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Thread starter erotic4play
Start date Sep 28, 2003

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erotic4play

Experienced

Sep 28, 2003

#1

I have finally addmitted that this lifestyly is for me. My does not share my desires. I need some advice. Where do I start? I am definatley a dom. male. So what's next for me? Any advice would be appreciated.

s'lara

Literotica Guru

Sep 28, 2003

#2

Erotic, i just wanted to wish you well on your self exploration.

There is a Library here that is full of informative topics, including how to get started in the lifestyle. Please take the time to read through some of the threads and feel free to ask more questions. i do hope you can enjoy your self discovery with your respective partner.

lara

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=164221

Solitude

Literotica Guru

Sep 28, 2003

#3

Isn't that Anelize's job? What's she going to do if people keep doing her job for her?

catalina_francisco

Happily insatiable always

Sep 28, 2003

#4

Solitude said:
Isn't that Anelize's job? What's she going to do if people keep doing her job for her?

Think she is kinda tied up at the moment

She takes her position very seriously, and as she has been getting all these new bondage sites of late, I'm sure she is checking them out in detail to see if all they say is true so she can make recommendations if asked. She is so dedicated to her librarian role....you just have to admire that.

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Last edited: Sep 28, 2003

niteshade

Literotica Guru

Sep 28, 2003

#5

catalina_francisco said:
Think she is kinda tied up at the moment She takes her position very seriously, and as she has been getting all these new bondage sites of late, I'm sure she is checking them out in detail to see if all they say is true so she can make recommendations if asked. She is so dedicated to her librarian role....you just have to admire that.

C

LOL... yes, we do have to admire that. Plus, it is just so much fun to see if we sneak in links to the newbies before she does. It doesn't happen often, cause she is so on top of things, but I always did love a good race.

Also, even dedicated librarians need some time off.

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Guest

Guest

Sep 28, 2003

#6

erotic4play said:
I have finally addmitted that this lifestyly is for me. My does not share my desires. I need some advice. Where do I start? I am definatley a dom. male. So what's next for me? Any advice would be appreciated.

You might also want to pop over to the "Leaving BDSM" thread- that seems to be (regretfully) a fairly common problem.

Oh - and Bon Chance

Johnny Mayberry

Golden Boy

Sep 28, 2003

#7

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AnelizeDarkEyes

Lurker Deluxe

Sep 28, 2003

#8

Solitude said:
Isn't that Anelize's job? What's she going to do if people keep doing her job for her?

Say Thank You and go back to being Sir's devoted birthday slut for this long weekend

When it's over, I'll head back home, and things will be back to normal.

~anelize

Solitude

Literotica Guru

Sep 29, 2003

#9

AnelizeDarkEyes said:
Say Thank You and go back to being Sir's devoted birthday slut for this long weekend

When it's over, I'll head back home, and things will be back to normal.

~anelize

That's it. I know what I want for my birthday.

Oh, and erotic? Listen to lara's advice. 'nuff said.

His_sugar

Literotica Guru

Sep 29, 2003

#10

Solitude said:
That's it. I know what I want for my birthday.

Decided early this year didn't You?

Solitude

Literotica Guru

Sep 29, 2003

#11

Ok, for this Tuesday then.

His_sugar

Literotica Guru

Sep 29, 2003

#12

Solitude said:
Ok, for this Tuesday then.

Good thing i am free that day Master.. ;-)

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Lady Emerald

Experienced

Oct 11, 2003

#13

This is a very interesting topic--and one being discussed with much energy on another thread at the moment.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=200608.

Erotic gets a few lighthearted good wishes and a reading list----the other thread shows a different response, much talk of cheating, selfishness, being uncaring towards one's partner--even being a cliche.

Anyone care to comment : compare and contrast the different responses to the same question and give your reasons why that might be so???

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A Desert Rose

Simply Charming Elsewhere

Oct 11, 2003

#14

Lady Emerald said:
This is a very interesting topic--and one being discussed with much energy on another thread at the moment.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=200608.

Erotic gets a few lighthearted good wishes and a reading list----the other thread shows a different response, much talk of cheating, selfishness, being uncaring towards one's partner--even being a cliche.

Anyone care to comment : compare and contrast the different responses to the same question and give your reasons why that might be so???

You have made a very valid point here. I wish I could address it but I think it comes down to the differing perceptions that are inherent in all of us.

Well done.

catalina_francisco

Happily insatiable always

Oct 11, 2003

#15

Lady Emerald said:
This is a very interesting topic--and one being discussed with much energy on another thread at the moment.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=200608.

Erotic gets a few lighthearted good wishes and a reading list----the other thread shows a different response, much talk of cheating, selfishness, being uncaring towards one's partner--even being a cliche.

Anyone care to comment : compare and contrast the different responses to the same question and give your reasons why that might be so???

I think the difference lays in this thread was not taken seriously...in other words someone trying to stir up things perhaps, or just looking for attention, or plain bored and trolling....notice they post the thread and disappear..notice there are the few non commital light posts to start to see if there is a response?

Catalina :rose:

:rose:

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erotic4play

Experienced

Oct 12, 2003

#16

getting started

Thanks for the good wishes from a few of you I guess I should have replied sooner. And I guess I wasn't taken seriously. I am exploring, and yes I am bored. Thats why I'm exploring. There's more out there than traditional man/woman relations I need more. So here I am, I'll keep reading and searching..

catalina_francisco

Happily insatiable always

Oct 12, 2003

#17

Re: getting started

erotic4play said:
Thanks for the good wishes from a few of you I guess I should have replied sooner. And I guess I wasn't taken seriously. I am exploring, and yes I am bored. Thats why I'm exploring. There's more out there than traditional man/woman relations I need more. So here I am, I'll keep reading and searching..

Apologise for not thinking perhaps you were as serious as some, but seems from what you say, you are using your time wisely to read, think, and weigh your options. Hope you find the answer that is right for you as I know for myself, there is never any question about my inability to ever consider vanilla satisfying ever again.

Catalina

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erotic4play

Experienced

Oct 13, 2003

#18

Gettting started

apology not neccessary, you spoke what was on your mind. But thnk you. I am definately beyond vanilla. I need more that's why I'm here.

Princessintrng

Really Experienced

Nov 11, 2003

#19

Re: getting started

erotic4play said:
Thanks for the good wishes from a few of you I guess I should have replied sooner. And I guess I wasn't taken seriously. I am exploring, and yes I am bored. Thats why I'm exploring. There's more out there than traditional man/woman relations I need more. So here I am, I'll keep reading and searching..

Just saw your post and wanted to wish you the best. It isn't easy when what you want conflicts with what your partner wants. I ended a 14 year marriage because my husband had no interest in BDSM. I am sorry that he got hurt, but I did not persue a relationship with anyone else until I was divorced (on line or r/t). The library does have a wealth of helpful informaiton and you will find, for the most part, the people who post in this forum are extremely helpful and will share information with you if you ask. Good luck and please let me know how it is going for you.

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