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rosebud5446

rosebud5446

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i've always been good about being punctional, my current problem i have recently developed is... going at all. i hate being late to things, like class, when you walk in, everyone looks at you and... blah i just always hated being late. well, now i have a couple classes earlier in the morning than i'm used to waking up, and i'll just hit snooze over and over. i used to never hit snooze before... sometimes i'll be like 'okay i GUESS i'll get up' but then i look at the clock and i won't have time to get there on time, so i just go back to sleep. i've been wanting to post a topic on what could give me the initiative to go to school, mabye a reward for after i go, but i've never been very disiplined, so i'd be likely to give myself the reward if i didn't go too...
 
rosebud5446 said:
i've always been good about being punctional, my current problem i have recently developed is... going at all. i hate being late to things, like class, when you walk in, everyone looks at you and... blah i just always hated being late. well, now i have a couple classes earlier in the morning than i'm used to waking up, and i'll just hit snooze over and over. i used to never hit snooze before... sometimes i'll be like 'okay i GUESS i'll get up' but then i look at the clock and i won't have time to get there on time, so i just go back to sleep. i've been wanting to post a topic on what could give me the initiative to go to school, mabye a reward for after i go, but i've never been very disiplined, so i'd be likely to give myself the reward if i didn't go too...
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I feel for you, I really do because I hate mornings, but (and I bet you know what I'm going to say), being an adult means getting up even if you don't want to. Put the alarm clock across the room, so you have to actually get out of bed to turn it off. That might make it more likely that you'll get up and stay up. Or set an alarm clock and your cell phone to beep five minutes apart.
 
:) i just replied to another thread just like this. i ended up skipping class last week for the same reason then felt terribly guilty about it. Anyway, that's not the point. i suggest not thinking about what you're doing (if that makes senss) and just do it. Just get up and go. i have to do this or i would never be able to get to work at 6AM in the morning. i don't want to go to work but i just go through the process of getting ready in a daze. Turn on music and lots of lights as soon as you can. It is terrible at first to have all that stimulation so early in the morning but it will wake you up and before you know it you will be dancing out the door with a smile on your face. Don't forget though, don't think about where you are going or you'll end up back in your bed. i hope i helped some. Good luck with this!
 
I abhor mornings. I've not been ontime, for a good four solid weeks now, bar today. There's no real way around it, other than providing yourself with ample sleep, and sheer willpower. Do you shower in the morning, or at night? If night, try showering in the morning (even if it means showering twice a day or whatever) because I find the shock of water , then being cold as you step out, really sends a shock to the body and.. yeah, you wake up!

After that, the only advice I can suggest is eating something like porridge for breakfast (slow-carbs) + a banana or something, just something, rather than nothing to give your body an energy source to kick start the day :)

Hope atleast one thing i've said is helpful, though I appreciate the likelyhood of that is, well, close to nil :D

Have a nice day,

next! :D
 
morning showers do help me wake up, but i have to wake up alot earlier because i have to dry my hair and then do something with it. so that's the shit side of that...
 
Trouble with taking a shower or eating a good breakfast is you'd have to get out of bed first. :)
 
rosebud5446 said:
morning showers do help me wake up, but i have to wake up alot earlier because i have to dry my hair and then do something with it. so that's the shit side of that...
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I like showering in the morning, but have the same problem with the hair drying sucking up my sleep time. So, if I have to get up early, I wash my hair and do any time-intensive shower stuff at night. Then I can just get up and shower, keeping my hair dry, and get ready. That gives me the benefits of the shower AND extra time to sleep.

I didn't have a problem with motivation to go to class most of the time. Not wanting to repeat or fail the class, wasting a lot of time and money was all I needed. I treated school like a job - I had to perform in order to put food on the table, and starving/failing wasn't an option.
 
I'm with you on this and one of the main reasons why I'm late for my morning classes.

How about trying this: FORCE yourself to get up and go run a few miles, come back, take a shower and eat breakfast, then make your way to class. The running will wake you up and it's very productive. Back when I tried to cut a few pounds for my meet, I did this each morning and afterwards I felt good and ready to go to work.
 
It may sound daft but it does actually work.

As your lying there about to fall asleep. Say to yourself ‘Im going to wake up at (what ever time) and feel refreshed and ready to go’. Say it a few times in your head and really mean it. You will be surprised when you wake up roughly at the exact time you wanted. Maybe not feeling great but you will be more alert and awake enough to get up! ;)

Getting your body into a routine also helps. I found ‘Melatonin’ a good sleeping aid to help produce a good sleep pattern. Taken 2-3 nights on the trot and it almost programs your body to naturally produce it at that time. But im always one for trying new stuff and you can easily become dependant on it. So I wouldn’t recommend it.

