_Milky_Whites_
Rejoining her real life
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What you are going through must be extraordinarily painful._Milky_Whites_ said:Yeah...usually I'm not either. My parents stayed together far too long for our sake and just look where I ended up! lol
Seriously, I understand. I stope and think that I don't want them to watch us and then grow up to be disfunctional adults. I don't want them to do what I did. But they love their father so much. He is a great dad, he goes to lengths for them that alot of fathers wouldn't. I just wish he was the same with me. It just kills me to know that I would be taking his children away from him, even if it was only for awhile. And I'm afraid that if I did, he would fight me for them. I would want to be fair and equal, I wouldn't want to drag them through that.
I guess I'll calm down and think a little clearer in a little while. Thank you for reading this.
Anytime._Milky_Whites_ said:lol...I'll brew you a pot anyhow, midwest, just for being there.
It's so hard to have kids and decide what is right for them, so hard to know if you are being a good parent.
Sometimes I feel so strong, I don't need anyone or anything. I can handle hubby and his BS, kids, college and work with no complaints. Then sometimes, like today, I just break. And thats when I need a shoulder. Thanks for the advice, it helps point the way when I can't see it.
_Milky_Whites_ said:Yeah...usually I'm not either. My parents stayed together far too long for our sake and just look where I ended up! lol
Seriously, I understand. I stope and think that I don't want them to watch us and then grow up to be disfunctional adults. I don't want them to do what I did. But they love their father so much. He is a great dad, he goes to lengths for them that alot of fathers wouldn't. I just wish he was the same with me. It just kills me to know that I would be taking his children away from him, even if it was only for awhile. And I'm afraid that if I did, he would fight me for them. I would want to be fair and equal, I wouldn't want to drag them through that.
I guess I'll calm down and think a little clearer in a little while. Thank you for reading this.
ReadyOne said:Is he willing to accept that he can change by getting help for the bi-polar? If he will try, can you stick by him long enough to see if it makes him a new man, or brings back something of the old one?
You may just be so totally burned out that nothing he could do would make a difference anymore.
But if his personality changed from getting the bi-polar treated, would you, without forcing yourself, take up with him and maybe fall in love again?
schatz said:WarriorQueen...reading your post made me realize thing that weighed heavily on my marriage. Although i do not have bipolar disorder (that I'm aware of), I have suffered for many years under depression. It was hard for me to be there for my spouse when i would spend all my strength just trying to fight my way through each day. I was and still am an excellent father for my children but I had nothing left over for her. I explained this to her and she told me I needed help but I was looking for her to help me make the first step which she never did. That made it all the much worse when we split because I felt she was abanoning me when I needed help the most. It is difficult living with someone who has gone through mental changes and doesn't want to do anything to improve the situation.