The way to a Dominant's heart

I am not sure where I am going with this thread, but for some reason I feel a need to start it and let it go where it will.

As a Dom these things are true for me...perhaps other can share what is true for them or comment on what others share.

Nothing gets "my attention" more than when a submissive submits.

There is nothing more "beautiful" than when a submissive submits.

Nothing "turns me on" more than when a submissive submits.

Nothing else seems to brings more "balance" into my world that when a submissive submits.

Nothing else "strengthens my confidence" more than when a submissive submits.

Nothing cools or "calms my anger" when a submissive submits.

Nothing breaks through my stubborness more than when a submissive submits.

Nothing resloves conflict faster or more effeciently than when a submissive submits.

A woman can be intelligent, sexy, funny, active, playful, charming, and much much more, but all of that will lose its luster quickly if it does not have its proper place through submission.

To sum up:

What gets my attention, what I find extremely beautiful and turns me on, is a woman who submits(heart/mind/body). I emensly enjoy the balance and confidence I feel when a woman is acting and being submissive. When I am upset, angry, displeased and being stubborn, the soft word or a submissive act will soften my heart and open my ears...especially when I know I am in the wrong.

I am not into forced submission, either the person I am in a relationship with knows their place and is there because they desire to be a part of me and who I am, or they don't. For the one who understands this, she has found the way to my heart, and I will never leave her wanting.

The beauty and power of a submissive, they gain everything by losing all.

When I don't have a submissive, I do what I can to get by but I am not happy nor do I enjoy the extremes I endure when alone.

Not sure what to say to this except that it's some deep shit and i agree 110%

Some of it fits, some doesn't.

Shrug ... sorry RJ.

I'll lurk quietly and pay attention.

AngelicAssassin said:

Some of it fits, some doesn't.

Shrug ... sorry RJ.

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Not a problem AA.

Actually not trying to pass policy here or anything, a bit of a rant perhaps...mixed with a bit of self disclosure.

I often see or hear about things submissives want/need in their relationships with their Dom/me. Maybe I am tossing out a vowel.

Shrugs...I dunno either.

Maybe I am just saying the way to a Dom/me's heart is through submission...you wouldn't think that needed to be said.

The BDSM counterpart of the phrase "A way to a man's heart is through his stomach". Which is true if you are talking about lasana or a sharpe knife.

RJMasters said:

Which is true if you are talking about lasana or a sharpe knife.

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And yet a tongue can be just as deadly ...

AngelicAssassin said:

And yet a tongue can be just as deadly ...

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...yes the tongue, a double edge blade, having both the power to heal and cut deep.

Probably a good reason for Dom/mes and submissives both to learn mastery over it(self included of course).

I'd argue that for me, the most intricate, interesting, and ultimately worthwhile pleasure in life is when your loved one submits after having digested, overcome, spit out, and rejected all the information conflicting with that impulse.

Netzach said:

I'd argue that for me, the most intricate, interesting, and ultimately worthwhile pleasure in life is when your loved one submits after having digested, overcome, spit out, and rejected all the information conflicting with that impulse.

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Hmm ... almost.

i have a problem with the "teetering toward doormat" that implies.

AngelicAssassin said:

Hmm ... almost.

i have a problem with the "teetering toward doormat" that implies.

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Quite contrary. Making an adult decision to do it after having done the work of overcoming the hurdles. I don't mean this is a quick 2 minute stepford process.

Netzach said:

Quite contrary. Making an adult decision to do it after having done the work of overcoming the hurdles. I don't mean this is a quick 2 minute stepford process.

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So often we are caught up in this compatibility thing, that its easy to over look how an act of self sacrifice can be a rare treasure indeed(of course within common sense).


Agreement is not always neccessary for submission, consent is.

Opps..meant to quote your first staement...oh well you get the idea. I gotta scoot or I would fix it.

I'm with Netzach in appreciating a decision based on informed consent and some amount of effort, not just falling into line sort of process. I also tend to think a relationship which is based on the premise one is Dominant so the other should naturally submit tends to stray into the area of 'where is the dominance?' if it is the responsibility of the submissive to submit without any input from the Dominant in encouraging and/or nurturing that process. Doesn't mean the sub has to be difficult or needy, just that there has to be some expression of dominance other than declaring one is Dominant to make it work. Some can go with it that way, for me it becomes too difficult.

Catalina

catalina_francisco said:

Doesn't mean the sub has to be difficult or needy, just that there has to be some expression of dominance other than declaring one is Dominant to make it work. Some can go with it that way, for me it becomes too difficult.

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Amen!!! It becomes too difficult for me as well.

~ Cait

Netzach said:

I don't mean this is a quick 2 minute stepford process.

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You've been lurking MissTaken's posts again, haven't you.

The way to a Dominant's heart ....

is by laying bare your submissive soul to him and him alone.

