help!

it's our (my boyfriend and I) anniversary soon and I have the feeling that he wants sex -- which is fine with me.

I'm a kinky thing (buttplugs, dmoniance, gangbangs, blindfolds, spankings etc fasicinate me) but i'm also a virgin (so's my boyfriend) and i'm VERY tight. i was wondering, how do you stop your first time from hurting so much?

are there any suggestions for kinky, hot sex that an inexperiances person can use?

take lots of time for foreplay...lots of foreplay...the kind that allows your body to relax and accept intercourse. Use the tactile senses to stimulate your own natural lubrication as much as possible...and have some extra lub handy..the kind that tastes good. As to kinky....grin...sounds to me like you already have a handle on that one...just vary how you do it....never let your partner know what's up your sleeve for the next trick....and for pete's sake don't be afraid of telling each other what feels good and what doesn't. How else are you going to know what they like? As for the female, if you've played around enough before with your own body, use some of your favorite toys to 'stretch' things and let your body learn to accept the sizes available....again...take it slow and let yourself enjoy the passions as they build....when it comes to the 'final act', there's not that much discomfort anymore because your brain and your body are ready for an explosion from the heavens. (damn I sound like a cross between a gynecologist and an erotic author....LOL)

addicted2u said:

it's our (my boyfriend and I) anniversary soon and I have the feeling that he wants sex -- which is fine with me.

I'm a kinky thing (buttplugs, dmoniance, gangbangs, blindfolds, spankings etc fasicinate me) but i'm also a virgin (so's my boyfriend) and i'm VERY tight. i was wondering, how do you stop your first time from hurting so much?

are there any suggestions for kinky, hot sex that an inexperiances person can use?

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Are you retarded?

Have you tried checking the Blank Manual over in the How To forum? I would bet there's lots of good information in there.

Good luck.

logophile said:

Have you tried checking the Blank Manual over in the How To forum? I would bet there's lots of good information in there.

Good luck.

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psst, logo....svet's resurrecting antique threads again, check the date on the first post.

svet said:

Are you retarded?

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Actually, she isn't.

Although . . .

When I think of the way I used to make love as a beginner and the way I am now (a notorious world-class A-list lover, don't you know), the big difference is (a) communication, (b) patience, (c) (d) and (e) more communication.

When I was a young lover, I never thought to ask her what she wanted or what she liked or whether she was ready for the next step. It was too embarrassing and I was too excited. That's a big mistake. If you're in contact with what your partner likes and wants, then what can go wrong?

Pay attention to body language and what they say. If he;s gong too fast, tell him. Then do whatever you want.

cloudy said:

psst, logo....svet's resurrecting antique threads again, check the date on the first post.

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*hushed tone* Thanks. I'll be going then...

logophile said:

*hushed tone* Thanks. I'll be going then...

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See ya.