Tasks assigned and accepted

FurryFury

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I love tasks don't you?

I love being able to tick even everyday tasks off my lists. (Yes, I have several.)

Since becoming aware of BDSM and a for a time, having an online Master, I discovered how very much I LOVE doing tasks for others.

No this is NOT an invitation to PM me with tasks! Why? I've said it before I have to give a damn about a person and have a certain level of trust before any such thing can be done.

This is a conversation if anyone wants to participate, about tasks. Do you like them? If so why? If not why?

I do. I like to please others but I also fear them because I HATE to fail anyone and I won't lie about them. If I don't think I can do it from the get go I will say so and why. Yet, I have still failed rarely.

So anyone want to talk about tasks, perhaps favorite tasks or least favorite tasks? Tasks you've succeeded with or failed would be interesting to share, I think. Tasks you've learned from and what lessons learned that you didn't expect or what did you expect to learn that you didn't really?

Yes, I know talking about all this could be scary. I know tasks are often very private feeling. I will talk about some if you will! You know me. I'll be forthcoming.

Fury :rose:
 
I like tasks and To-do lists. I sorta need them, as I'm so hyperactive that I'd never get anything done otherwise!
 
snowy ciara said:
I like tasks and To-do lists. I sorta need them, as I'm so hyperactive that I'd never get anything done otherwise!

I have to type them up or write them down or I can't remember the salient details and sometimes the tasks themselves if I want to avoid them and they are not for someone.

Fury :rose:
 
snowy ciara said:
I like tasks and To-do lists. I sorta need them, as I'm so hyperactive that I'd never get anything done otherwise!

It is beneficial for those with ADD too since it helps keep a focus and a definate direction.
 
Joe Schmoe said:
It is beneficial for those with ADD too since it helps keep a focus and a definate direction.

I don't think I have those conditions or whatever you want to call them but they do tend to make me happy and focused anyhow.

Fury :rose:
 
I love to do lists and stuff, but I'm always loosing the list, and having to start over.

I actually do best with a routine - cause then I get used to doing whatever it is, and I don't forget. Well, unless it's my meds. Doesn't matter if I have routine, I coudln't remember them to save my life.
 
graceanne said:
I love to do lists and stuff, but I'm always loosing the list, and having to start over.

I actually do best with a routine - cause then I get used to doing whatever it is, and I don't forget. Well, unless it's my meds. Doesn't matter if I have routine, I coudln't remember them to save my life.

That's why you are supposed to take meds at the same times everyday, right?

Fury :rose:
 
Joe Schmoe said:
It is beneficial for those with ADD too since it helps keep a focus and a definate direction.


ADHD here....


and I'm acronym impaired too!
 
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FurryFury said:
That's why you are supposed to take meds at the same times everyday, right?

Fury :rose:

Doesn't help. K has it programed in his phone to call me every morning at 10 and remind me to take my meds. That helps more.
 
I usually have 2-3 lists with the same stuff on it. One is on the computer. One is on of the side of the fridge which I check throughout the day and one in my purse calendar.

When I was making lunches for the kids because they hated school lunches? I had notes around the house to remind me including the front door so I'd see it on the inside before we walked out of the house. I was terrified of forgetting that.

LOL! :rose:
 
FurryFury said:
I usually have 2-3 lists with the same stuff on it. One is on the computer. One is on of the side of the fridge which I check throughout the day and one in my purse calendar.

When I was making lunches for the kids because they hated school lunches? I had notes around the house to remind me including the front door so I'd see it on the inside before we walked out of the house. I was terrified of forgetting that.

LOL! :rose:

I've tried that, but I'm capable of not noticing things if they're like they've always been, so that only works for a week or so.

To tell the truth the problem with me is that my memory is so bad. K stays on the phone with me till I've taken my meds, cause i'll walk into the kitchen and have no idea why I'm there. He has to remind me again.
 
snowy ciara said:
ADHD here....


and I'm acronym impaired too!

Yes...that was what I actually meant...thanks hon.

I could be wrong but I thought they grouped it all under that heading now.
 
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graceanne said:
I've tried that, but I'm capable of not noticing things if they're like they've always been, so that only works for a week or so.

