How to: Make a woman scream

So, I have a new boyfriend and I just can't get him to make me scream. He isn't that big, but I can't do anything about that so what else can I tell him to do as far a technique goes? He is like 6" and is willing to do anything, but what should I have him do? He is new to all of this and I am no expert myself, so anything will help.
-Thanks

Girl4Girl,

First of all welcome to Lit,

I see this is your first post and I don't know if you've been browsing Lit already. If and when you do you will find there is no one answer to your question. Sex, and how it is experienced, is different for everyone. What may send one over the roof may do nothing or little to the next one. This goes for both men and women. I am a very sexual being and still there are lots of things here on Lit that people ravish about that don't do a thing for me. So most important is you find out yourself what works for you and what not. It can be fun finding this out together but then you must also be prepared for disappointments and be able to take them together as they come. In the end only you will be able to tell your partner what does it for you and what not.

If you want suggestions on things to try and want to know how other people experience it, check out lots of threads here on Lit and participate in asking questions and venting your opinion/experience...

Lots of very useful information is catagorized in The Blank Manual (sticky) by BlueSugar. Open the thread and you will find loads of useful information!

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=243894

ditto m's girl welcome, g4g!

to help answer your question, consider the things you've done or had done that you really liked. once you figure those things out, maybe you'll be in a better position to make suggestions to him.

ed

Well, have you screamed before with someone else?

Can you make yourself scream?

Either of those experiences could provide useful clues as to what to do now.

bisexplicit said:

Well, have you screamed before with someone else?

Can you make yourself scream?

Either of those experiences could provide useful clues as to what to do now.

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My thoughts exactly.

Keep in mind too, girl_4_girl, that (contrary to what porn movies may suggest) not all women are screamers.

If your answers to Bi's questions above are "no", then you just might not be a screamer... No biggie.

phoenix1224 said:

My thoughts exactly.

Keep in mind too, girl_4_girl, that (contrary to what porn movies may suggest) not all women are screamers.

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No, mine's a moaner. That works pretty well too.

I really appriciate your help. No I have never screamed before. I am not really talking about only screaming though. I am just looking for techniques for him to make it really good. There has to be something out there that a guy can do to make a woman really happy. What works for you guys? Also, what do you think of 6", is it that small?

Well, I'm not sure there's a real magic trick in this. I know that my latest ex was a screamer ; she always wanted to put the radio on so the neighbours wouldn't hear her. But my current girlfriend is totally silent. So, well, if you don't feel like screaming, don't feel you have to. (even if I must say it really boosts a guy's ego )

Now, don't hesitate to tell your boyfriend what feels good and when you feel that something just won't work. Some girls never or hardly ever have orgasms from vaginal stimulation (read : his 15 cm in your cunny) alone, so don't hesitate to try cunnilingus or him manually stimulating your clitoris. If he's not too experienced, then let's hope he's open to your suggestions when you ask for something that will get you aroused.

Oh, and I'll leave the subject of penis size to the true experts here

girl_4_girl said:

I really appriciate your help. No I have never screamed before. I am not really talking about only screaming though. I am just looking for techniques for him to make it really good. There has to be something out there that a guy can do to make a woman really happy. What works for you guys? Also, what do you think of 6", is it that small?

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"it ain't the meat, its the motion" so his size is pretty irrelevant.

If you have never screamed before or had mind blowing sex, it hardly seems fair to put everything on his performance. Knowing your own body helps a great deal. What are you doing to make it really good for him and yourself?

Sex is not just PIV intercourse, and many women never come from that alone.

For me, what I like in sex is pretty much partner specific. Sex is more in your brain than in your body. To some extent you control your how you respond. What makes one woman happy does not always translate to all women.

Sex also takes practice, getting to know your partner, their triggers.

My suggestion is that you try just being sensual with each other, get to know what kind of touch you like and he likes, get away from the mechanics of intercourse until you can make each other so excited that you just can't not have sex. Maybe use only your hands.

One of the most intense non-intercourse, non-touching experiences I had was a lover blowing little puffs of air all over my body (don't let him blow air inside of you though because that is dangerous), it literally blew me away. He could tell by my reaction where I like it.

My sex interests have changed as I have gotten older. I remember a big change at 27 and then again around 35. Unfortunately at 35 I was in a bad car accident so sex was a no go for a while. I have always been affected by my sense of smell, but in the past few years I have found that sound is very exciting to me, the change of my lover's breath, the softening of his speech as he starts to get lost, the sharp intakes of breath, the rush that goes through me when I hear him come, sometimes I come again just hearing him come.

