated an older guy in college. When we met, I was 19 and he was 48. We dated for about four years, but only because he was very wealthy, and I needed money for college. He was an attractive, wonderful guy, but we had very little in common. I lived in the young-adult world, and he lived in the middle-aged world. Without the money aspect, I wouldn't have had any interest in him. Given our age difference, I couldn't see him as a long-term relationship, and if I just wanted sex, there were far better options.

So to answer your own question, put yourself in her position. Why would she be interested in you? There may be plenty of reason, but you need to decide what that is and be prepared to present your case.

Good luck!

I know a woman who went through college with an older 'sponsor'. After graduating she moved on and I asked how the breakup went. She said he was sad but not surprised, as though they both knew the arrangement was financial. But as she said, never undervalue teen ass in the hands of an older man.

I think that's the appeal to older men - they're revisiting their youth by dating a much younger woman. Dreaming as usual.

 

[littlecordelera]

I know a woman who went through college with an older 'sponsor'. After graduating she moved on and I asked how the breakup went. She said he was sad but not surprised, as though they both knew the arrangement was financial. But as she said, never undervalue teen ass in the hands of an older man.

I think that's the appeal to older men - they're revisiting their youth by dating a much younger woman. Dreaming as usual.

I don't mean to hijack this thread, so I will say this much and then shut up, but my time with him was very memorable, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. It was clear on the upfront that he wanted "cake," and I needed some sort of financial assistance, and I warned him that of my character flaws, I think highly of myself. He was fun and attentive and kind to everyone, and he taught me so much, but those weren't things I expected going into it. I thought I might date him for a few weeks. I never expected four years.

I wrote about this experience in another thread some time ago, and after my comments in that thread, I decided to track him down and contact him. We talked for hours, and now we text or talk regularly. He is 74 now. God, how time flies! When the heat breaks in Florida, I plan to go visit him.

To the OP or any other guys reading this, let me explain that when this whole thing started, knowing that he only saw me as entertainment, I found highly offensive. Maybe that's just me, but I think you should keep that in mind if you're going to approach a woman in a bar. I love sex, I really do, and while sometimes I like to be "used," nobody wants to be truly used. So what's in it for her?

Read what I said above. I can tell you right now that John would have had zero chance of picking me up in a bar. I honestly don't think you need money for a relationship with a younger woman, but I think a one-night-stand might be difficult to attain.

 

[shizzz]

I don't mean to hijack this thread, so I will say this much and then shut up, but my time with him was very memorable, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. It was clear on the upfront that he wanted "cake," and I needed some sort of financial assistance, and I warned him that of my character flaws, I think highly of myself. He was fun and attentive and kind to everyone, and he taught me so much, but those weren't things I expected going into it. I thought I might date him for a few weeks. I never expected four years.

I wrote about this experience in another thread some time ago, and after my comments in that thread, I decided to track him down and contact him. We talked for hours, and now we text or talk regularly. He is 74 now. God, how time flies! When the heat breaks in Florida, I plan to go visit him.

To the OP or any other guys reading this, let me explain that when this whole thing started, knowing that he only saw me as entertainment, I found highly offensive. Maybe that's just me, but I think you should keep that in mind if you're going to approach a woman in a bar. I love sex, I really do, and while sometimes I like to be "used," nobody wants to be truly used. So what's in it for her?

Read what I said above. I can tell you right now that John would have had zero chance of picking me up in a bar. I honestly don't think you need money for a relationship with a younger woman, but I think a one-night-stand might be difficult to attain.

I can totally understand what you are saying. And it sounds like the odds of me gettting a one night stand from a bar is more about ‘her’ than anything I can do besides appear fun, confident, and cover drinks and food.

That’s my take away so far…..

 

[stickygirl]

I don't mean to hijack this thread, so I will say this much and then shut up, but my time with him was very memorable, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. It was clear on the upfront that he wanted "cake," and I needed some sort of financial assistance, and I warned him that of my character flaws, I think highly of myself. He was fun and attentive and kind to everyone, and he taught me so much, but those weren't things I expected going into it. I thought I might date him for a few weeks. I never expected four years.

I wrote about this experience in another thread some time ago, and after my comments in that thread, I decided to track him down and contact him. We talked for hours, and now we text or talk regularly. He is 74 now. God, how time flies! When the heat breaks in Florida, I plan to go visit him.

To the OP or any other guys reading this, let me explain that when this whole thing started, knowing that he only saw me as entertainment, I found highly offensive. Maybe that's just me, but I think you should keep that in mind if you're going to approach a woman in a bar. I love sex, I really do, and while sometimes I like to be "used," nobody wants to be truly used. So what's in it for her?

Read what I said above. I can tell you right now that John would have had zero chance of picking me up in a bar. I honestly don't think you need money for a relationship with a younger woman, but I think a one-night-stand might be difficult to attain.

In my friend's case, there was a real chemistry to begin with and they respected each other - he once said she was the hardest working person he'd ever met, and smartest. So they remained close though I think the sex fizzled out.
It's good that you've made contact again. Every situation is different, but I'm still in contact with my old flames and it's a shame to deny our past.

 

[littlecordelera]

I can totally understand what you are saying. And it sounds like the odds of me gettting a one night stand from a bar is more about ‘her’ than anything I can do besides appear fun, confident, and cover drinks and food.

That’s my take away so far…..

Honestly, just be yourself.

I guess what I am trying to say is that back in my nightclub days, if I was going to a nightclub with girlfriends, you can bet we were hoping to meet guys. But none of us were hoping to meet an older guy. Why would we?

 

[shizzz]

Honestly, just be yourself.

I guess what I am trying to say is that back in my nightclub days, if I was going to a nightclub with girlfriends, you can bet we were hoping to meet guys. But none of us were hoping to meet an older guy. Why would we?

I would assume you’d be curious about the experience and what it brings. The things I can do with my hands alone now, compared to me in my twenties?! Well, it would bring you to your knees

 

[Isabelangel]

Just being nice and fun to talk to
I always enjoy it when a guy is interested in me enough to come over and starts chatting with me
When he than is cute fun a little sexy and flirty he has done everything right

 

[littlecordelera]

I would assume you’d be curious about the experience and what it brings. The things I can do with my hands alone now, compared to me in my twenties?! Well, it would bring you to your knees

OK, so now we're getting somewhere. You see, every guy in this scenario promotes himself as good in bed. I suggest you never go there. For me, that's an instant turn-off, and from an old guy, it would feel creepy. I agree with what Isabelangel said. "Just [be] nice and fun to talk to." Be interested in me, the person, not me, your-potential-sexual-conquest.

 

[shizzz]

Just being nice and fun to talk to
I always enjoy it when a guy is interested in me enough to come over and starts chatting with me
When he than is cute fun a little sexy and flirty he has done everything right

So how do you stay out of ‘nice guy friend zone’

I’ve got that game in spades!

 

[shizzz]

Just being nice and fun to talk to
I always enjoy it when a guy is interested in me enough to come over and starts chatting with me
When he than is cute fun a little sexy and flirty he has done everything right

I respect this response. But I have seen that lose to the ‘hotter’ guy every single time.

Maybe it’s the caliber of the woman I am attracted to?