Penis size, passion, and truth

Got a few questions here, first one being about my size. It's 5 3/4 - 6" and 2" in diameter and around 5 1/2" circumference. Would most women have any complaints with this? My last girlfriend said I was one of the best she has had sex with, especially in terms of what I did, and she has been with over 30 guys. My focus was on her pleasure but even though we aren't together anymore i was wondering if she could be telling me this just to placate me or reassure me.

If you do some searching on the forum I think you will find that it is mostly men that are obsessed about penis size and penis enlargement (you will of course find a few people who prefer very large or very small but that is life).

Sometimes men with a large penis have a big attitude that the women should be greatful that they are getting their attention at all and as a result are not always interested in doing anything to actually pleasure their partner. It goes the other way too, some people with a smaller penis are so self aware with low self esteem that they are unable to enjoy themselves.

There is so much more to sex than the actual act of penetration, there are many areas to specialize in and although I'm a guy it sounds to me like you have the right intentions.

If your parter(s) have told you that they have enjoyed themselves unless you have a reason to not believe them you should take it at face value.


Your size falls well within the "official" american average if there can be such a thing. I've seen reports claim anywhere from 5.25 to 6 to 6.5 inches is average depending on geographical location and race and the weather, and who knows what else. If you and your partner are happy don't worry about it, being large brings its own set of unique problems anyway.

quickfoot is correct. You are in that average category. Nothing at all wrong with that. The key is what you do with it. You certainly are a size that women shouldn't have any problem feeling.

If you have been told you are a great lover then go with it. You are fine in the size category. Keep working on the technical aspects. Remember you never stop learning.

I am a bit curious of your girlfriends age. Or former girlfriend. Sexual experience with 30 men? Just how old a gal was this?

I agree with what has been said above...

In my experience, size has really not been too much of an effect in my pleasure during sex. In fact, some of the best sex I have ever had was with guy with the smaller of the penises I have come in contact with. I think you have to be aware of the other parts of your body and your partners.

I also find that a strong emotional connection tends to lead to more pleasureable sex for me.

This question comes up over and over again, and I just don't know why men continually question the answer. Maybe its just an ego-stroking thing, but I'm sure a lot of it is insecurity and doubt. The quality of lovemaking and the skill that you have is never entirely determined by penis size. It has to do with how attentive you are, how creative you are, and much attention you pay to the responses of your partner. The best lover I've had was actually a bit smaller than you. He got into my mind, and aroused me there first, and his skill at manipulating my body was unparalleled.

lilnymph28 said:

This question comes up over and over again, and I just don't know why men continually question the answer.

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Ok, lets think about this for a second. When a guy orgasms, its pretty obvious. Unless the girl is deaf dumb and blind, there really isn't a way for a guy to fake an orgasm. Having said that I will say there were a few times I faked an orgasm with my ex, only because I was (a) wearing a condom and (b) she had the observational prowess of a dead rock. I really doubt I could get away with that with my wife, nor would I want to.

Now girls on the other hand are quite a different story. All your hardware is internalized and so are your reactions. Add to that the ability to fake orgasms and the fact that there are plenty of women on this board that say they cannot orgasm from penetrative sex and you'll end up with guys questioning their abilities.

Personally I think its a trust issue more than a "Is my dick big enough?" issue. Guys like the original poster aren't taking their partners word. If you can't trust her to tell you something as important as you really do please her, then you have more important things to worry about than the size of your dick.

I am fairly new to any sort of free sexual talk as hardly anyone I know is open about it, so I do have questions. Part of the issue is the whole media marketing, it gets into people's heads about how something should be, like nearly every single woman I know worrying about their weight when they don't have to. Trust is something that not many people in my life have proven to me that I should give, but I shouldn't let those things affect me now. Anyway, thanks for your responses.

Media marketing.

Now then. If everyone believed everything the media had to say, everyone would think I'm ugly. THey'd think I'm fat and horrendous, and should never have sex.

They'd think that blondes with big boobs are all easy sluts, and that brunettes are quiet library types. They'd think that all asian girls wear little schoolgirl outfits, and that they're all as tights as virgins.


At a certain point you need to realize that the media sells what it WANTS you to believe, but you are a grown man and have it within your power to tell society, and the media, to fuck off, and believe what you want.