To tell the truth the problem with me is that my memory is so bad. K stays on the phone with me till I've taken my meds, cause i'll walk into the kitchen and have no idea why I'm there. He has to remind me again.

Beautiful Graceanne I don't know what to say to that.

*hugs*

Fury :rose:
 
The tasks I meant to be talking about however are those of a BDSM nature with a service component, mostly.

Fury :rose:
 
FurryFury said:
Beautiful Graceanne I don't know what to say to that.

*hugs*

Fury :rose:

Thanks. *hugs* And you don't gotta say anything. I'm just so lucky to have K. He doesn't get frusterated with me when my brain isn't working. It's evidently cause of the anemia. Not enough oxygon to the brain or something like that. *shrugs* I think the doctors have no idea more than I do. Frankly, I don't think they're paying attention.
 
graceanne said:
Thanks. *hugs* And you don't gotta say anything. I'm just so lucky to have K. He doesn't get frusterated with me when my brain isn't working. It's evidently cause of the anemia. Not enough oxygon to the brain or something like that. *shrugs* I think the doctors have no idea more than I do. Frankly, I don't think they're paying attention.

*hugs*

Fury :rose:
 
I really enjoy being given tasks to tend to by Him - even the ones that make no sense to my logic (which of course is why He gives them to me). It gives me a greater sense of satisfaction doing these tasks just knowing it will please Him.
 
Kierae said:
I really enjoy being given tasks to tend to by Him - even the ones that make no sense to my logic (which of course is why He gives them to me). It gives me a greater sense of satisfaction doing these tasks just knowing it will please Him.

I feel that way too!

*smiles*

I just love that feeling.

Fury :rose:
 
I make lists but then I lose them.
I have a Palm Pilot (only for a month now) but I forget to use it.
This is because the only way I function is by having a place that I put everything.
If it's not in that place I will wander around aimlessly trying to figure it out.
Until I have things long enough to get a place of their own, to use a pseudo-Woolf phrase, they aren't any use to me.
It is also the reason my room is so excessively messy, and I can't function without multiple hairsprays, deosorants, bras.
I never put them back in their places, or they never had one in the first place.
I suppose this will have to change if I get lists to complete.
But by then, I will probably have learned where to put my Palm Pilot.
 
brioche said:
I make lists but then I lose them.
I have a Palm Pilot (only for a month now) but I forget to use it.
This is because the only way I function is by having a place that I put everything.
If it's not in that place I will wander around aimlessly trying to figure it out.
Until I have things long enough to get a place of their own, to use a pseudo-Woolf phrase, they aren't any use to me.
It is also the reason my room is so excessively messy, and I can't function without multiple hairsprays, deosorants, bras.
I never put them back in their places, or they never had one in the first place.
I suppose this will have to change if I get lists to complete.
But by then, I will probably have learned where to put my Palm Pilot.

I know how that goes Brioche being organized is HARD and not in a good way. LOL!

Let me restate the main questions of this thread though.

So about tasks, do you like them? If so why? If not why?

So anyone want to talk about tasks, perhaps favorite tasks or least favorite tasks? Tasks you've succeeded with or failed would be interesting to share, I think. Tasks you've learned from and what lessons learned that you didn't expect or what did you expect to learn that you didn't really?

Yes, I know talking about all this could be scary. I know tasks are often very private feeling. I will talk about some if you will! You know me. I'll be forthcoming.

Fury :rose:
 
FurryFury said:
So about tasks, do you like them? If so why? If not why?


I like to do things for other people. Tasks, I guess you could call it. I like that it makes them happy, and I like the praise I get. I'm a very praise oriented person, I need to know that whoever is happy with me.

What I'm willing to do for people totally depends on the person. I'll do stuff for K that I won't do for others.
 
I like to perform tasks. I enjoy the feeling of ticking something off my list. It feels good to accomplish things.

Some tasks are easier than others. It may be the time the task is given. Example: when Dh and I are at home, I frequently run little errands, get him a drink, rub his feet etc. Those are easy. I like the feeling of making him happy, and knowing that I've done that.

