What do you prefer, pussy or ass??

This question sounds a bit more on the gay side, but it's a question I would like to know from bisexual men.

A little of background. I am a bisexual man, living with both a wife and a husband (I mean, they are both my wife and husband ).

I am the bottom in my relationship with my husband, so I do get anal sex from him a lot. But when I do have sex with the wife (which is everytime we three have sex), I prefer to do her anally. Don't get me wrong ladies, I also do her in front, but the tightness and warm of her ass are just greater than her other orifices.

My husband says the same, but hey, he has two asses to satisfy himself with

What do others think???

Maz.

Mazinger said:

This question sounds a bit more on the gay side, but it's a question I would like to know from bisexual men.

A little of background. I am a bisexual man, living with both a wife and a husband (I mean, they are both my wife and husband ).

I am the bottom in my relationship with my husband, so I do get anal sex from him a lot. But when I do have sex with the wife (which is everytime we three have sex), I prefer to do her anally. Don't get me wrong ladies, I also do her in front, but the tightness and warm of her ass are just greater than her other orifices.

My husband says the same, but hey, he has two asses to satisfy himself with

What do others think???

Maz.

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You know, I live with a bi guy and I asked him this very same question once. when he wouldn't answer me, i came here to ask the men. i got varied answers. some bi men like to do anal with women, some don't. i have a question for YOU, though. you say you live with a guy and a girl ?
how in hell do you work this out ? My guy's an athlete and there's
a chick on his college team. she's good-looking and i cringe when he looks at her too long, though i dont say anything. i dont really feel threatened by male lovers, though. I'm not sure I'd want one of my boyfriend's male lovers living with us, though. You live with both ? And they're okay with it ? wow ! this surprises me. although i dont mind my guy having flings with men on the side ( as long as he's discrete and uses condoms), when he comes home, he's mine ! i'd get jealous if he had any emotional attachment to anyone else, man or woman. sex is just sex but when my significant other "feels" for someone other than me, I feel threatened.

Again, how did you work this out ?

Life is full of surprises

PredatorSmile said:

You know, I live with a bi guy and I asked him this very same question once. when he wouldn't answer me, i came here to ask the men. i got varied answers. some bi men like to do anal with women, some don't.

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Men are not as straight forward as women, that's why we like to keep some things to ourselves I guess. I guess some bi men may see anal as a territory only to be shared with other men, although I don't want to make that the absolute answer to this issue.

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i have a question for YOU, though. you say you live with a guy and a girl ?
how in hell do you work this out ?

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It's not as difficult as it seems, but our relationship may have to do with the fact that we haven been together for 12 years now, both men, and the wife came into the picture 7 yrs ago. He is older than me, 12 yrs, so when we got together, I was 20, and he was 32. Needless to say, he was the one who introduced me to bisexuality. We moved in together, flirter with women, but I don't know, we both got attached, something that we didn't expect. Before the wife came into the picture, we even entertained the idea of a threesome, but with another man. We had this experience, for a whole year, another top male came to live with us, but he had to leave since I didn't like that way he was treating me (he was more into somekind of BDSM style of relationship with me being bottom) and also my guy didn't like it. We had a good time, but things started getting rough.

PredatorSmile said:

My guy's an athlete and there's a chick on his college team. she's good-looking and i cringe when he looks at her too long, though i dont say anything. i dont really feel threatened by male lovers, though. I'm not sure I'd want one of my boyfriend's male lovers living with us, though.

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In one of our many parties, we had met our future wife, and we both liked her. But as you mention in your letter, jeolusy took hold of me, but mainly jeolously of him, since I had grown too attached to him, and there he was, having a new "toy", like a kid. But hey, we had already forseen this, so it was a matter of adjustment.

And how do we work this out? Well, we all sleep in the same bed, and have equal rights, although, we came to an agreement, that one had to be the head of the household, and he became it. That took away many problems.

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You live with both ? And they're okay with it ? wow ! this surprises me. although i dont mind my guy having flings with men on the side ( as long as he's discrete and uses condoms), when he comes home, he's mine ! i'd get jealous if he had any emotional attachment to anyone else, man or woman. sex is just sex but when my significant other "feels" for someone other than me, I feel threatened.