Now then. Penises. Any of you who've read me post about penises before, just skip over, cus you've heard it. Penises are a relatively small part of the human body. They aren't nearly as important as the brain, and really, I've been with lovers who were far better with their hands and mouths than with their (rather large) dicks. My point here is that dick isn't everything. I had a lover once who was 5 inches. If that. He was one of the best lovers I've ever had. He was creative, he was lusty, he was a TOTAL perv.. I loved it! His dick was perfect for anal, and I've never had such GOOD anal as with him. My current lover is 8.5 inches, and the first time we had sex, I cried, partly because I loved him so much, but partly from flat-out pain. And it STILL hurts to have sex, rather often. He's just LARGE. Would I go down to a more comfortable size? If I wasn't a masochist, yeah, probably.

As to faking. I don't understand the point of faking an orgasm. I have never done it, and I never will. I think it accomplishes nothing useful. Here's the result:

1) You fake an orgasm. (faking means he was doing something that just DIDN'T bring you off)
2) He thinks that THAT is the key to bringing you off.
3) He gets confident that all he needs to do is that thing.
4) You get cheated out of an orgasm (while most likely, he has one)
5) In future sessions, you continue to get cheated out of orgasms, because you faked it once, and he htinks he's the shit, and now you have to keep faking, stroking his ego, and getting cheated out of orgasms forever.


Not a good cycle. It doesn't help him develop as your lover, and it doesn't do ANYTHING for you.


Okay, I'm done.

boy this sounds familiar......... my last g-friend was obsessed with size.......hence she's an ex I am about the same size .....meaning the average joe but she felt huge.... everything else was great...... but the actual penetration...... neither one of us enjoyed ......... all the foreplay was great oral was great g spot was great....... but the fucking wasnt.........sometimes it is her size vs your size....and ya cant get past it

Well, heres the scoop from an official size queen.. I love hung men.. and I mean HUNG.. but I have been thrilled by men who arent anywhere near the BIG category.. so while it may be a preference for some.. it trul is how good a lover you are, as oppossed to your size.. I've known donkey dicked bastards who wouldnt know what a clit was if you showed them a picture or gave them a map

Well, this is coming from a verified computer geek who learned everything he knows about sex on the internet.

I've got a 10" long cock, and I'm a tall guy. I'm postin here not to stroke my ego or anything, but to see if what I say helps any.

My wife is about 1-2 feet shorter than I am. (Not sure if this applies to all women) Thus, she's got one hella tiny slit for me to push into. She's always a little afraid every time we make out, and it takes my artistic ability to get into her head and woo her into making out. Thankfully, she loves to hear me talk and whisper stories and fantasies into her ears while I figure out a way to slide into her tight hole without hurting her too much. Once we get the pieces together, it's extremely easy to get goin from there, and she takes my cock and flies with it, especially when I can make her orgasm and squirt at the same time.

All in all, I'd personally say, "Don't worry about size too much." Unless your partner thinks that you're gonna rip her slit open and tear her in half, it's not really somethin to worry about. And if your partner doesn't like it, hopefully they'll tell you. Again, as someone said earlier, there are waaaaaaaaay more ways to have sex than just stick cock in, push in and out a couple times, cum, pull out. Kissing, masturbation, licking, sucking, rubbing...they're all ways to have a great time. Also, if your partner wants something smaller or somethin bigger, you can always buy them a dildo/vibrator as a gift. They'll probably love it and play along with you while you lick them or play with them.

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ACCORDING TO "MEN'S HEALTH MAGAZINE", THE AVERAGE MAN IS 5.O3 INCHES IN LENGTH AND 5.14 INCHES AROUND... SO, YOU'RE ABOVE AVERAGE... IF YOU'VE GOT NO COMPLAINTS, GET OVER IT...

Eh - I've had two girlfriends where my size was indeed a problem - I'm long, but rather skinny, and they'd evidently had big, BIG boyfriends at one point, because it was like throwing the proverbial kielbasa down the proverbial hallway...

I figured it was 50%-50% on whose problem it was! Still, if you get worked up enough, penetration isn't always the whole show, ya know? It's just the "finishing number"!

Size makes no diffrence, it is how you move your hips and use your tongue!!

IRISHLASS1983 said:

Size makes no diffrence, it is how you move your hips and use your tongue!!

