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Domly patience and impatient subbies

Desdemona

Desdemona

Ellie Mae's evil auntie
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James G 5 said:
"Domly patience"?
*smirk*
Altho I was talking to a sub the other day who commented to me "you know we subs are an impatient lot"
I can't see a great deal of impatience being terribly healthy for a sub, myself.........
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OK, this post got me to thinking. I know for certain that patience is not my strong suit. As in... how many licks does it take to get to the center of a tootsie pop? The answer for me is exactly 2. *crunch*

I bring this up also because last weekend, Snooze and I were out with a friend who bought tootsie pops for us all. She and I crunched to the center in short order. He sat there, slowly savoring the candy outside, lick after lick after lick until I was dying for Him to bite it. During this time, He was teasing me about my own lack of patience and inability to take my time and savor the moment.

So, the quetions are:

Are subs, in general, impatient? Or is it an individual trait?

Are dominants, in general, patient? Or is it an individual trait?

Is this yet another way that we are equal and opposite halves of a whole?


I'm interested in your thoughts on this.
 
I'd think this would be an individual trait on both sides. I tend to be impatient, and it does sometimes get me into trouble.
 
I am a very patient person. No tootsie roll pops for me, but i don't crunch into a BlowPop until there are pieces of gum already exposed.

During the past year, i've become even more patient and unless you know me very well, you'll never know when i've become impatient.

I don't think patience or impatience is a trait of any particular group of people, we all have some degrees of both.
 
I think Doms have to be more patient. I usually have a plan, not a script, but some idea of where I'm going with a scene. It takes a lot more control to be in control. Sexual tension can be a problem, but that can be solved by shooting a load of cum down her throat before you start. Her sexual tension can build up a while.
 
I'm extremely patient. I can almost always outwait my partner when he wants me to get antsy and frustrated, if I set my mind to it. It's fun for both of us, I think, because it sets a challenge--how to get me to the stage when I really do need whatever he's teasing me with.

In fact, I think right now I'm more patient than T is about some things! I remember the first time we met as a couple--within 15 minutes of getting alone together, he was inside me. We're young and we have only had days together at a time; neither of these are particularly conducive to patience. However, both of which are quite fixable.
 
Very interesting replies. So far, I'm the impatient sub in the bunch!

WD, I definitely see your point about the necessity of you being patient within your scenes.
 
i think i had a middle ground patience level.

i could be very patient when the need called for it. However, there were times i thought my head (or body) would burst because of my lack of patience.

i think the trait is individual to both parties. i will say an impatient Dominant is a bad thing all around. Impatience leads to irritation and irritation leads to making the sub/slave/bottom pay for it in some form or fashion.

lara
 
Desdemona said:
OK, this post got me to thinking. I know for certain that patience is not my strong suit. As in... how many licks does it take to get to the center of a tootsie pop? The answer for me is exactly 2. *crunch*

I bring this up also because last weekend, Snooze and I were out with a friend who bought tootsie pops for us all. She and I crunched to the center in short order. He sat there, slowly savoring the candy outside, lick after lick after lick until I was dying for Him to bite it. During this time, He was teasing me about my own lack of patience and inability to take my time and savor the moment.

So, the quetions are:

Are subs, in general, impatient? Or is it an individual trait?

Are dominants, in general, patient? Or is it an individual trait?

Is this yet another way that we are equal and opposite halves of a whole?


I'm interested in your thoughts on this.
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OMG Des, just another similarity we have. I always bite the tootsie pop too. lol As for my impatience in reference to submission... yes, I think I am there as well. A very good friend of mine has joked that he is going to send me a package in the mail, with instructions not to open it until I get his permission, I think it would drive me insane. lol

This just adds to the long list of traits I have to work on... but I must admit that I am getting a little more patient with age.

In the past, it has been my impatience that has really heightened the anticipation of a scene. My former Dom knew that I was like a 5 year old at Christmas, and so he would really play on that at times. This may be why the one time he blindfolded me I got a little freaked out, though there were other circumstances.