The written word also can excite me, depending on who it is and what they have written, same with cyber or phone sex.

There is a book called the art of sexual ecstasy that is good for getting to know yourself and your lover. You might want to take a look at it.

Grab a tuft of pubes and yank. Always worked for me. lol

Are you preventing yourself from screaming? Do you allow yourself to get totally absorbed into the moment while you are with him? Do you not care what he thinks when you are together, because you are totally comfortable with him?

I could go on, but I'm no expert. Have you told him where you like it the most and so on?

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What works for you guys? Also, what do you think of 6", is it that small?

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I would SO completely dump a man for having a measly little six-incher. I mean, how DARE he offend my almighty pussy!

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Oh, Jesus Christ. Six inches is well with the range of what's considered to be average, and average does NOT equal small! If you expect to be brought to screaming fits solely by the thrusting motion of his cock--REGARDLESS of his cock size--then expect to be disappointed.

When you say, "What should I have him do?" it gives me the impression that you're just sitting back and letting him do all the work. Sex isn't just about receiving pleasure, about passively getting fucked. It's about giving pleasure to your partner, and it's also about taking a bit of responsibility for your own pleasure by communicating your likes and dislikes to your SO.

If you're both new to all this, then learn together. Do you masturbate? If not, then get some toys or use your fingers and have at it. Figure out what you like on your own, and show him. During foreplay and/or sex, if your BF does something that really drives you crazy (in a good way), then be sure to let him know so he can keep on doing it.

Okay, so you haven't screamed before.

And thats not what its "really about."


Is all of this actually code for orgasming? Are you trying to say that you haven't orgasmed while having intercourse?

If you are, its very normal to not. If you're not, perhaps you're just trying to say that intercourse only feels pleasant rather than extremely pleasurable.

If thats the case, then you can try switching positions, or a few different other things. You also need to keep in mind that many women need more stimulation than just vaginal in order to feel things beyond a pleasant sensation. For most women, this means having either him or you rub your clitoris - or find a position in which you can achieve some level of clitoral stimulation.

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Also, what do you think of 6", is it that small?

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Must show restraint! Musn't make snide comments! Musn't show self-control!

OK I counted to ten and I'm ready to go! COCk SIZE MEANS NOTHING!!!! Believe it, it's true. Unless you are at one extreme or the other, it dont' matter. 6" is plenty for anything you might want to do, short of jacking up your truck to change a tire.

As for techniques, well there's no master key, that's for sure. As was already stated, every woman is different. YOU need to find out what makes YOU cum, then tell him. Maybe this is through masturbation, maybe this is just through experimentation with him. No matter how many tricks he learns they still might not work on you.

Here are some general "best practices" if you will that may help:

1.) Clitoral stimulation goes with everything. It's like Jello, there's always room for clitoral stimulation!

2.) As per #1, find the clit! Many guys new to sex don't have a clue where it's at. If he can't find it, show him. He may be embarassed for not knowing right at first, but he'll get over it.

3.) SLOW DOWN!!!! Hard and fast is fun and all, but if you slow down and let the tension build, it gets hotter.

4.) Lick the alphabet! Sounds crazy, but it freakin works!!!!

5.) Talk to each other. Tell each other what works and what doesn't.

As for screaming, remember: Porn ain't real! I've only been with one woman who was a screamer in my life. Now either I just got better with age, or not all women scream. I'll give you a little hint though, if you want to be a screamer, you'll be one. It's all in how much you can let yourself go.

Exploration, communication, exploration, communication, exploration, communication!

You sound very unsure about your own body, and the things that please you the most, work on them alone and with your boy friend, then talk to him about the ones that work really well for you, then explore again with him, and when he does something that works well tell him, and when he does something that you don’t like tell him (even more importantly) and ask him to do the same (tell you) for the things that work or don’t for him.

Otherwise you will have an unsatisfactory sex life, due to the fact that neither of you can trust the other enough to ask for what you really want or be able to express the things you don’t like or would prefer not to have to do.

This post is a version of the 'Communication, commuication, communication!' post reprinted due to popular demand. You can search for communication and obtain many other versions by many other authors.

I haven't been able to orgasm just from sex yet. We're getting close though. My boy's about the same size as yours, if that matters, and the best positions for me are:

*me on my back with my legs over his shoulders
*me on top, back arched, him thrusting
*doggie

all of these hit the spot, but the first's my favourite. When he really gets into it, he slams into my clit to.