Again, how did you work this out ?

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Well, living together is not as easy as porn movies put it. We have had our issues, at times, He has wante out (he says me and her nag him to death). I, after a year into our relationship as a triad, left since I went through a whole lot of feelings. Although I had girlfriends before my guy, I had never lived with a woman, I was used to live with a man, etc. And her, well, her issue is to keep us three together. She should write in the tread of women loving bi men. She like the idea of men loving each other, but also, men with commitment to each other and a woman.

So, again, as with any marriage', this "marriage" takes work, commitment, understanding, and above all, love.

Maz.

As I read this, I smiled. I couldn't help it. You seemed to have worked out a wonderful relationship. My guy and I have been together for almost three years now, and it's only recently that he told me that he is bisexual. I actually discovered his Bi-card sticking out of his pocket. It
surprised me. I asked him later and he told me the truth. I didn't get why he didn't just tell me in the beginning. I love this man something fierce, and also, I am bi myself. I was in a relationship with a woman before i met him and although I'd done some experimenting with men, I had never been in love with one. Well, I fell in love with him and accepted him for who he was.


I haven't been with a woman since I began dating him. Sometimes, I miss girls but I'm not about to throw away a loving relationship for casual sex.


We're both college students. I'm a senior graduating in May with a degree in business. He's still a junior. We've discussed getting an apartment together. I will have to move out of the dorms soon. You can't stay after graduation, lol. I'm out to my friends and my family. He's deeply closeted and I'm the only person who knows that he is bi. I've had several relationships with women. He's only had two relationships,
one with a guy, and one with a girl....and I'm the girl !!!!


My guy is not exactly the marrying type and he's told me as much. His parents were cruel to him. Particularly his mother. She was very abusive to him physically. He says that the only love he found in his life ( before me) came from the boy he loved since high school. They split months before I met him. He hasn't been home since he started college. He works two jobs to support himself. I work too but my family is rather well-off. He gets mad at me sometimes. I'm sort of "The Princess" while he's the "Rugged Loner". He had to work his butt off to get the athletic
scholarship he's on now. In the summer months, I go to my dad's beach house in Cali. In the summer, he lives in a tiny apartment and works three jobs. Our lives are so different...but I love him FIERCELY.


I've brought up the issue of threesomes with him and he seems a bit hesitant to try it. He tells me that he loves me but I'm pretty sure he doesn't trust me one hundred percent, though I wouldn't do anything to hurt him. He's had a tough life. Working things out in this relationship
sometimes take their toll on me. Yet, before I met him, I had never been in love before.


Sucks, huh ?

Being in love, the most wonderful feeling!!

If you love your guy, you may need to work through many of his issues in order to keep him.

My parents did not suspect of my lifestyle, until our women came in. I had to brake it to them, that we were a tried, and that we were going to share this woman, and each other. It was a bit of a schock, but they have taken it well, did I mention I even gave them a grandson? So that sorted things for us.

I guess having a family unites us even more.

But we have gone offtopic!!!!!!!!

Thank you for sharing your life with me though. Sometimes it feels that in the forums or chat, all people care about is the sex, and they forget that we live in the real world too.

Maz.

Mazinger said:

If you love your guy, you may need to work through many of his issues in order to keep him.

My parents did not suspect of my lifestyle, until our women came in. I had to brake it to them, that we were a tried, and that we were going to share this woman, and each other. It was a bit of a schock, but they have taken it well, did I mention I even gave them a grandson? So that sorted things for us.

I guess having a family unites us even more.

But we have gone offtopic!!!!!!!!

Thank you for sharing your life with me though. Sometimes it feels that in the forums or chat, all people care about is the sex, and they forget that we live in the real world too.

Maz.

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Thanks. Working through his issues as we speak. I have a lot of patience, so that helps. Good luck with life and your spouse(s).

I've been there, and if your love is strong enough, you will get through it.

His reluctance to have a threesome may come from his issues with relationships in the past.

But as far as I can see, you do offer him more than his previous relationships, and he may end up enjoying more opening up.

Maz.

PredatorSmile said:

Sucks, huh ?

