Turning ur girl on
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Shalin671
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Depends on the girl. Find out what she likes and doesn'tlike, if you're too teh kissing stage of the relationship try kissing her in various eroginous areas that aren't overly grabby type areas, places like the neck, behind the ear, chin, etc.
SkyyAngel
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gennex said:
You know...I'm all for posting stupid questions and all but this is just downright moronic.....
There isn't some magical switch that is turned on after a woman loses her virginity....any woman can get turned on, regardless of hymen condition.
Oh and what Shalin said....
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The problem here is inhibitors to being turned on, not turn-ons themselves.
Virgins often have various hang-ups or areas where lack of knowledge causes them to not turn on enough to actually have sex.
Numerous are the stories I've heard of girls who were finally going to go all the way and then chickened out at (sometimes literally) the last moment.
So what this guy is asking is more like this:
Remember when you were a virgin and were afraid to have sex for some reasons that in retrospect shouldn't have been show-stoppers? What were they, and how could you have been eased past them?
I remember looking at a house at least a half dozen times, holding long conversations with the listing agent, and really wanting to buy it. I didn't know how to proceed, and the agent didn't know how to close a sale. All she would have had to so is give me a sales contract (offer to purchase) and show me what little I had to do to get the process started. I bought a couple of months later after a friend who worked in RE loans at the bank talked me thought the process.
My first sexual experience would have come a lot sooner in life if someone had convinced me that I didn't have to pick the perfect girl I was going to live happily ever after with.
Any of several women could have told me that while they wanted a relationship, they didn't expect us to get married. They could have convinced me that though we would probably eventually break up, that for the near term that we loved each other enough to have sex.
Virgins often have various hang-ups or areas where lack of knowledge causes them to not turn on enough to actually have sex.
Numerous are the stories I've heard of girls who were finally going to go all the way and then chickened out at (sometimes literally) the last moment.
So what this guy is asking is more like this:
Remember when you were a virgin and were afraid to have sex for some reasons that in retrospect shouldn't have been show-stoppers? What were they, and how could you have been eased past them?
I remember looking at a house at least a half dozen times, holding long conversations with the listing agent, and really wanting to buy it. I didn't know how to proceed, and the agent didn't know how to close a sale. All she would have had to so is give me a sales contract (offer to purchase) and show me what little I had to do to get the process started. I bought a couple of months later after a friend who worked in RE loans at the bank talked me thought the process.
My first sexual experience would have come a lot sooner in life if someone had convinced me that I didn't have to pick the perfect girl I was going to live happily ever after with.
Any of several women could have told me that while they wanted a relationship, they didn't expect us to get married. They could have convinced me that though we would probably eventually break up, that for the near term that we loved each other enough to have sex.
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gennex said:
Lie her down.
Run your fingers and mouth over every inch of her body.
When she shivers, you will know you have hit a nerve.
It takes time and patience to overcome shyness and for her to know what she enjoys. It can be fun for you to help her along this journey.
Talk.
Read erotic stories together...a great way to open discussion.
And maybe even ask her how she masturbates.
Best wishes,
MissT
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Re: Re: Turning ur girl on
Yes, but initiating sex with a virgin is different than with someone who's experienced. There's the whole issue of awkwardness and nervousness to go through.
SkyyAngel said:You know...I'm all for posting stupid questions and all but this is just downright moronic.....
There isn't some magical switch that is turned on after a woman loses her virginity....any woman can get turned on, regardless of hymen condition.
Oh and what Shalin said....
Yes, but initiating sex with a virgin is different than with someone who's experienced. There's the whole issue of awkwardness and nervousness to go through.
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Bobmi357 said:
I'm so disappointed you're happily married.
Perfect response.
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Re: Re: Re: Turning ur girl on
I understand that there are obvious nuances with a virgin but I think where some of the posters' disdain with the question lies in the fact that the query might be asking for a universal answer. They failed to think that each person has their own likes & dislikes. There isn't a universal answer to this question- they're just going to have to communicate with their lover and find out for themselves.
Bridget69 said:
I understand that there are obvious nuances with a virgin but I think where some of the posters' disdain with the question lies in the fact that the query might be asking for a universal answer. They failed to think that each person has their own likes & dislikes. There isn't a universal answer to this question- they're just going to have to communicate with their lover and find out for themselves.
Re: Re: Re: Re: Turning ur girl on
True true!
But there are some genral gide lines: ( well they work for me
)
1) It’s not a feat you will probably accomplish in one night..... Unless you get her drunk (which I highly discourage as that’s borderline date rape) your going to have to think back to your fantasies of high school romance, think 'slowly'.
2) Take it slow; day’s week’s even month’s and slowly build up from gentle kissing and light touching to the sex.
3) Some times you can’t just get a girl aroused, you have to teach her to, or let her learn how to get to that state. When she can things will come naturally afterwards.
4) Oh and take a long time to just stop and enjoy things like manual and oral stimulation so she has lots of positive experiences, because chances are her first time will hurt to some degree. If you get her off once manually/orally then it hurts on her first time she will be less likely to let you try again. If you give her 20 great times and then it hurts the first time she is more likely to give it another shot.
A bad first time is really common reason for couples to split up. So do it right.
Lust Engine said:
True true!
But there are some genral gide lines: ( well they work for me
)1) It’s not a feat you will probably accomplish in one night..... Unless you get her drunk (which I highly discourage as that’s borderline date rape) your going to have to think back to your fantasies of high school romance, think 'slowly'.
2) Take it slow; day’s week’s even month’s and slowly build up from gentle kissing and light touching to the sex.
3) Some times you can’t just get a girl aroused, you have to teach her to, or let her learn how to get to that state. When she can things will come naturally afterwards.
4) Oh and take a long time to just stop and enjoy things like manual and oral stimulation so she has lots of positive experiences, because chances are her first time will hurt to some degree. If you get her off once manually/orally then it hurts on her first time she will be less likely to let you try again. If you give her 20 great times and then it hurts the first time she is more likely to give it another shot.
A bad first time is really common reason for couples to split up. So do it right.
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Ask her. Sometimes it seems to me that a lot of guys like to think that they can magically make girls horny or they can just guess. Like many others have said, it does depend on the girl. If she doesn't have an idea of what turns her on, then still, communicate. Experiment with things, but make sure that there's constant feedback and that she isn't uncomfortable with telling you if something's not feeling good or is even hurting. To me, communication is key, especially with someone with little experience. 
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gennex said:
DID SHE TELL YOU THIS IN A SECRETIVE WAY OR IN A CASUAL WAY?
MAKES A DIFFERENCE. WE WOMEN CAN SAY SOME PRETTY CRAZY THINGS.
IS SHE AMERICAN? THAT CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE TOO.
(Give us a few details sweetie)
