Childhood Discipline?

I'm curious. For those of us into spankings *either side of the implement PYL/pyl*, whether for fun, discipline, or both .... how were you punished as a child? Were you spanked? If so, by what methods/implements/rituals? And did it somehow influence your adult desires?

Since I asked, I'll offer my answers to my own questions. I was spanked as a child. My parents had a thin wooden paddle, about 12" long, with some silly saying on it about naughty children *honestly, I don't remember how it was worded*. I would be told to lie across the edge of the bed and I would get 5 strokes. That was all, just 5, never more. And I was always clothed; I never, not once, had a bare bottomed spanking. Now my mother was prone to one other particular implement ... the wooden spoon. How convenient that no matter where we were, she could always find a wooden spoon if she needed one. Now of course, I was hand spanked many times, felt the switch once or twice and never felt the belt.

My last spankings were at age 10, 4th grade ... I remember it well. Let's just say that was my rebellious school year. After daily paddlings and spankings for a few months, I changed my ways and became a sweeter child.

Now here is a question I have asked myself in the last few years. Did MY spanking experiences shape my spank-o desires I have today?? Honestly, no, I don't think they did at all. I HATED punishment spankings as a child and found nothing pleasant or stimulating about them. I wished death on both my parents after each spanking, as most children do. But when other children were spanked, especially paddled at school, I was fascinated. Better them than me, right? Only now .... I want it for myself

Okay there sprinkles. In your imagination when you put yourself into a spanking scenario what are the different feelings you get when you picture the different aspects of the spanking?

The pain aspect.

The submissive aspect.

Other things you can think of? I'm thinking of about the emotional aspect and connection with the person who is spanking you.

Well, I can honestly say there's one way my childhood spankings have affected my adult leanings in such matters:

Wooden spoons are on my "no" list. Don't really want to be reminded of my mother at a time like that, thanks.

I think I did receive not even a handful of times a little smack on the bum, not really punishment, rather shock factor.
I don't think I ever was punished in other ways either. It was rather talk about what was wrong, why it was wrong, a row every now and then, a thread of no dinner if the room wasn't tidied by evening. Never "no TV/sweets/seeing friends".

It's weird, I was only ever spanked a few times as a child, and I associate no particular memories with it at all. Maybe anger. It certainly doesn't stand out for me. Shrug. Doesn't seem to be any child-psychological explanation for why I like it now.

What I do remember is constantly making up schedules for myself, lists of rules and chores to do and the appropriate punishments if they were violated, and trying to get my parents to enforce them (which they had zero interest in doing, of course, being semi-hippies with busy lives of their own). I got started topping from the bottom at an early age, apparently.

i never got spanked as a child. i realized i was a masochist at a very early age and probably would have craved it if i did get spanked. but my parents thought spanking was a big no-no.

Betticus said:

Okay there sprinkles. In your imagination when you put yourself into a spanking scenario what are the different feelings you get when you picture the different aspects of the spanking?

The pain aspect.

The submissive aspect.

Other things you can think of? I'm thinking of about the emotional aspect and connection with the person who is spanking you.

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Those are valid question, Betticus ... let me see if I can clearly answer them.

I separate my spankings into two categories, fun and discipline. Fun spankings are just that *fun* for both of us, lots of different scenarios including bondage, blindfolding, and different implements and techniques used. My headspace in those times is on pure animal sexuality. The deeper the pain, the wetter I am ... the more crimson my ass the more I'm begging him to fuck me. I am absolutely mesmerized by the Domination he displays and my sheer helplessness. It's so primative to me ... I have a basic instinct to submit and be controlled.

Now punishment/discipline spankings are different *as I'm sure it is for almost everyone*. While I completely abhore them at the time, they more than anything define what I seek from my Master, and they are where the deepest feelings arise from. Discipline spankings are not just about submitting my body, but they are also about submitting my mind, my trust, my love 100% to him. I have to believe in him that he is only seeking to better me, to help mold me into a stronger and better woman.