I have suffered with poor sleep for years and hate the mornings as im a night owl. But I can assure you if you take the time to motivate yourself and get yourself into a routine even for 1 week, you will find it getting easier. Discipline… tell me about it, at times im the worlds worst, but you got to consider that sleep or your future. There is always time to catch up with your sleep when your dead LOL. :D

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I've always been an earlier riser. Up at the crack of dawn.

A few years ago, I developed a problem with hitting the snooze button. Dropping my head for that extra 10 minutes several times before finally getting up.

I moved the alarm clock to the other side of the room. I had to get out of bed to hit the snooze button.

Just for me, anyway, the fact that I had to get out of bed was enough to make me go ahead and get up.
 
Ha ha, i think..'ok turn the alarm off, lie for a few seconds and get up' so i get to lying there for a few seconds and decide to reset the alarm for another ten minutes. Now I always get up after that extra ten minutes, I've found I need that time to collect myself
 
I'm not sure if you're looking for a serious answer, but I'll provide one.

Give your life a sense of purpose. When I was in the USAF I had that, getting up to be at the squadron in order to perform my duties on the aircraft. In 20 years I never overslept. I'm guilty of not sleeping, but never the other.

Now, as an adult educator, I have to be early to make the coffee, etc. When I think I MIGHT be late my sphincter tightens. I could add details but there's a future story in this (LOL). But I leave my house in anticipation of such delays so that I am still there early.

All I can suggest is that you mentally consider that you matter. You do! Get your ass up! People are counting on YOU!

Make a difference!
 
What the hell? For one, obviously I am "considering the matter" or I wouldn't be looking for help. This is only a recent development, and I'm unsure why I started doing it all of a sudden, but I'm trying to fix it. I appreciate your insight, but I don't need to be 'SLAPPED'. I'm sorry, but it's really pissing me off, that I'm trying to be more responsible, I haven't felt like drinking or partying (not like I did all the time anyway), which is also wierd that I'm having a hard time getting up with the complete lack of partying. It seems the harder I am trying, the more I get bad comments from the people that miss me smoking pot and drinking with them, and from those same people and others, I get criticized for trying to make a difference in it. I'm not trying to snap at you, Assylum, but I'm just really frustrated, and I feel that, even though I am trying to do the best that I can and be more responsible than i ever have, by not even smoking or anything, is the time when I get shat on by everyone.
 
Fuck what all the negative people say to you. I used to have a couple 'friends' that would tease me about carrying food around with me, training at the gym on a friday night instead of going to a bar and picking up woman. How I'd rather be in bed at a decent hour to get my 8-9hrs of sleep instead of drinking beer and everything else.

Not to say I am better than they are, but look at what I have achieved and see what they have completed in their life from all the late-nights and drinking parties.

Negative people will try to bring others down with them because they feel sorry for themselves. This isn't going against anyone in particular in this thread, just stating that when you try to make positive changes within your life, don't pay attention to the ones who say you cannot do it. Instead, use that as motivation. I do.
 
I'm terrible with mornings. I'm not one to judge. The whole world is set up for morning people though. I think we night-owls should qualify under ADA.
 
rosebud5446 said:
What the hell? For one, obviously I am "considering the matter" or I wouldn't be looking for help. This is only a recent development, and I'm unsure why I started doing it all of a sudden, but I'm trying to fix it. I appreciate your insight, but I don't need to be 'SLAPPED'. I'm sorry, but it's really pissing me off, that I'm trying to be more responsible, I haven't felt like drinking or partying (not like I did all the time anyway), which is also wierd that I'm having a hard time getting up with the complete lack of partying.
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I took AsylumSeeker's comment as a joke, Rosebud, and I'm guessing (based on experience posting with this member) that's how it was meant. :)

It seems the harder I am trying, the more I get bad comments from the people that miss me smoking pot and drinking with them, and from those same people and others, I get criticized for trying to make a difference in it.
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I agree with PL. If they're good friends, they'll support you in positive changes and trying to achieve your goals. Don't give their comments a second thought. Potheads and partiers aren't known to be the wisest bunch, afterall. I know drinking heavily and smoking greatly decrease my brain power, motivation and ability to make good decisions. I'd hate to think where I'd be if I did it all the time. :rolleyes:

I'm not trying to snap at you, Assylum, but I'm just really frustrated, and I feel that, even though I am trying to do the best that I can and be more responsible than i ever have, by not even smoking or anything, is the time when I get shat on by everyone.
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LMAO. I'm not sure if that was a freudian slip or intentional, but... :D
 
First of all, you're an adult, so own up and start being more responsible about going to class.