RJMasters said:

I am not sure where I am going with this thread, but for some reason I feel a need to start it and let it go where it will.

As a Dom these things are true for me...perhaps other can share what is true for them or comment on what others share.

Nothing gets "my attention" more than when a submissive submits.

There is nothing more "beautiful" than when a submissive submits.

Nothing "turns me on" more than when a submissive submits.

Nothing else seems to brings more "balance" into my world that when a submissive submits.

Nothing else "strengthens my confidence" more than when a submissive submits.

Nothing cools or "calms my anger" when a submissive submits.

Nothing breaks through my stubborness more than when a submissive submits.

Nothing resloves conflict faster or more effeciently than when a submissive submits.

A woman can be intelligent, sexy, funny, active, playful, charming, and much much more, but all of that will lose its luster quickly if it does not have its proper place through submission.

To sum up:

What gets my attention, what I find extremely beautiful and turns me on, is a woman who submits(heart/mind/body). I emensly enjoy the balance and confidence I feel when a woman is acting and being submissive. When I am upset, angry, displeased and being stubborn, the soft word or a submissive act will soften my heart and open my ears...especially when I know I am in the wrong.

I am not into forced submission, either the person I am in a relationship with knows their place and is there because they desire to be a part of me and who I am, or they don't. For the one who understands this, she has found the way to my heart, and I will never leave her wanting.

The beauty and power of a submissive, they gain everything by losing all.

When I don't have a submissive, I do what I can to get by but I am not happy nor do I enjoy the extremes I endure when alone.

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Wow...as a submissive this is really quite touching...it's nice to hear from the dominant side things them make them tick...

RJMasters said:

I am not sure where I am going with this thread, but for some reason I feel a need to start it and let it go where it will.

As a Dom these things are true for me...perhaps other can share what is true for them or comment on what others share.

Nothing gets "my attention" more than when a submissive submits.

There is nothing more "beautiful" than when a submissive submits.

Nothing "turns me on" more than when a submissive submits.

Nothing else seems to brings more "balance" into my world that when a submissive submits.

Nothing else "strengthens my confidence" more than when a submissive submits.

Nothing cools or "calms my anger" when a submissive submits.

Nothing breaks through my stubborness more than when a submissive submits.

Nothing resloves conflict faster or more effeciently than when a submissive submits.

A woman can be intelligent, sexy, funny, active, playful, charming, and much much more, but all of that will lose its luster quickly if it does not have its proper place through submission.

To sum up:

What gets my attention, what I find extremely beautiful and turns me on, is a woman who submits(heart/mind/body). I emensly enjoy the balance and confidence I feel when a woman is acting and being submissive. When I am upset, angry, displeased and being stubborn, the soft word or a submissive act will soften my heart and open my ears...especially when I know I am in the wrong.

I am not into forced submission, either the person I am in a relationship with knows their place and is there because they desire to be a part of me and who I am, or they don't. For the one who understands this, she has found the way to my heart, and I will never leave her wanting.

The beauty and power of a submissive, they gain everything by losing all.

When I don't have a submissive, I do what I can to get by but I am not happy nor do I enjoy the extremes I endure when alone.

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I think there's a poem in there somewhere.

Like Des, I'll take notes... whatever I'm doing doesn't seem to be working. ;-)

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A Desert Rose said:

I think there's a poem in there somewhere.

Like Des, I'll take notes... whatever I'm doing doesn't seem to be working. ;-)

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I know that feeling, babe. Want to be better the next time around.

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Desdemona said:

I know that feeling, babe. Want to be better the next time around.

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May I interject? Just because the relationship failed doesn't mean you failed.

Hmmm,

I don’t know it sounds easy but Life is never that easy.

Would be nice when it could work that way.

And to make it work that would be inquirer a lot of trust and knowing yourself and your partner.

Just my thoughts what came to my mind.


Anna Sue

The way to this Dominants heart is to be sincere about submission, honest about limits and have the softest eyes that can easily be brought to tears. Nothing profound but all simply elemental for Me.

Shadowsdream said:

The way to this Dominants heart is to be sincere about submission, honest about limits and have the softest eyes that can easily be brought to tears. Nothing profound but all simply elemental for Me.

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Agreed

Will take notes of all what intelligent people said here...never too much knowledge



witcha

Geeze la petes!

What's with all the notes....

Steps up with 4 foot long pointing stick and slams it down hard on the desk....WHAM!

Whatches everyone taking notes jump in thier seats....and grinz...yes there will be a test.

We will start with oral exams, and then.... notices ADR pass a note to Des...

Walks over and takes note...and looks at ADR and Des



Opens note and watches their faces change expression as I read note




*walks back and sits behind the desk...ummm well a change of plans, seems something has suddenly come up...class is done early for the day your all free to go....

uh uh uh...not you two...you two go stand in the corner together...

I just love this job!