Why does that mean so much to me? Why would something so emotionally painful as well as physically painful be so beautiful? Simple answer: because I am LOVED and CHERISHED. It is in those moments that the word "Daddy" wants to fall from my lips, yet never does. Not that I am ever reminded of my own father, but because that word in itself represents a love so different than any other love on the planet.

SpectreT said:

Well, I can honestly say there's one way my childhood spankings have affected my adult leanings in such matters:

Wooden spoons are on my "no" list. Don't really want to be reminded of my mother at a time like that, thanks.

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I understand completely what you're saying. Wooden spoons have never been in our toy drawer, and I would just as soon prefer they stay away for good.

We do use a paddle, which I actually chose, but it almost only used for my bad girl days. I don't have flashbacks to childhood, tho ... Thank Heavens

Sprinkles22 said:

Those are valid question, Betticus ... let me see if I can clearly answer them.

I separate my spankings into two categories, fun and discipline. Fun spankings are just that *fun* for both of us, lots of different scenarios including bondage, blindfolding, and different implements and techniques used. My headspace in those times is on pure animal sexuality. The deeper the pain, the wetter I am ... the more crimson my ass the more I'm begging him to fuck me. I am absolutely mesmerized by the Domination he displays and my sheer helplessness. It's so primative to me ... I have a basic instinct to submit and be controlled.

Now punishment/discipline spankings are different *as I'm sure it is for almost everyone*. While I completely abhore them at the time, they more than anything define what I seek from my Master, and they are where the deepest feelings arise from. Discipline spankings are not just about submitting my body, but they are also about submitting my mind, my trust, my love 100% to him. I have to believe in him that he is only seeking to better me, to help mold me into a stronger and better woman.

Why does that mean so much to me? Why would something so emotionally painful as well as physically painful be so beautiful? Simple answer: because I am LOVED and CHERISHED. It is in those moments that the word "Daddy" wants to fall from my lips, yet never does. Not that I am ever reminded of my own father, but because that word in itself represents a love so different than any other love on the planet.

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Hmmm.. Will have to think on this. Thanks for the answers.

This is a common musing of many...that we were spanked as children so developed into SM. For myself, I only ever got one physical punishment and it was with the wooden spoon, and what made it worse was it was for something I had not done but my sister had inflicted on herself and then said it was me. My other sister had seen her biting and pinching herself behind our house before running inside and saying I had done it, but was not sure whthter it was wise to speak up for me or not so she waited 25 years before telling my parents the truth. Despite that, I have no aversion to the woooden spoon or pain, but I have a real bad thing about liars and con artists.

Catalina

Now here is a question I have asked myself in the last few years. Did MY spanking experiences shape my spank-o desires I have today?? Honestly, no, I don't think they did at all. I HATED punishment spankings as a child and found nothing pleasant or stimulating about them. I wished death on both my parents after each spanking, as most children do. But when other children were spanked, especially paddled at school, I was fascinated. Better them than me, right? Only now .... I want it for myself

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Myself & my two older brothers were spanked as children & at the time I felt the same as you say in your above paragraph. If we were ALL really bad then we'd get lined up in order of age & go across my fathers knee for his leather belt. As I was always last he used to go easy on me & I dont remember it ever really hurting that much...the wait was always worse. I've never really associated it with the fact that I now like it, but who knows, maybe my subconcious craves what I missed out on?

catalina_francisco said:

This is a common musing of many...that we were spanked as children so developed into SM. For myself, I only ever got one physical punishment and it was with the wooden spoon, and what made it worse was it was for something I had not done but my sister had inflicted on herself and then said it was me. My other sister had seen her biting and pinching herself behind our house before running inside and saying I had done it, but was not sure whthter it was wise to speak up for me or not so she waited 25 years before telling my parents the truth. Despite that, I have no aversion to the woooden spoon or pain, but I have a real bad thing about liars and con artists.