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Actually, it sounds like you're two of the luckiest people i know. you're in love! and you found someone who will accept who you are. there are problems, but everyone has problems. better to have problems and be in love than the other way around.

not trying to jump on you or anything, I'm just an unrelenting optimist/romantic. an optimistic romantic!

ezervet said:

Actually, it sounds like you're two of the luckiest people i know. you're in love! and you found someone who will accept who you are. there are problems, but everyone has problems. better to have problems and be in love than the other way around.

not trying to jump on you or anything, I'm just an unrelenting optimist/romantic. an optimistic romantic!

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i envy optimists. i've been called a pessimist in my day. so, what brings such a joyful soul to this thread ? the title pulled me in....lol. when i read it, it was so similar to my own life that it made me think...hard. not just about sex. about the dynamics in a bisexual relationship. yeah, love is good. i love my guy. still...before i met him...i wasn't the kind of gal who liked fixing things ( relationships, i mean). i used to have a love'em-and-leave-em attitude. plenty of gals i've sexed up can tell you that. they
were really surprised to see me with a man, though. even more surprised were my folks when i became determined to make it work and became monogamous ( usually, monogamy is not my cup of tea). love changes people.

well, the title, of course! just because i'm an optimist doesn't mean i'm not a red blooded bisexual male . then i read the responses and felt the need to reply .

besides..i have to get my post count up somehow.

ezervet said:

well, the title, of course! just because i'm an optimist doesn't mean i'm not a red blooded bisexual male . then i read the responses and felt the need to reply .

besides..i have to get my post count up somehow.

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Hi ezervet.

I would like to know which do yo prefer than, as a bisexual man, pussy or ass??

Like I said, I prefer anal sex over vaginal sex. My husband does too, but he is 9 inches big, to my modest 6. I guess the more lenght, the bigger the pleasure too.

Maz.

Mazinger said:

Hi ezervet.

I would like to know which do yo prefer than, as a bisexual man, pussy or ass??

Like I said, I prefer anal sex over vaginal sex. My husband does too, but he is 9 inches big, to my modest 6. I guess the more lenght, the bigger the pleasure too.

Maz.

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le sigh..i apologize, for i cannot answer your question without making up an answer.

<is frightfully inexperienced.>

<vanilla, vanilla, VANILLA>

<lame.>

I bit disappointed

I guess it is hard to get something so important to many males out of themselves.

However, I see that I lot of people have cheched the tread.

If we all agree that we prefer anal sex over vaginal sex, at least let us not forget that vaginal sex is mainly for two things, 1. to give pleasure to our woman 2. To make kids!!!

I am hopping to hear other's perspectives on the matter.

Thank you.

Maz.

hummmm

Well I like to slide my cock into pussy much more then ass. Ass just doesnt do it for me whether it is male or female. I guess it may be the smooth skin and theres always those awesome tits a woman has. Taking it in the ass is a whole nother thing though. Thats fun!! later

Hmm....let's see. I liked eating my ex-girlfriend's pussy. I also loved licking my current boyfriend's ass. My ex-gf let me FCK her a55. My man is scared of being "topped". I feel tempted to sleep with him, get him tired and make him fall asleep, then tie him up and then go grab my "tool" ( strap on dildo). THAT would be a rude awakening. Of course, that's just my imagination talking. I'd never do that to him, unless he wanted me to.....

PredatorSmile said:

Hmm....let's see. I liked eating my ex-girlfriend's pussy. I also loved licking my current boyfriend's ass. My ex-gf let me FCK her a55. My man is scared of being "topped". I feel tempted to sleep with him, get him tired and make him fall asleep, then tie him up and then go grab my "tool" ( strap on dildo). THAT would be a rude awakening. Of course, that's just my imagination talking. I'd never do that to him, unless he wanted me to.....

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I can understand your bf's aprehension at being topped.

I was the same when my husband said to me he wanted to be the top in our relationship. I guess that culture has contioned us that being topped means that we lose our manhood, which is totally untrue. You can be versitile, and still enjoy fck another hole, being it a man or a woman.

Interesting that I spend almost two years without penetrating anybody (apart from the now and then "invited guess"), yet, I was content with the sex life.

So I guess everybody is turned on by different things.

Maz.

Mazinger said:

I can understand your bf's aprehension at being topped.

