How do you get your lover to wash...

Ok, this is cosmic timing or something. There are a slew of body odor threads tonight, and I was thinking about this all day for some reason.

I have a pretty weak stomach as far as odors go, and I was wanting suggestions on how to tell a lover that they need to freshen up the gential area without hurting their feelings or killing the mood. The only one I could come up with was a suggestion of showering together, but even that might not be subtle enough. I would like suggestions on how someone may have delt with this in the past, or just whatever you can think of.

Thanks in advance

Just for clarification, I am talking about a situation where you are maybe getting ready to head down south or something, and things are just not smelling loverly.

I think a bath or shower together is the best way to do it. Either mentioning it casually or as a sexual/foreplay situation works well. You can also make it out to be YOUR problem by saying something like, "I'm a little paranoid about my own cleanliness, so I like to take a quick shower beforehand." Chances are, s/he will agree it's a good idea for both of you to freshen up first.

I guess I'm of the opinion that if someone cares for you, they'll want to be at their best, so suggesting you both hop in the shower or bath before sex isn't offensive or outrageous at all. Besides, is there anything unappealing about wet, naked, slippery bodies, steam, pounding hot water, and such close quarters?

I agree with Sweet Erika's suggestions. In addition, I would recommend wipes (baby wipes) for the bathroom. Having her wipe with baby wipes (or similar wipes) after using the bathroom will keep her fresher, too.

Meat Whistler said:

I agree with Sweet Erika's suggestions. In addition, I would recommend wipes (baby wipes) for the bathroom. Having her wipe with baby wipes (or similar wipes) after using the bathroom will keep her fresher, too.

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Great idea! There are unscented, alcohol free baby wipes that work well for both men and women...maybe you could say you heard they are good for freshening up when a shower isn't convenient and wanted to give them a try?

SweetErika said:

Great idea! There are unscented, alcohol free baby wipes that work well for both men and women...maybe you could say you heard they are good for freshening up when a shower isn't convenient and wanted to give them a try?

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Thanks so much for the baby wipe idea... personally, I always make a visit to the restroom and have a quick wash if I suspect anything will be going on, but I guess guys don't think of odor as much as women do.

Beyond the baby wipe idea...

I would suggest just talking to him about it... But NOT right before, during, or just after... And you have to be tactful about it.

Wait until the next morning and just tell him something like, "You know honey, I really don't want to upset you, and it really isn't a HUGE deal... But when I went down on you you last night, you were just a TINY bit 'unfresh' down there... So, I would REALLY appreciate it if you just cleaned up a little bit before hand next time... You know that I really love to please you, and being clean down there will help me do a better job at it".

If he really cares about you, being honest and tactful about it WON"T upset him... And he'll be more than happy to make sure he's totally clean for you.


This is one area where my OCD comes in handy... I'm totally anal about my personal hygeine.

Thanks for all the replies guys

niteshade said:

Thanks so much for the baby wipe idea... personally, I always make a visit to the restroom and have a quick wash if I suspect anything will be going on, but I guess guys don't think of odor as much as women do.

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It was MW's idea, but I agree men sometimes either don't realize or think anything of their odor.

Confession time !

I was in the forces for ten years, they taught us all about hygiene.. Theres a saying in britains armed forces "Cleanliness is next to Godliness" and there were times I was convinced I was going for a sainthood...

However, nobody ever told me about deodorants, not a one, ever... I was aware of em obviously and I genuinely believed they were something designed for girls etc... get the picture ?

It wasnt until I was in my late 30's that my (now) wife sat me down and had a chat.....

She was open and honest, reassuring and loving. But in well chosen words she told me straight that I had a problem with underarm odour. Well I was horrified, it wasnt something I had considered before, it just had not entered my head.

The overiding cause of my horror wasnt so much that I had an odour problem (despite maintaining my military hygiene regime) but that I was inadvertently causing her a problem.

From that day on, I have made sure to use a deodorant, sometimes now to the point of paranoia !

My point here, is the guy may not know he has a problem, he may be blissfully of the impression that everything is wonderful, and the reason for that is nobody has had the courage to tell him in words of one syllable...