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EXCELLENT POINT...

IRISHLASS1983 said:

Size makes no diffrence, it is how you move your hips and use your tongue!!

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I, too, agree, if you are given the chance to use it. It has been
my experience that if you have a thin cock and let them find out
before, you may not be given the opportunity. You may well be
sent home because they suddenly realize that they are tired,
have a headache, etc. I think that this is because they had
greater expectations and were turned off by unanticipated reality.

In my case, it's probably because I'm 6'4", lean and athletic. with
large hands and feet I don't think that helps when they later
discover a cock that is 4" in circumference and a shade over 4"
long on a good day. I've found that I am able go down on them,
ASAP, and help them to a few good climaxes they seem to be
better prepared to overlook my other "shortcomings".

The bottom line to this rambling, I suppose, is that a person
shouldn't worry so much about cock size, that they can't change,
but find their own way of making it a less significant issue. For
some strange reason we tend to do the opposite.

4x4in

I'm over it and "around" it so to speak, this girlfriend is the only one who I had intercourse with, and questions abound. It's hard (no pun intended) to get sex out of my head especially since then. Just feeling that deep need to sink myself into a woman's soft, beautiful womanhood. Just the simple delight of being joined intimately in that way, feeling myself inside a wonderful human being, grinding away slowly then more passionately, trying to massage and caress every millimeter of her lovely insides, left and right, shallow and deep...I digress...

Well... how about a different perspective - the pleasure that a man feels? The impression made upon your lover aside, penis size is involved in the pleasure given to its owner, so to speak... I have an average-sized penis, about 6" long and 5-1/2" around, but I've been really into cock pumping. I don't have any complexes about my size, I know how to use it and my lovers agree, but I just love the feeling of having it engorged, heavy, and oh-so-sensitive!

Speaking of size increases, they are mostly transient, and do go away afterwards, but I've been lurking around some pumper boards (newart.com is one) and those guys say that with consistent use - we're talking months of regular pumping - some of those size gains stay with you. I just wish it weren't so boring to do by yourself, and that there were more women interested in participating / watching / discussing / etc. So far I seem to be the lone straight man in the gay man's doman - they have pumping parties galore, from what I understand...

God, I'm so fucked...

I don't know what to believe anymore.

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Bigg_Capone said:

I don't know what to believe anymore.

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Don't believe anyone. If she is happy and pleased then your size doesn't matter and who gives a flying fuck if you're ranged in the monster size or you need a microscope to go pee. Those averages people quote are from guys stupid enough to grab a tape measure and measure themselves. Stupidity is not a survival trait.

What matters is if you can please your partner and she can please you. Nothing else matters.

That's the thing...

Because of this little hang up I've got with my smaller than average penis, I no longer have the confidence, courage, or presence to even approach a female, anymore. My ex totally did a number with my head. It's fucking terrible. I'm over her, and I'd like to move on with someone else, but I've been single and celibate for the past five years because I have this major fear of rejection. My ex happened to be my best friend in the world, the only girl I've EVER made love with, and she lied to my face over and over and over again. So... I'm kind of fucked without getting to enjoy it. She used to constantly fuck with me at work. She was my boss, then drinking buddy, then best friend, then first REAL love. I don't know if I have the ability to love anymore. All I feel is this animal lust and I have no outlet for it. It's driving me crazy. I doubt anyone would understand. I barely understand it, myself. lol.


Anyway, back to the size issue... I know it's small. It's tip doesn't even reach to the middle of my balls, but my balls are kind of huge... let's face it, they've kind of got to be for someone to admit some shit like I'm doing.

I know a really good friend of mine who had sex with someone else I know - she said he wasn't even average but the way he made her cum with foreplay and sex combined it was the best sex she'd ever had - so overall even though he was the smallest - she 'really' never can compare him to any other that made her so wet!

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Bigg_Capone said:

My ex happened to be my best friend in the world, the only girl I've EVER made love with, and she lied to my face over and over and over again.

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She lied. How is that a reflection on YOU? Seems to me SHE was the one with no moral integrity.

If she dogged you about penis size, then she was not only a liar, but a cold-hearted bitch as well.

Trust me, darlin'...there are women out there who are NOT like her. Let her go and take a chance on someone else. Only then will you have the perspective a GOOD woman can help you find.