I know that in my case it is just the way I am, and have always been, but I also know many other submissives that have told me the same thing. I will be interested to see what the response is here.
 
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il mio angelo, LMAO. I'm not even surprised babe. It is just the way we am. I think the key is to be in a relationship with someone who enjoys this aspect of who we are and who can play off it at will. Fortunately, for me, age has tempered this a little. Not much, frankly, but a little.



lara, they say that patience is a virtue. Sounds like you have it.
 
Depending on whose lollipop I'm licking, I sometimes want to make it last forever.


I'm very patient. ;)
 
Arden said:
Depending on whose lollipop I'm licking, I sometimes want to make it last forever.


I'm very patient. ;)
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LOL. I can be patient and slowly lick the lollipop under the right circumstances myself. ;)
 
Arden said:
Depending on whose lollipop I'm licking, I sometimes want to make it last forever.


I'm very patient. ;)
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Mmmmm, patience is one of your more redeeming qualities, pretty wench. :rose:
 
Desdemona said:
LOL. I can be patient and slowly lick the lollipop under the right circumstances myself. ;)
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I take it my lady that is when you are under orders? :D
 
ok i would go with personal traits but it does depend on situation.
In everyday life i am VERY impatient, i can't stand suspense.
Yet in a Dom situation i am very patient, i can really take my time Days if nec in some situations and i have great control over my desires and so i personally like impatient subs it makes the whole experience very interesting;)
 
Bachlum Chaam said:
I take it my lady that is when you are under orders? :D
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But of course. :D

Actually, its one of my favorite things to do so.
 
ImmortaleAmante, its nice to know that those of us who are impatient have some redeeming qualities. :) Thanks for joining us.
 
I can be patient and impatient. It depends on what for.

At Christmas time, I am patient. Okay, I admit, this is largely because it annoys the hell out of my lover. :p I will slowly unwrap each present, carefully peeling off the tape, until the paper is completely unwrapped...

With other things (like needing my cock down the throat of a slut), I am less patient.
 
Thanks for the welcome Desdemona, i like the xmas pressie thing i do exactly the same, it annoys everyone but i get great pleasure, like i said i love the control and being patient is one way to have it;) I even do it at birthdays lol
 
I am the most impatient person I know. Not a good position for a sub to be in. Especially as my Master is so far away....
 
Mmmm...well I answered James in the quoted thread but more in keeping with the mood of our exchange so I will be serious here. My mother always said her mother was the most patient person she had ever known..until came me. She says I have the patience of a saint and I have also had many others remark on my patience and ask me to teach them how to be so. Can't do that as it is a part of me, though I can offer suggestions for them to try which I have found have developed my patience even further. As to it being particular to subs or D's, I do not think it is necessarily, though I would think patience in a Dominant would be one of the more advisable characteristics to look for when looking for the one right for you.

Catalina
 
I have no patience.... none whatsoever.... I am not wired that way... but being with Himself I have had to develop a certain amount of patience... not much... but some... otherwise I would make myself crazy... oh wait...;)
 
I have patience but very little most of the time i want everything yesterday but i am learning patience(very slowly). Master has a wealth of patience and its teaching me patience although at times i feel as though i will burst for lack of it. I have never been a patient person so this is something that doesn't come naturally and i have to work very hard to be even somewhat patient. Of course depending on the situation i have an almost unending supply of patience for example with my nieces and nephews.....i just have to learn to be able to tap into that kind of patience when i need to.....i just havent figured out how to yet:)
 
Patience is a virtue -- especially for a dom.

Teaching your sub to be patient can be sublime -- although a bit painful at times.:devil: for her that is.
 
Today was not a good day for patience and me....

It was a stormy day here and Himself called me and began telling me this really erotic story... He is very good at that and does this from time to time... and before He got through with it, I interrupted Him... I should have prefaced this with the fact that I have a really bad habit of doing that... one that I have been working and really trying not to do... Today however I seemed to forget myself...

At any rate, Himself was less than pleased and so I am to write what happened... and to ask for suggests for Him to deal with this issue and me....

It has not been my best day.... :(
 
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