what is a lesbian Daddy?
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From http://www.butch-femme.com/Faq/terms.htm -
Daddy, grrl, or daddy/grrl--- Dynamic in some butch-femme relationships where the Butch takes over the parental or care-taking role, either 24-7, or as occasional age play. Sexually, Daddy/Grrl can be played out in a incestous or S/M fashion where Daddy is irresponsibly "wicked", or Daddy might be emotionally responsible for nurturing and loving the grrl. This particular dynamic can allow Femmes to freely explore being bratty, playful, independent, innocent, or submissive, etc... and perhaps in some instances, both partners can confront issues surrounding abuse.
Would you mind if I asked MissT to move or copy this thread to the GLBT board? I think people there might have good responses too.
Daddy, grrl, or daddy/grrl--- Dynamic in some butch-femme relationships where the Butch takes over the parental or care-taking role, either 24-7, or as occasional age play. Sexually, Daddy/Grrl can be played out in a incestous or S/M fashion where Daddy is irresponsibly "wicked", or Daddy might be emotionally responsible for nurturing and loving the grrl. This particular dynamic can allow Femmes to freely explore being bratty, playful, independent, innocent, or submissive, etc... and perhaps in some instances, both partners can confront issues surrounding abuse.
Would you mind if I asked MissT to move or copy this thread to the GLBT board? I think people there might have good responses too.
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Perhaps a copy to GLBT board is better than a shift as I think it a subject many would find of interest here also.
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I actually didn't know this. Thanks for posting it WD, and thanks for answering it Etoile.
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Hi all!
I am on a weekend sojourn and just stopping in to check on things.
I copied this thread to the GLBT and thanks for the great idea to do so.
There are bound to be times when thread topics overlap and copying generates twice the discussion and twice the fun!
Great thread.
MissT
I am on a weekend sojourn and just stopping in to check on things.
I copied this thread to the GLBT and thanks for the great idea to do so.
There are bound to be times when thread topics overlap and copying generates twice the discussion and twice the fun!
Great thread.
MissT
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Wouldn't a 'parental' lesbian be a 'Mommy'? Butch or not, she still doesn't have a penis.
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Johnny Mayberry said:
I think sub men have "Mommy's" or "Momma's".
Not sure. But it sounds right.
addition: Make that sub straight men. I have heard that some sub gay men also have Daddy's.
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P. B. Walker said:I think sub men have "Mommy's" or "Momma's".
Not sure. But it sounds right.
addition: Make that sub straight men. I have heard that some sub gay men also have Daddy's.
I'm still perplexed. So many women have Daddy issues.
Which I guess are rooted before sexuality kicks in. Why should lesbians be any different? To have a need to feel protected and loved is universal.
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Johnny Mayberry said:
Altho I don't understand the WHY, there is a lot of gender play with lesbians in which butch ones assume a male gender role
A good friend of mine, an extremely fem lesbian who is TERRIFIED of men to the point that I am about her only male friend, stays exclusively with "gender benders", women who've basically assumed male roles 24/7, get addressed as "Sir" or "Daddy", dress as men, etc etc
I've always wondered at the psyche that would male her seek partners (Dominant ones no less) who ape that which she fears the most
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James G 5 said:
Think it often comes down to a psychological message this is a safe way to have that, without the associated risks. This approach can and is used in some situations to help overcome fears, but often without the guidance of someone qualified and experienced, remains a substitute role without challenging the underlying fear.
Before I am jumped on, I am not saying this is why all lesbians who choose to have 'Daddy's' do so, but was responding to James G 5 thoughts.....and am also basing my information on knowledge based practice.
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James G 5 answered this very well by mentioning gender play. There is plenty involved with being a butch, whether or not she has a biological dick is totally unrelated. (Many would also be insulted by the implication that "Mommy" is more appropriate.)Johnny Mayberry said:
Do dykes who prefer butch women have a secret desire to be with men? Maybe, but maybe not - it depends on the individual. Do all butch women live fully as men? No way - it depends on the individual. Can two butch women have a Daddy/boi relationship? Sure. What's most important is to use the term preferred by the person, not what you think they should be called based on societal "norms."
