Mstrskey
Nicely Naughty
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I am currently 7 weeks pregnant and earlier this week I was hospitalized and then sent home to 48 hrs of bedrest to help avert a miscarriage. Thankfully I was able to stop it and my baby is currently doing alright.
At any rate, my OB told me that until my next visit on June 9th she wants me to take it as easy as possible. She has written me off on sick leave from one of my jobs and advised me not to be on my feet for more then 3-4 max. No lifting over 20 lbs and no heavy, serious excercises. In this restriction she has included sexual intercourse.
I passed this info along to my hubby and assumed he understood, but apparently not!!! I was laying out upstairs today, trying to get rid of a massive backache and I happened to be nude- to make full use of the ac in my 80 degree house-
The fact that I was nude seemed to be all it took to get my husband aroused and he began to initiate sex. Not only was I miserably uncomfortable from the backache, but the weight of his body on top of me, the heat, and the fact that I wasn't in the least in the mood made the situation uncomfortable at best. I reminded him playfully as he tried to enter me that sex was a no no still...he continued. He began to thrust shallowly and I again reminded him....he still continued saying he just wanted to remember what it felt like to be inside me w/o a condom. I got pissed and told him to do whatever the fuck he wanted but to just do it quickly and get it over with since I wasn't getting in the least aroused and was in fact in quite a bit of pain.... and the bastard did. He just lay there on top of me shallow thrusting until he came!!!
I felt like a damn cum depository! Afterward he rolled off and went to sleep and I spent the net several hours dealing with back and abdominal/pelvic cramps. When I got on him about it he said that it wasn't like he was fucking me or anything, that he was hardly humping me, just had the head in and I was ok so what was the big deal!!???
So here's the question...
How do I
#1 make him understand that NO SEX means NO SEX! OF ANY KIND!! I tried explaining that what my OB meant by No sex was nothing that might cause uterine contractions, i.e. orgasm, and he said that since I didn't climax he was in the right.
#2 make him comprehend that it is not somehow part of my wifely duties to have sex with him when I have no desire to. I am generally very giving sexually and try to make time for him whenever I can, but now my health is of paramount concern and his sexual desires need to take a back seat. This has been an ongoing problem for a while now, but given my health restrictions I feel it really needs to be adressed now more then ever.
#3 do this w/o sounding like a total bitch or making it seem as if it's the pregnancy hormones talking and not what I really mean.
Well thanks for letting me vent...any advice would be appreciated.
At any rate, my OB told me that until my next visit on June 9th she wants me to take it as easy as possible. She has written me off on sick leave from one of my jobs and advised me not to be on my feet for more then 3-4 max. No lifting over 20 lbs and no heavy, serious excercises. In this restriction she has included sexual intercourse.
I passed this info along to my hubby and assumed he understood, but apparently not!!! I was laying out upstairs today, trying to get rid of a massive backache and I happened to be nude- to make full use of the ac in my 80 degree house-
The fact that I was nude seemed to be all it took to get my husband aroused and he began to initiate sex. Not only was I miserably uncomfortable from the backache, but the weight of his body on top of me, the heat, and the fact that I wasn't in the least in the mood made the situation uncomfortable at best. I reminded him playfully as he tried to enter me that sex was a no no still...he continued. He began to thrust shallowly and I again reminded him....he still continued saying he just wanted to remember what it felt like to be inside me w/o a condom. I got pissed and told him to do whatever the fuck he wanted but to just do it quickly and get it over with since I wasn't getting in the least aroused and was in fact in quite a bit of pain.... and the bastard did. He just lay there on top of me shallow thrusting until he came!!!
I felt like a damn cum depository! Afterward he rolled off and went to sleep and I spent the net several hours dealing with back and abdominal/pelvic cramps. When I got on him about it he said that it wasn't like he was fucking me or anything, that he was hardly humping me, just had the head in and I was ok so what was the big deal!!???
So here's the question...
How do I
#1 make him understand that NO SEX means NO SEX! OF ANY KIND!! I tried explaining that what my OB meant by No sex was nothing that might cause uterine contractions, i.e. orgasm, and he said that since I didn't climax he was in the right.
#2 make him comprehend that it is not somehow part of my wifely duties to have sex with him when I have no desire to. I am generally very giving sexually and try to make time for him whenever I can, but now my health is of paramount concern and his sexual desires need to take a back seat. This has been an ongoing problem for a while now, but given my health restrictions I feel it really needs to be adressed now more then ever.
#3 do this w/o sounding like a total bitch or making it seem as if it's the pregnancy hormones talking and not what I really mean.
Well thanks for letting me vent...any advice would be appreciated.