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How many dominants can imagine themselves in a relationship with another dominant?

Can you imagine yourself in a committed relationship with another dominant?

  • Yes, I am a male dominant and can imagine being involved with another dominant

    Votes: 6 25.0%

  • Yes, I am a female dominant and can imagine being involved with another dominant

    Votes: 6 25.0%

  • No, I am a male dominant and cannot imagine being involved with another dominant

    Votes: 2 8.3%

  • No, I am a female dominant and cannot imagine being involved with another dominant

    Votes: 4 16.7%

  • Not sure/other

    Votes: 6 25.0%
  • Total voters
    24
Mr Blonde

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First: See poll question!

Next: How would it work? What do you think would happen? What third (or fourth) parties would be involved? What are strengths and weaknesses of such an arrangement? Any other comments about two dominants being in a committed relationship?

(And I mean two confirmed dominants, regardless of genders and no semi-switches.)
 
argh, I fucked up those results, yes I can envision it, no I am not male.

I can't imagine submitting to anyone with any ongoing basis, so that's ruling out the switch factor in me, negligible.

I can imagine being in a relationship of secondary/casual status with another Dominant. Since I already have a submissive primary, the point is kind of moot there.

I don't think I could have a Dominant primary, simply because the personalities never seem to mesh. There is always too much tension. A switch? A top switch who only submits to me periodically? I coud do that, because that willingness to bend makes me more willing to do same, it's sexy to me.

but a Dominant periodic lover of import? A once-a-week fuck friend? Sure.

How would it work? Vanilla, entre-nous. Then we'd share our devious intent with those who would submit to us both. Lots of voyeurism and stuff, sadistic use of torture in order to *get us off*.
 
Don't worry, I didn't vote, but I jsut wanted to say that i know that fungiug is married to a domme. You might want to take your questions to him.
 
not a PYL either BUT it would be alot like two dog trainers trying to train a puppy, contradictions could be bad unless they talk ahead of time about how they works things.
or a "too many chefs spoil the pot" thing.

I could see it happening, but more on a mentor position could be safe. If it was two+ set in their ways I'd hope for alot of communication!
 
Go on, shatter my aimless daydream of making sweatsuit girl bark like a dog with you. :)

Well, at least you and RR and a couple others have made me less of a total chauvenist, ewww gross, where guy tops are concerned. I think it's just too much time in middle america for Netz, sometimes.

Observation - among the leatherqueers of the US. Top/Top pairings are quite common! I know a whole mess of Top/Top couples, where co-topping is the major SM erotic expression.
 
Netzach said:
Go on, shatter my aimless daydream of making sweatsuit girl bark like a dog with you. :)

Well, at least you and RR and a couple others have made me less of a total chauvenist, ewww gross, where guy tops are concerned. I think it's just too much time in middle america for Netz, sometimes.

Observation - among the leatherqueers of the US. Top/Top pairings are quite common! I know a whole mess of Top/Top couples, where co-topping is the major SM erotic expression.
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Hmmm.... throw in some latex and we'll talk about it.
 
Oh yeah, I could DEFINITELY fuck with a woman who was dominant with others but submissive to me. In fact, that would be the nut buster supreme.
 
I was the "Yes, I am a male dominant and can imagine being involved with another dominant" vote.

Originally posted by Netzach

I don't think I could have a Dominant primary, simply because the personalities never seem to mesh. There is always too much tension.
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I don't think a relationship with a domme would be ideal or my first preference, but I tend to date "strong-willed" women so I wouldn't run off if we clicked in other areas. At times there might be less tension if we were equals who got our D/s or sado-masochism with third parties. She could have her own male sub and/or we could share a female sub.

This was basically a theoretical question because I am happy in my current relationship. Admittedly a dom-domme pairing would have problems of its own, but I can see where it would tend to solve other issues that commonly occur in my relationships.
 
I voted "yes and yes", because I'm a dominant and my partner is a dominant. I'm more into D/s than she is, but we are both alpha personalities. Both intent on what we want, like things our own way, and stubborn as mules.

And yet we have a partnership that works, largely because we don't try to dominant each other. That's not to say there isn't power play in our relationship (show me a relationship that doesn't include power play of some kind and I'll show you a graveyard.) But we don't go out of our way to dominate each other or to overrule each other.

It has problems at times, but so do all relationships.

In terms of submission, either I play with a submissive by myself or we have threesomes. Preferably the latter.

Note that my partner is not a "domme", but is most definately dominant in nature.
 
rosco rathbone said:
yeah--as long as she wasn't as dominant as I am. If you know what I mean.
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This is why it never works for me.

If I were with someone pretty fundamentally low key about the issue, it would work. I think it might work better with other women, who, whether by wiring or by nurture tend to be less competitive....

and certainly they elicit less competition FROM me.

If I sensed this in my relationship, I'd just have to kick ass. I'd just have to enact a scorch and burn or something so deviously passive-agressively brilliant that I was the top dog, even if only in the part of my mind that no one else can touch and only I control.

However there are men I could see this setup working with who just don't really care about the hierarchy as it concerns us -- someone who likes how I am enough that the idea of me submitting to him is kind of "ew."
 
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I briefly dated a woman who was dominant overall. It was a constant struggle for power in everything we did. It didn't last long.
 
It'll be cool to see what Sweetdommes have to say here. But yes, I could picture it. I don't think it'd work if the other PYL and I were submissive to one or the other of us. But as a couple thing, yes, I could.
 
Marquis said:
Oh yeah, I could DEFINITELY fuck with a woman who was dominant with others but submissive to me. In fact, that would be the nut buster supreme.
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I agree Marquis. omg do I ever!



I'm definitely alpha and I've been in relationship w/ equally strong alphas~ I love it..it's a constant acknowledgment of eachother's power (if both wish it to be) & the power dynamics-- who is more balanced about this situation, who is going to be the bigger stronger person and submit...and how is it going to be done w/o it being so obvious or injurious to their own pride~ and will the other allow it

but yes! domming one & submitting to the other--- that is a place I've often dreamed of living in
 
Opinions and side topics are fine, but remember the poll and the questions centered around two dominants in a relationship. That means no one switching or submitting to the other. An equal partnership between the two of them.
 
Marquis said:
I don't think the idea of you submitting to me is "ew" Netz. :p :devil:
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I encourage everyone to have and cherish a few completely off the wall fantasies.
:)
:devil:
 
Yes I can imagine it but then I have a good imagination. If such an unlikey event were to occur We would both have to have Our own submissives or slaves of course.
 
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