Peeve Time.... Look OUT....

Greetings and good evening,

Most people that know me would say that I am pretty laid back. Easy going, enjoy helping others, editing for people, well you get the picture.

In the last few days well more like two weeks I have been keeping an eye on those that I have been editing stories for. Watching their public comments, listening as they tell me about feedback they have been getting, I would suppose being a mother hen to them.

getting to where the peeve begins

So there I am reading one of my ducklings stories and I get to the end. What do I find there? CRAP!!! Not only was I pissed that someone would take the time to write something so incredibly hurtful but then to add insult to injury that jackals didn't even have the BALLS to sign their comments.

Absolutely unexceptable!

I know some are going to jump on the "well you don't have to take public comments you can turn that feature off" BLAH BLAH BLAH train. You know what I say to that, you are correct but just because I allow anon public comments does not give someone the right to shyte all over what I just posted.

I work damn hard everyday at my mundane job. I then come home, edit stories for those that have peaked my interest somehow, work on the stories that I have in the hopper and then go and read some of the authors that I have found with some wonderful imagery. I put myself out there every time I hit submit. I put a piece of my heart and soul out there each time I write a story. Yes this is erotic literature but it still takes some know how and some talent or everyone would be doing it and getting paid millions for it.

I am sick to death of those no named, chicken shyte, hiding-behind-anon, bashers that have nothing better to do then to slam writers.

"Oh you had a few spelling errors, I just thought you would want to know." signed anon

"Oh your story was to pat it was unbelievable, I won't read another of your stories again." signed anon

"No plot, no clue, no ending, no rating." signed anon

"Your poetry just doesn't do anything for me. Find another profession." signed anon

I leave the anon function on for one reason and that is simply to watch the slimy sleazy rat bastards post up their filth because maybe just maybe they won't do it to some person that is posting their first story up and need support not some skeez in the night telling them that it should be 'thought' instead of 'though'.

To those that post anon and don't bother stating who they are... you are cowards when you post nasty things, you are subhuman vermin that do not actually matter when the day is over, and I hope that someone does not do to you what you have done to others by spewing your hateful words.

I'm totally with you on this. I had one person write a public comment on one of my stories that was nothing more than a personal attack simply because he didn't like something in the story and apparently thought that since I wrote it that I must be the fictional character and actually do those things. Of course he didn't give a name or email.

Hi, Liz.
I hope you are not going to take this personally. When I write PC, I always sign them. I think it is prety chicken-shit to not do so. Having said that, however, I think the comments are perfectly reasonable criticisms. If I read a story and it is full of typos, I will say so, and, yes, that is criticism but I consider proofreading and editing to be part of writing a story. I might say a story is unbelievable but I will never criticize a lack of plot because most of mine have no plot either, just smut.

I get anon putdowns also; we all do. I just ignore them. You know, don't you, that you can delete any PC you want to.

waves at Box

I have absolutely no issue with someone that is going to tell me something sucks and SIGN IT. Wonderful, great, hoorah... we all need some help once in awhile.

There is a difference between constructive and destructive.

I will do the first everytime and the moment I do the second I don't belong here anymore.

I know that the function can be turned off... but Box what about that brand new writer, that this is their first time and they don't know that... and they get a load of crap after a story. How extremely disheartening is that?

We were ALL new at one point or another. We all had to break our cherries somewhere, but not all of us had someone snickering over our shoulder saying wow you suck go home.

Re: waves at Box

Elizabetht said:

I have absolutely no issue with someone that is going to tell me something sucks and SIGN IT. Wonderful, great, hoorah... we all need some help once in awhile.

There is a difference between constructive and destructive.

I will do the first everytime and the moment I do the second I don't belong here anymore.

I know that the function can be turned off... but Box what about that brand new writer, that this is their first time and they don't know that... and they get a load of crap after a story. How extremely disheartening is that?

We were ALL new at one point or another. We all had to break our cherries somewhere, but not all of us had someone snickering over our shoulder saying wow you suck go home.

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(waves back in a flirtacious manner)
I agree with that. I will never turn off the PC function and I will always accept even anon messages but if the messages are obviously destructive, I will delete them. By then, of course, they will have done whatever negative they were meant to do, but at least no reminder is left.

I agree with Elizabetht. The very first Anon email I got after my first (and only, so far) story was published had nothing to do with the story. It was a personal attack on me. My first thought was, "What did I get myself into?"
I'm glad to see that my feelings are not way out there in space but that they are shared by other people.
I don't have a problem with constructive criticism based upon a person's objective analysis of a story. It is the kooks that hide behind Anon and just want to be hurtful that bother me.

With relief that, "I am not alone,"

Kathi

Elizabeth, I feel for you. I just had an anonymous person trash every single audio poem (7 total) that I had posted today. Most of the comments criticized my voice. That's just ridiculous. I deleted every single one of them since none of them offered any valuable criticism, just attacking my voice mostly. First time I have ever deleted a public comment.


I'M FROM THE SOUTH, THEREFORE I DO HAVE A SOUTHERN ACCENT. YES, I HAVE A DRAWL. IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT THE FIRST TIME, DON'T LISTEN TO IT SIX MORE TIMES AND TRASH ME EVERY TIME!!!!


Ok, I feel better now.

CM

CM, I just went and listened to your poems with audio. Not only did I enjoy your words, I enjoyed your voice.

Thanks Boota!

I talked with my duckling and we are going to work alot closer now. But it still bothers me greatly that all the hard work that we had put in together was almost destroyed completely by one unthinking comment. Absolutely frosts my flakes to no end.

Maybe you should pre-empt them Elizabeth. Post your own PM before everyone else. There's only you and the author know that you helped. Might deter some of the anons.

Gauche

Okie Elizabeth, I think you know this, but anyway... there's a way to turn off anonymous feedback and still get the rest of the people who want to sign their name. I am not sure if it works with PCs but it's worth a try. Go to your profile when you log on to Lit. and then change the option there which says anonymous feedback accepted or not. Then you can only get messages from someone who is willing to sign their name there (but as I said, I don't know whether it works with PCs. Experiment )

Don't worry too much about the anons bashing the new authors. It's something they will have to learn if they are posting their work on a public forum. I know that sounds harsh but you can only hold their hand for so long. Ultimately they will have to walk on their own. I know you mean to help and have a great heart, so you will worry anyway. Hope the turning off the anon thing will help.

Have a nice day.