I'd say sit him down and talk with him, in a non threatening environment... certainly not in the bedroom, or anything like it, and just tell him straight how you feel about him, reassure him about his worth to you, but you feel you need to let him know something that none of his other partners may have had the courage to.

At best, he is likely to be as horrified as I was, and take the steps necessary to sort it out. At worst, he will cough and splutter and refuse to accept there is a problem.....

If he accepts it, then its time well spent and both of you are happy, if he doesnt then you havent lost anything... its a win win situation !

niteshade said:

Thanks so much for the baby wipe idea... personally, I always make a visit to the restroom and have a quick wash if I suspect anything will be going on, but I guess guys don't think of odor as much as women do.

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Yeah, we do

I had a quick, quick shower when I got home last night before heading out to meet my lady for a few hours of what I knew was going to fun and most noteable... her mouth manuvering up and down on my dick

I didn't need the shower but I wanted to make sure I "washed" just in case.

When the two of you start getting randy together just suggest that you don't feel all that fresh and that you'd like your lover to wash you. Then the two of you can clean one another in turn and make an adventure and tease time from that.

I've been with a number of women who seemed to have a bit of funk happening for a variety of reasons. I won't abandon my post, and I didn't want to insult them, so I just put it back on myself to keep them comfortable and then went through the motions with what I described above.

Have fun!

Halo_n_horns said:

When the two of you start getting randy together just suggest that you don't feel all that fresh and that you'd like your lover to wash you. Then the two of you can clean one another in turn and make an adventure and tease time from that.

I've been with a number of women who seemed to have a bit of funk happening for a variety of reasons. I won't abandon my post, and I didn't want to insult them, so I just put it back on myself to keep them comfortable and then went through the motions with what I described above.

Have fun!

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This seems the best suggestion so far, but I think I didn't really flesh out the scenario correctly.

Say that there usually isn't a problem, so you haven't had to implement pre-sex precautionary showering. But you get set for some fun, mouth in postion, and all of a sudden you just know that if you put your nose any closer you are gonna heave.
How do you work this out without completely killing the mood?

niteshade said:

This seems the best suggestion so far, but I think I didn't really flesh out the scenario correctly.

Say that there usually isn't a problem, so you haven't had to implement pre-sex precautionary showering. But you get set for some fun, mouth in postion, and all of a sudden you just know that if you put your nose any closer you are gonna heave.
How do you work this out without completely killing the mood?

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I've been there once. Had to think really fast. I started faking a sudden sniffle like I was going to sneeze and said that my nose was running suddenly.

She said, "Awe, you poor thing. Just lay back and relax and I'll take care of you."

I feined that lying down was helping my sudden nasal drip and she proceeded to ride me like hard. We showered afterward and I intiated what I described before. Then I told her that the hot water had done me some good and returned to giving the favor I had tried to give earlier.

Now, if you're that sensitive to various body odors, you're not going to get away with this on a regular basis without your lover figuring it out. You are going to need to set some guidelines about this with your lover.

Just keep it all on yourself to make it easier. Just say that you're very sensitive to many different types of odors and tell your lover that though his/her odors are NOT foul (even if the odor is foul to you), they are a bit more than your particular nose can handle without you getting distracted and unable to please.

Halo_n_horns said:

I've been there once. Had to think really fast. I started faking a sudden sniffle like I was going to sneeze and said that my nose was running suddenly.

She said, "Awe, you poor thing. Just lay back and relax and I'll take care of you."

I feined that lying down was helping my sudden nasal drip and she proceeded to ride me like hard. We showered afterward and I intiated what I described before. Then I told her that the hot water had done me some good and returned to giving the favor I had tried to give earlier.

Now, if you're that sensitive to various body odors, you're not going to get away with this on a regular basis without your lover figuring it out. You are going to need to set some guidelines about this with your lover.

Just keep it all on yourself to make it easier. Just say that you're very sensitive to many different types of odors and tell your lover that though his/her odors are NOT foul (even if the odor is foul to you), they are a bit more than your particular nose can handle without you getting distracted and unable to please.

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LMAO. Nasal drip hehe thats great! Thanks!

niteshade said:

LMAO. Nasal drip hehe thats great! Thanks!

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Whatever it takes to get the job done. My pleasure.