Catalina

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I was an only child .... unless the dog did something, I couldn't be blamed or do the blaming on anyone else

*my brother was born when I was 15, so altho I do have a sibling, I lived my life as an only child ... just to clarify since I made a post about my little brother a day or so ago *

I can't remember ever being spanked as a child. No spoons either. A couple of nugies now and then. I do remember my Dad spanking my sister once while I was in the room. She refused to go to a neighbour girl's birthday party after my parents had gone through the trouble of buying a gift. My Dad was very pissed off and gave her a thorough wolloping which did nothing to change her mind.
I cried on her behalf and felt every smack.
My Dom doesn't really give me erotic spankings, I wish he would. He has used a paddle once (15 whacks) as punishment for lying to him. I don't want that repeated EVER!
So no equating physical punishment as a child with future S/M play as an adult.

CP was not an organized or loving thing in my house.

I use CP in my relationships as a perverse pleasure. And "because I feel like it" is my justification. Interesting.

Netzach said:

CP was not an organized or loving thing in my house.

I use CP in my relationships as a perverse pleasure. And "because I feel like it" is my justification. Interesting.

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You know, you are making me into a perv by letting me know this is okay!

Next time I spank someone it's going to be Netz's fault!

Netzach said:

CP was not an organized or loving thing in my house.

I use CP in my relationships as a perverse pleasure. And "because I feel like it" is my justification. Interesting.

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That's the attitude I like so much about our *fun* spankings. Just because He feels like it. He has that power and control to say He's doing it for his pure pleasure ... which in response turns me on to the whole "you are my Master and I'll do whatever you want" thing.

I like the pervy sense you PYL's have

Betticus said:

You know, you are making me into a perv by letting me know this is okay!

Next time I spank someone it's going to be Netz's fault!

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Spanking by Betticus - yummy
This being Netz's fault - even more so.

Sounds all too good. When will you get over here?

I personally am one of those who enjoy giving teh spankings... and no, I WASN'T spanked as a child. My parents always took something or another away instead.

well, the only connection i can see when talking about being spanked as a child and getting into it now is a t-shirt I own.

"Top 20 things not to say to your girl-freinds parents" Number 15 i think, "did you spank her when she was a kid? cus she sure likes it now!"

sry, back to topic.

SpectreT said:

Well, I can honestly say there's one way my childhood spankings have affected my adult leanings in such matters:

Wooden spoons are on my "no" list. Don't really want to be reminded of my mother at a time like that, thanks.

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LOL sheesh! is the wooden spoon every mothers 'weapon' of choice? my mom used to spank me with a wooden spoon also, and she was mean with one. she broke one over my butt even. i didn't have a punishment position or anything, when she was swinging the wooden spoon it was in motion because i was running away LOL....but it never failed, she always got me. do i think it has anything to do with me LIKING spankings now? naw..not at all....

lil_slave_rose said:

LOL sheesh! is the wooden spoon every mothers 'weapon' of choice? my mom used to spank me with a wooden spoon also, and she was mean with one. she broke one over my butt even. i didn't have a punishment position or anything, when she was swinging the wooden spoon it was in motion because i was running away LOL....but it never failed, she always got me. do i think it has anything to do with me LIKING spankings now? naw..not at all....

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I think that should be dubbed the *wooden spoon dance* .... yeppers, I danced that circular jig around her many times.

chris9 said:

Spanking by Betticus - yummy
This being Netz's fault - even more so.

Sounds all too good. When will you get over here?

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When I get this cool dom mind trick thing down I'll be able to just walk onto the plane to wherever I want to go. Same with hotels and restaurants and clubs.

Betticus said:

When I get this cool dom mind trick thing down I'll be able to just walk onto the plane to wherever I want to go. Same with hotels and restaurants and clubs.

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Are you trying to get that *James Bond* persona working?

Betticus said:

When I get this cool dom mind trick thing down I'll be able to just walk onto the plane to wherever I want to go. Same with hotels and restaurants and clubs.

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That's worth the sacrifice of some pubic hair. Meet you at the airport

Sprinkles22 said:

Are you trying to get that *James Bond* persona working?

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Darth Betticus! Har!

Of course, when I get it down I'll just be known worldwide as "Betticus".

chris9 said:

That's worth the sacrifice of some pubic hair. Meet you at the airport

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Yay! It's cold there so just meet me and then we'll jump on a plane for the Caribbean. Some warm islands and cool tropical fruity drinks might make us happy!