Question about birth control and Topamax.

pretty_green_eyes · Apr 11, 2007

doll_parts85 said:
okays

Good.

sortacurious · Apr 11, 2007

doll_parts85 said:
well, what I want is to give up complete control of my life...to move in with Him...I want Him to control every minute of my day...plan it out for me...give me chores...plan out my meals...give me shopping lists...I want everything structured...from what I wear...to how I spend my time...to how I wear my make up and how and how often I clean my skin and everything...

I know sexually He's into medical play and some things that are going to be too painful for me and He said I don't have to do them if I don't want to...so thats okay...

Wow, Dolly! You've surprised me. You've obviously put a whole lot of thought into this. But, complete control like you are describing is an awful lot of control. I can understand craving the structure, and it may seem simple to have someone dictate it for you. But, have you thought about why this appeals to you? I wouldn't try to talk you out of your feelings, but I would think that before you jump into something like that you really understand yourself and your reasons behind wanting this. I think it should be just as important to find out if that's what he is into and the reasons behind that.

I think it's good that he has told you that you don't have to do things that you don't want to. But, if these are things that he feels strongly about, it's possible that he won't be ok longterm without them. So, you may also want to think about that, and really check in with him about how he feels long term. Many times partners believe that eventually the other person will change their mind.

doll_parts85 · Apr 11, 2007

sortacurious said:
Wow, Dolly! You've surprised me. You've obviously put a whole lot of thought into this. But, complete control like you are describing is an awful lot of control. I can understand craving the structure, and it may seem simple to have someone dictate it for you. But, have you thought about why this appeals to you? I wouldn't try to talk you out of your feelings, but I would think that before you jump into something like that you really understand yourself and your reasons behind wanting this. I think it should be just as important to find out if that's what he is into and the reasons behind that.

I think it's good that he has told you that you don't have to do things that you don't want to. But, if these are things that he feels strongly about, it's possible that he won't be ok longterm without them. So, you may also want to think about that, and really check in with him about how he feels long term. Many times partners believe that eventually the other person will change their mind.

I don't know why I like it, but I do...

yeah...and I may change my mind after a while...build up a tolerance for pain...I hope I do

sortacurious · Apr 11, 2007

doll_parts85 said:
I don't know why I like it, but I do...

yeah...and I may change my mind after a while...build up a tolerance for pain...I hope I do

Hmmm, have you spent any time on BDSM forums? Maybe they'd be helpful in this kind of thing.

PGE those were some great ideas for safety.

Dolly, I hope you know this is all meant with your best interests and safety in mind. I would try and tell any friend that was planning a meeting with an online Dom the same things. :rose:

Have a good evening.

doll_parts85 · Apr 11, 2007

sortacurious said:
Hmmm, have you spent any time on BDSM forums? Maybe they'd be helpful in this kind of thing.

PGE those were some great ideas for safety.

Dolly, I hope you know this is all meant with your best interests and safety in mind. I would try and tell any friend that was planning a meeting with an online Dom the same things. Have a good evening.

they were mean to me

called me a troll...said I didn't belong there and told me to come back to the GB...

KKKade_Is_Here · Apr 11, 2007

doll_parts85 said:
they were mean to me called me a troll...said I didn't belong there and told me to come back to the GB...

we just talked with them and they want you to return ASAP

WriterDom · Apr 15, 2007

doll_parts85 said:
they were mean to me called me a troll...said I didn't belong there and told me to come back to the GB...

They tried to help you and you wouldn't listen.

doll_parts85 · Apr 15, 2007

WriterDom said:
They tried to help you and you wouldn't listen.

not the first time I went there. and I didn't ask for help the 2nd time. I just wanted info.

christian1971 · Apr 15, 2007

Doll I am sorry But I dont believe a thing you have said in this thread! That magically all of a sudden you want sex like sex and want to be someones slave.

You cried when you went to the doctors to get a check up because it hurt and this guy is into medical sex toy sex? PLEASE!!!!

That you want this person to be incharge of your entire day and life? And that a therapist just says oh looks like your changing? And that you would let your parents know that your into BDSM.

And that a person that has Rape issues would allow themselves to be mind raped like your and having rape sex. Fist I dont think ANY therapist you just be like OH your changing good for you. Having sex with someone you have only had Phone sex with.

Do you really know what you are getting yourself into? Or is this just more attention seeking?

doll_parts85 · Apr 15, 2007

christian1971 said:
Doll I am sorry But I dont believe a thing you have said in this thread! That magically all of a sudden you want sex like sex and want to be someones slave.

You cried when you went to the doctors to get a check up because it hurt and this guy is into medical sex toy sex? PLEASE!!!!

That you want this person to be incharge of your entire day and life? And that a therapist just says oh looks like your changing? And that you would let your parents know that your into BDSM.

And that a person that has Rape issues would allow themselves to be mind raped like your and having rape sex. Fist I dont think ANY therapist you just be like OH your changing good for you. Having sex with someone you have only had Phone sex with.

Do you really know what you are getting yourself into? Or is this just more attention seeking?

My therapist said a trip to FL would be good for me. For my agoraphobia...that I would be getting better. He encourages the relationship.

Lots of people who have been abused like rape fantasy...its common.

pretty_green_eyes · Apr 15, 2007

doll_parts85 said:
My therapist said a trip to FL would be good for me. For my agoraphobia...that I would be getting better. He encourages the relationship.

Lots of people who have been abused like rape fantasy...its common.

Wouldn't a trip tp the mall or somewhere closer be advice for an agoraphobic instead of going all the way to Florida?

doll_parts85 · Apr 15, 2007

pretty_green_eyes said:
Wouldn't a trip tp the mall or somewhere closer be advice for an agoraphobic instead of going all the way to Florida?

well, yeah...we're working on it...but its not going to be something that happens soon...maybe next year...

sortacurious · Apr 15, 2007

doll_parts85 said:
My therapist said a trip to FL would be good for me. For my agoraphobia...that I would be getting better. He encourages the relationship.

Lots of people who have been abused like rape fantasy...its common.

What???
Have you ever flown before? Are you planning a trip to FL?

doll_parts85 · Apr 15, 2007

sortacurious said:
What???
Have you ever flown before? Are you planning a trip to FL?

no...I'm hoping I don't have to fly...

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