S.

Your friend sounds a lot like my ex...

She used to tell me that no one's ever made her wetter than I did. I'm not even attractive. I think she just liked the idea that I wanted her because she knew I couldn't have her until I did haver her and now I don't. AAAAAAAAAAArrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!



I know I made her wet, that's not the issue. lol She was quite turned on whenever she was near me for some reason. I guess it was the whole "unattainability" factor. Anyway, when she and I would get into the moment she just gush and her nipples would be hard enough to cut glass, but I'm not sure it was me she was thinking of. I think she made love with me out of pity, not love. I know she came, buckets, in fact, but I still don't know if it was love or pity. It hurts me to think that she'd use me (GOD!! I'm such a whiny fucker, ain't I?) like that.

She used to tell me all the time how my voice would make her cum, and how when we kissed she got weak in the knees, which I know to be true because I had to catch her on more than one occasion. It's crazy, I know. I sound like I'm writing every damn cliche ever uttered about this kind of stuff, but I feel like I need to know and I don't know if I really want to at the same time.

I mean, Christ... how could she have been attracted enough to a fat Chris Farley lookin' motherfucker like me and ultimately break my heart yet still evoke such passion in me? She's married now and I almost feel I want her more. I'm not going to do anything about it, though. I guess she's happy working two jobs to support her husband and his two kids. I wouldn't want to disturb that.

She was such a slut, all her friends would tell me. All mine would tell me the same thing. I didn't care and every time someone muttered a word to me that was negative about this woman I defended her without question. I knew she was cheating on her boyfriend with at least three other guys, two of which were close friends of mine... and I could see why she'd do it. He was an asshole. He hit her, got her hooked on cocaine, and constantly stalked her and accused her of cheating. I beat his ass twice for some of this stuff.

She was cheating. He got sent to jail. She's the one that kissed me first, dammit. Things just escalated from there.

Three weeks before our first kiss I told her I loved her and would do anything to make her happy. She gave me that whole thing about how we were just friends and shouldn't ruin it (READ: Ewwwwwww, YUCK!! I'm not attracted to you! I just like teasing because I can) by acting under the influence of alcohol. I told her I knew that I wasn't her type and it shocked her to hear me say it. She immediately got defensive and I called her on it. I told her to allow me one kiss and she couldn't do it.

Three weeks later at the same spot, we'd been drinking again and she looked at me with her hazel, color changing eyes and asked if I still wanted to kiss her. I told her more than anything in the world I wanted to kiss her and never stop, but it would be wrong... She cut me off before I could say more and said, "But it would feel so right," and leaned in and we kissed, held, and massagedd one another in the middle of December down by the St. Clair River under the Blue Water Bridges. The kiss was over all too quickly, but... there was electricity between us and I swear time stood still for us. It felt like a scene in a movie with the Goo Goo Dolls playing "Iris" and fireworks in the sky at night.


Forget this. I'm going to write my story and submit it. It's romance/ exhibitionism/ erotic coupling/ passionate/ violent/ and adventure and too damn long to continue posting in here. I'll start tonight and when I'm finished maybe someone will think of something that might help me in my life. I'll submit it when it's done. It's going to be rather long because I'm honestly going to recount every MOMENT not minute by minute. It's only going to be my side of the story, though.


Would anyone read it? Does it even sound interesting? I mean, sometimes real life can be boring but this is real life and it's far from my story.


Fuck!!!!!

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sheath said:

She lied. How is that a reflection on YOU? Seems to me SHE was the one with no moral integrity.

If she dogged you about penis size, then she was not only a liar, but a cold-hearted bitch as well.

Trust me, darlin'...there are women out there who are NOT like her. Let her go and take a chance on someone else. Only then will you have the perspective a GOOD woman can help you find.

S.

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Thank you very much for your kindness and understanding. I have moved on from a lot of things but I don't know that I could move on from her. It's a challenge no one seems capable of rising to and above. lol. No biggie. I've got a hand!!

But one Christmas Eve we were on the phone for six hours while I just really poured my heart out about how I felt about her and even though she was my boss and best friend I got her a ring for Christmas and she said she'd never take it off. I wonder if she did.



I'm not posting in here again. I'm going to write this out and maybe gain some more insight in the whole thing.