Second skipping class is going to affect your grades, even if the professor doesn't deduct for too many absences. Especially if you 'almost' have a B- he'll look at your attendance, and decide C+ is all you earned, maybe only a C.
 
SubNebGuy said:
Second skipping class is going to affect your grades, even if the professor doesn't deduct for too many absences. Especially if you 'almost' have a B- he'll look at your attendance, and decide C+ is all you earned, maybe only a C.
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Yeah, it depends on university policies and instructor discretion.

The college that I used to teach at didn't have an attendance policy per se, though students are encouraged to attend class. It's left up to each professor. Some don't give a shit, figuring that people will show up or not, while others are stricter. I used to work attendance into my in-class assignments.

I had an undergrad English instructor who wouldn't allow people to come into her classes late, and this was plainly stated on the syllabus and mentioned at the beginning of the term. It wasn't just a threat, either; I saw her turn people away. Being shamed into leaving after enduring the embarrassment of arriving to class late has a way of making people get to class on time.

I never had the balls (or ovaries, as it were) to adopt such a policy for myself, but even as a student, I respected it.
 
yeah, sorry, had a mental breakdown last night. the anniversary of a very tragic something or other is coming up in a couple days and i'm a little on edge about everything. I still have A's in all my classes, I just want to go because it's the right thing to do. I talked to my bf about it last night, he was very encouraging and told others that they were being d-bags basically, so everyone is cool now.
 
I too have had this issue of not being able to get out of bed, and I'll say now that the tactics of setting an alarm clock across the room or having multiple alarms doesn't always work.

I've been there done that, got to the stage of navigating my room in my sleep (no easy feat) turn off alarm clock (one with bells on) and then make my back to bed and sleep again.

The trick I've found is to actually want/desire to get out of bed, alarms are only good enough to disturb your rest.
 
As far as waking up, the thing that helped me the most is a sunrise alarm clock. The only problem is that they are expensive. Basically they gradually turn on the light about 30 minutes before your alarm goes off. Usually it would actually wake me up before the alarm part would go off. The problem is they are usually like $100 so they ain't cheap. But an alternative is when you hit the snooze button also turn on a light, it is much harder to stay asleep with the lights on.

The other thing is what AsylumSeeker said initially, about having a purpose for getting out of bed early. My work has flex time, so it really doesn't matter to anyone when I get in, so I am often tempted to just snooze away. But if I have a meeting, or a project is due, or I need to get out of work early, then I find it much easier to wake up. So have a destination in mind. Getting out of bed to not be a lazyass is a bit too abstract.

If you have stopped the partying and the pot, then you are clearly trying to turn your life around. Tell yourself that not staying in bed is just as important for your life as not smoking. If you can stop doing one, you can stop doing the other.
 
It kind of sounds like the lack of motivation isn't just school.. more of an all around funk .. is depression an option?
 
i don't know... i think that since my lifestyle has dramatically changed lately, it's sending my brain into a whirlywind of... something. i think it just took me a while to catch up to it, and i'm also wondering if i am changing, which is kind of scaring me because i'm worried that i'm going to grow apart from some of my closest friends.
 
rosebud5446 said:
i don't know... i think that since my lifestyle has dramatically changed lately, it's sending my brain into a whirlywind of... something. i think it just took me a while to catch up to it, and i'm also wondering if i am changing, which is kind of scaring me because i'm worried that i'm going to grow apart from some of my closest friends.
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I'm not sure how much you smoked or how long ago you quit completely, but a fair number of regular pot smokers report increased symptoms of depression and/or anxiety when it's getting out of their system. That could be because they had it before and were self-medicating with the pot or simply due to a big difference in their brain chemistry with and without the THC; regardless, the effect is the same - they're basically stopping their antidepressant/anti-anxiety "medication." You might want to talk to your doctor to see if depression is a possibility and get some treatment strategies.

Distance and life circumstances caused many of my closest friends and I to grow apart over the past several years. I was, and sometimes still am, sad about that, but what I've realized is the closest ones stuck with me, and I've cultivated new relationships with people who are much better matches to who I am now and more of them are likely to be in my life for far longer. So, now I see change in my life and myself as far more about new opportunities for better and more lasting circumstances and relationships than losing the current/old ones. Sometimes a different perspective is all it takes. :rose:
 
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