From a personal standpoint, it's nobody's business what my Daddy has under those briefs. We have a Daddy/girl relationship, and that's what's important. (Anybody inferring that I am stating my Daddy is a butch woman is picking up something I am not implying. What I'm stating is that it doesn't matter, and I'm not telling.)
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Yeah! 
LOL, at the BDSM Con a few weeks ago, my friend Gaz's boi Talon (who is gender-bent Butch and dominant to about everyone BUT Gaz) and I were working on something & Talon commented on some of the other guys.........I said (without thinking) "They're just all jealous that your dick is bigger"
Talon's jaw DROPPED and she said "Well thank you Sir (a rare honorific from Talon!), most of the other Doms claim they can't see it"
What a great moment
LOL, at the BDSM Con a few weeks ago, my friend Gaz's boi Talon (who is gender-bent Butch and dominant to about everyone BUT Gaz) and I were working on something & Talon commented on some of the other guys.........I said (without thinking) "They're just all jealous that your dick is bigger"
Talon's jaw DROPPED and she said "Well thank you Sir (a rare honorific from Talon!), most of the other Doms claim they can't see it"
What a great moment
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Johnny Mayberry said:
Depends on how the parental lesbian self identifies. (Try saying that three times fast!
) Some lesbians identify more as male than female so you get a Daddy instead of a Mommy. They're all just luscious.
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D's mariposa said:Depends on how the parental lesbian self identifies. (Try saying that three times fast!
Still seems sort of silly...but who am I to judge?
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You just did anyway.
It's got to be at least as stupid as when biological men do it.
Isn't all of this stuff pretty silly if you take a big step back from it?
Sometimes I do that, I think to myself when A co-worker asks "what are you doing tonight" what I'd sound like if I were honest, and it's really good comedy.
It's got to be at least as stupid as when biological men do it.
Isn't all of this stuff pretty silly if you take a big step back from it?
Sometimes I do that, I think to myself when A co-worker asks "what are you doing tonight" what I'd sound like if I were honest, and it's really good comedy.
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Netzach said:
Uh huh...I judged it to be silly.
Just like when you imagine telling the guys at the breakroom at work what you did last weekend. "Me and my best girl went to see a movie, then I took her home, tied her up, and shoved a corn cob up her ass'...sounds pretty silly too, oh well.
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Johnny Mayberry said:
A woman is not 'a person without a penis'
If I cut yours off, would you still be a man?
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James G 5 said:
I guess it's not any different than when a Dom/Domme likes to do forced feminization. At least in some ways. In the lesbian and gay community we are really glued down to our roles unfortunately. And as far as a Daddy goes it's not like we are the ones that are stereotyped as being Butch.
I enjoy playing a Daddy, I like being nurturing at the same time as being truly wicked to my girl. It's a role that fits me well. I'm a gender bender now, though I've not allowed myself to be until recently because of family concerns.
Let me take a stab at this. My girl doesn't like men. She isn't afraid of them though. She was seriously neglected by her alcoholic parents while growing up. I'd wanted to try the Daddy role instead of just Dominant (I won't say Domme because I see myself as Dom) and slipped nicely into the Daddy role. It turned into a big mind fuck that night and she fell in love with the role. I think the issue is that she is getting the nurturing she needs from what she see's to be a male counterpart without actually being with a male. If that makes sense?
Sorry for rambling, I just got up and about to wobble out the door to go to work lol
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Dustygrrl said:
Yes I enjoy having the nurting as well as the wickness it fits well together for us.
Yes for it is something I need since I never really got it until now. Yes it was a big mind fuck yet one we both came to enjoy and it is how we identify know when we play or just when I need it for I slip the bratty little girl role sometimes because I want to be nurtured or just plain held my my big strong daddy because it's something that I need.