Hmmm...

girl_4_girl said:

So, I have a new boyfriend and I just can't get him to make me scream.
-Thanks

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lol...a good healthy boot to the head usually works for me

seriously, its all in your head, unless you are screaming from pain...and i am going to assume that you are not a pain junkie. getting into the groove is more then just bumping uglies...it starts in your mind....its starts with a look....it builds and builds and builds to a crescendo.

not knowing any details, i would suggest you spend a few sessions just practicing foreplay...no intercourse at all for a while....just get to know each other's body

and GOOD LUCK!

Marc

Get him some viagra,have him take one a half hour before seeing you then when he gets there he grabs you throws you down on the floor and rips your clothes off puts you on your hands and knees spits on your ass then just slams his six inches up your ass while he reaches under and pulls and twists your nipples hard.You will scream!!

When I had my first time (and first few), I wasn't much of a screamer either. Not that it's sage advice or anything, but, are you into anal? I loved it the first time I tried it, and it definitley got me screaming.

It sounds to me like you want the internet to tell you what will get you off...

Nobody knows that better than you. Good sex is up to both of you, not just him. Nothing irritates me more than the attitude that the guy's job is to arouse the woman (automatically being aroused in the process because guys are just always 100% hard and ready to go), then provide a round of orgasms for all involved, while all the woman has to do is be appropriately appreciative.

I'm not trying to be harsh here, but as I said, nobody knows what gets you off better than you. Good sex isn't just penis -> vagina. You have to communicate before, during and afterwards. If he's not doing what you want him to do then tell him (in a considerate way). But if you're doing this already and you just want some tips as to positions or whatever, the Blank Manual has heaps of that...

But I find that the position that creates maximum 'screaming' for both parties is a variant of doggy style where the woman leans up against a wall with her hands so that your bodies are much more parallel than they would usually be with doggy style (or the guy can hold her to him so that they're more parallel...this requires skill and balance though). This position is great, but be prepared for quick orgasms on both of your parts...it's definitely a 'finishing move'.

But as I said...exploration and communication is the key. There is no magic bullet that will suddenly make sex great and it's as much up to you as it is him.

(oh and 6" is heaps. It's about average or maybe a little more.)

I whole heartedly agree with everyone else.

It sounds like you are unsure of yourself, and that you are putting the burden on your partner to do the work. That seems a bit selfish, or naive. You must do this together, and you must do your homework alone. You cannot expect someone to please you if you have no idea what gets you off.

By the way, screaming is just an individual reaction. Some women I have known would scream during sex, and not orgasm. The quiet types, on many occasions, were having multiple orgasms, and having the times of their lives. This is both an individual and team sport, with everyone handling it differently.

Finally, according to medicine, the average penis size in the US is just over 5 inches. Thus, you have a larger than average on your hands........as if that means anything. A favorite girlfriend in graduate school commented that there have been two men in her life that stood out. First was a man with a 10 inch behemoth that caused nothing but discomfort, and disappointment. The other was a 5 1/2 inch guy that made her drown in her orgasms. Take this advice, there are no predictors.

first things first

95% of the sounds in porn MOVIES is faked

there are girls that scream , there are girls that wouldnt even sigh when they cum.. you will find out what you are eventually

if you just want him to make you scream - go into a scarry rollercoaster or let him burn your shoe collection

nah .. just kidding , point is .. dont base your love live on adult movies

Communication, communication, communication!!!!!!!

In addition to the excellent advice above, and from my own personal perspective, whether I scream or not is partly determined by the circumstances/location of our 'activities'.... for instance, if we're at his place and his child/ren are there, I'm lots quieter than if we were alone in the house.

You should try sharing fantasies too - ther's nothing like talking about sex while doing it to get people worked up.

bend him over, then taser his asshole... that will surely make him scream

Last post was about a year ago???

boese_ami said:

lol...a good healthy boot to the head usually works for me

seriously, its all in your head, unless you are screaming from pain...and i am going to assume that you are not a pain junkie. getting into the groove is more then just bumping uglies...it starts in your mind....its starts with a look....it builds and builds and builds to a crescendo.

not knowing any details, i would suggest you spend a few sessions just practicing foreplay...no intercourse at all for a while....just get to know each other's body

and GOOD LUCK!

Marc

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I don't understand why or how you would dig up such an old thread and post help to it like that person is still looking for it.??
Don't get me wrong. The advice is good. Just don't understand why. And from an old-timer too.