I was the same when my husband said to me he wanted to be the top in our relationship. I guess that culture has contioned us that being topped means that we lose our manhood, which is totally untrue. You can be versitile, and still enjoy fck another hole, being it a man or a woman.

Interesting that I spend almost two years without penetrating anybody (apart from the now and then "invited guess"), yet, I was content with the sex life.

So I guess everybody is turned on by different things.

Maz.

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I think I'm versatile, like you. I enjoy being in control sometimes but most of the time, I love letting go and have my man take me for a wild ride. I absolutely love it when he grabs me and takes without asking.
We've worked out these things before so it's okay. I LOVE letting go.
I also like being "topped", lol. I like getting penetrated, both vaginally and anally, but the only condition is that I want to do it face to face.
I don't mind when we do it roughly but I want to be able to look at him while he takes me. Even rough sex is making love in my book. Sweet and tender gets boring real fast. Yet I don't want to be just a FUCK to him.

Mazinger said:

I've been there, and if your love is strong enough, you will get through it.


Maz.

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not always...I was married for 10 years and we tried living as three for nearly 2 years. I wanted to die, he tried and she was going insane all because we loved each other so much, yet i couldn't give either of them a full relationship

It was a slightly different situation to yours though. I was essentially in two relationships under one roof. Both of them sharing me but not in a relationship as such, with each other. (other than friends).

I now live with him and we still have massive issues due to the way he was reshaped to fit my life. Its going to take time, him knowing how sorry I am for not making a choice sooner, thinking I could have the best of both worlds. It killed all our spirits and we're only now just this year becoming the people we once were.

and to answer the question....ass is best without doubt

LoboBoy said:

not always...I was married for 10 years and we tried living as three for nearly 2 years. I wanted to die, he tried and she was going insane all because we loved each other so much, yet i couldn't give either of them a full relationship

It was a slightly different situation to yours though. I was essentially in two relationships under one roof. Both of them sharing me but not in a relationship as such, with each other. (other than friends).

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I think that was the main issue, that the other two were not involved with each other. The sexual intimacy creates an atmosphere of understanding and tolerance, since the ones involved have given their most intimate relation to another person. That makes a bond among them.

Although I went through something similar, it could not totally compare, since the other two, had sex as well, and as a matter of rule, we usually make love as 3, very seldom in pairs.

Thank you for sharing your story, and your preference.

Maz.

That' cool. I actually was aiming for what you guys have. Just didn't work out that way.

I didn't mean to sound all down.

PredatorSmile said:

I think I'm versatile, like you. I enjoy being in control sometimes but most of the time, I love letting go and have my man take me for a wild ride. I absolutely love it when he grabs me and takes without asking.

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I am versitile only with our wife and other man, but not with my husband. However, I also enjoy the feelings that you described. I have read the other tread about how it does feel to be a bottom, and I agree that the feeling of "surrender" to another man, or in my case, to a specific man, is very pleasent.

PredatorSmile said:

I don't mind when we do it roughly but I want to be able to look at him while he takes me. Even rough sex is making love in my book. Sweet and tender gets boring real fast. Yet I don't want to be just a FUCK to him.

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I also prefer to look at his or her face while having sex, but sometimes, it's not possible, as in the case when we both males are in a DP with her, in which I am doint it anal to her, although I can see his face. Well, you can imagine the other positions where I can't look at the face of one of them.

Thank you

Maz.

I am a married man and enjoy the ass more. There is just something about it. I cum MUCH harder -- may just be in my head. I want her to fuck me so I can let go. I always feel like I have to be in control.

Maybe that's why some guys get into gay sex as we get older. I'm tired of chasing it!!

I'm interested -- know anyone in my area?

I think I'm rambling -- sorry!

Baskin Robbins said:

I am a married man and enjoy the ass more. There is just something about it. I cum MUCH harder -- may just be in my head. I want her to fuck me so I can let go. I always feel like I have to be in control.

Maybe that's why some guys get into gay sex as we get older. I'm tired of chasing it!!

I'm interested -- know anyone in my area?

I think I'm rambling -- sorry!

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....dude. www.gaydar.com go for your life!! lol

Is gaydar a good gay/bi site?

If so I'll definitely check it out!