Harder tasks for me involve things like cleaning the house. Depending on my mood, I may focus on the fact that I've been working just as long hours, etc., and I might come down with a brief case of resentment flu. :( I'm not proud of it, but it does happen.

The toughest tasks for me demand submission of my wants to his. It is really hard when I want something to put that behind me and get him what he wants. Again, I'm not proud of this, but sometimes these are the lessons I most need to learn. An example of that: I want to pamper him with a big dinner. However, what he wants is a night of relaxing so I need to go to the store and just pick up already cooked shrimp and cocktail sauce. This isn't what I want to do. I want to stay in and make the food I have planned. I hate tasks that disrupt my plans.

It also depends on the time the tasks are assigned. Right away in the morning before I've had coffee is the worst. It is an almost guaranteed case of resentment flu.

I do like the organization that tasks give me. And, I'm usually free to accomplish the tasks in whatever order and however I desire, so... in that sense they teach me a lot.
Okay... I've babbled on a bit... sorry.
 
graceanne said:
I like to do things for other people. Tasks, I guess you could call it. I like that it makes them happy, and I like the praise I get. I'm a very praise oriented person, I need to know that whoever is happy with me.

What I'm willing to do for people totally depends on the person. I'll do stuff for K that I won't do for others.

I understand very well and I feel the same way beautiful Graceanne!

Fury :rose:

Red Sonja said:
I like to perform tasks. I enjoy the feeling of ticking something off my list. It feels good to accomplish things.

Some tasks are easier than others. It may be the time the task is given. Example: when Dh and I are at home, I frequently run little errands, get him a drink, rub his feet etc. Those are easy. I like the feeling of making him happy, and knowing that I've done that.

Harder tasks for me involve things like cleaning the house. Depending on my mood, I may focus on the fact that I've been working just as long hours, etc., and I might come down with a brief case of resentment flu. :( I'm not proud of it, but it does happen.

The toughest tasks for me demand submission of my wants to his. It is really hard when I want something to put that behind me and get him what he wants. Again, I'm not proud of this, but sometimes these are the lessons I most need to learn. An example of that: I want to pamper him with a big dinner. However, what he wants is a night of relaxing so I need to go to the store and just pick up already cooked shrimp and cocktail sauce. This isn't what I want to do. I want to stay in and make the food I have planned. I hate tasks that disrupt my plans.

It also depends on the time the tasks are assigned. Right away in the morning before I've had coffee is the worst. It is an almost guaranteed case of resentment flu.

I do like the organization that tasks give me. And, I'm usually free to accomplish the tasks in whatever order and however I desire, so... in that sense they teach me a lot.
Okay... I've babbled on a bit... sorry.

No, you haven't babbled! You are right on topic Red Sonja!

I don't live in a 24/7 D/s situation but I can see exactly where you are coming from.

I have done tasks that I didn't like at all but they still made me feel glad I had a task and was doing them.

One of these was to fashion some cuffs from a rough scratchy rope, then wear them the whole time I did something I needed to do and which I could choose. I hated the feel of those cuffs. I hated the smell. It was hard for me to limit my movement that way. It really was very hard for me. I was glad with the time and task was up but I was very happy I had done it for that person. I was happiest that he was pleased with me for doing it faithfully for him.

Fury :rose:
 
FurryFury said:
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I have done tasks that I didn't like at all but they still made me feel glad I had a task and was doing them.

One of these was to fashion some cuffs from a rough scratchy rope, then wear them the whole time I did something I needed to do and which I could choose. I hated the feel of those cuffs. I hated the smell. It was hard for me to limit my movement that way. It really was very hard for me. I was glad with the time and task was up but I was very happy I had done it for that person. I was happiest that he was pleased with me for doing it faithfully for him.

Fury :rose:

Yep. Although, I typically find tasks like that much easier to perform than the daily ones. There is a sexual thrill for me with doing something like that that just isn't there when it comes to washing his socks, you know?

The toughest task like that is when he assigns me the responsibility to go and buy enemas. First, I'm really not a fan of those to begin with. Second, it is embarassing to go in and buy them. Yet I do. And he is pleased, and in some weird way... that is reward enough for me.
 
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