I don't even want to fuck you.
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chris9 said:What where the meds called you're on? I thought not wanting sex was a known side effect.
Zoloft and impotence is a side effect. For me though it's left not only the ability to have sex but it's distilled my feelings down to the point where I am completely alpha and cannot tolerate other men at all.
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Just a shot here.
Your past relationship(marraige) may have a lot to do with many of the feelings you might be having. Might have some unresolved issues that you numbed over in your heart and have crept up into your mind in a form of anger or distaste in trusting women at all.
The physical can only be rewarding for so long, at some point the mind and heart need to engage for there to be something deeper and meaningful. Due to the past, you may have given alot of yourself to your ex, and now in a comparitive way, you cannot bring yourself to "give" that much of yourself again. To much pain, fear and loss. Because you cannot bring yourself to engage from lack of trust, you are forced with only the physical option. This of course will eventually turn to anger at yourself but it will be redirected at the one's you blame for the underlying problem, which is basically women.
Or Chris might be right and it just the medication you are on. You can eliminate that by asking your doctors if this might be one of the side effects. If so you might change your medication or ask your doctor to recommend an adjustment to see if the desire returns.
If its not the medcine, perhaps some soul searching or maybe some counseling might help to find out what might be behind this.
Regardless, I am sorry your going through trouble and hope you find your way through soon.
Your past relationship(marraige) may have a lot to do with many of the feelings you might be having. Might have some unresolved issues that you numbed over in your heart and have crept up into your mind in a form of anger or distaste in trusting women at all.
The physical can only be rewarding for so long, at some point the mind and heart need to engage for there to be something deeper and meaningful. Due to the past, you may have given alot of yourself to your ex, and now in a comparitive way, you cannot bring yourself to "give" that much of yourself again. To much pain, fear and loss. Because you cannot bring yourself to engage from lack of trust, you are forced with only the physical option. This of course will eventually turn to anger at yourself but it will be redirected at the one's you blame for the underlying problem, which is basically women.
Or Chris might be right and it just the medication you are on. You can eliminate that by asking your doctors if this might be one of the side effects. If so you might change your medication or ask your doctor to recommend an adjustment to see if the desire returns.
If its not the medcine, perhaps some soul searching or maybe some counseling might help to find out what might be behind this.
Regardless, I am sorry your going through trouble and hope you find your way through soon.
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My vote is on your medication. When the doctor put me on the Depo shot for awhile, I had no sex drive whatsoever. You'd be amazed how medication will actually screw up your normal body functions.
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You are an astute judge of character. I do however think that when considering my mild hallucinations and my seemingly uncontrolled and unfelt past that there is not a whole lot that I can do.
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It's the drug(s) talking...
Betticus, the lack of sexual desire is definitely the drug(s) talking. It is a serious sideaffect of anti-depression medications. The good thing is that each specific drug affects individuals in different ways. You should talk with your doctor and try different prescription medications until you find the one that provides the best treatment for your depression but has the least side affects. A good doctor should have told you to follow-up for those specific reasons.
The hallucinations to which you refer are also on the list of known side affects and, again, definitely suggests the need to try other medications.
As for the "alpha" thing, that's another matter and, I'd agree, has to do with your unresolved issues. RJM said it about as well as it could be said.
Remember, one of the first steps in overcoming depression is to take charge of making yourself better rather than simply giving in to what it is doing to you. Good luck to you!
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Betticus, the lack of sexual desire is definitely the drug(s) talking. It is a serious sideaffect of anti-depression medications. The good thing is that each specific drug affects individuals in different ways. You should talk with your doctor and try different prescription medications until you find the one that provides the best treatment for your depression but has the least side affects. A good doctor should have told you to follow-up for those specific reasons.
The hallucinations to which you refer are also on the list of known side affects and, again, definitely suggests the need to try other medications.
As for the "alpha" thing, that's another matter and, I'd agree, has to do with your unresolved issues. RJM said it about as well as it could be said.
Remember, one of the first steps in overcoming depression is to take charge of making yourself better rather than simply giving in to what it is doing to you. Good luck to you!
K
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Betticus, I dont know your history and Im no Psych or Dr.....I *am* however a long term depressive with personal experience of a variety of meds.
Your lack of feeling, hallucinations and lack of interest in sex are classic signs of depression, however they are also side effects from many many of the meds commonly prescribed.
You mentioned that you take Zoloft, I know of people who swear by it but personally, I took it for 3 months then begged the Dr to give me something else....I had the above symptoms plus an overwhealming sense of just not being 'me' and not being 'inside my own head'.
Having your meds fucked with is a really sucky time, but once you find the combination and dosage that works it *is* worth all the crap.
Personally I swear by Aropax/Paroxetine, but each to their own, what works for one person just doesnt work for another.
Anyway, I know Im new here so I hope Im not sticking my nose in where its unwelcome, I just felt an empathy with what you're dealing with.
Your lack of feeling, hallucinations and lack of interest in sex are classic signs of depression, however they are also side effects from many many of the meds commonly prescribed.
You mentioned that you take Zoloft, I know of people who swear by it but personally, I took it for 3 months then begged the Dr to give me something else....I had the above symptoms plus an overwhealming sense of just not being 'me' and not being 'inside my own head'.
Having your meds fucked with is a really sucky time, but once you find the combination and dosage that works it *is* worth all the crap.
Personally I swear by Aropax/Paroxetine, but each to their own, what works for one person just doesnt work for another.
Anyway, I know Im new here so I hope Im not sticking my nose in where its unwelcome, I just felt an empathy with what you're dealing with.
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Zoloft doesn't make you impotant from anything ti does to your dick. You are still fully capable of getting and erection and sustaining it. It makes you impotant through lack of interest. You don't want sex, you're not interested, and so their's no erection. As you should know, your arrousal starts in your head.
but that big arm of his is a bit intimidating 
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Call your doctor immediately....loss of libido is a side effect which is not imagination, but so is aggression and irritability. They are listed as side effects of the drug which require immediate notification to your doctor and most likely change of medication. I just hate the pressure and responsibility of being on watch here for the serious side effects of these drugs, the suicide watch, not to mention the possible future alternatives they have suggested for my son, one of which I am sure I will not give permission for ever.
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catalina_francisco said:Call your doctor immediately....loss of libido is a side effect which is not imagination, but so is aggression and irritability. They are listed as side effects of the drug which require immediate notification to your doctor and most likely change of medication. I just hate the pressure and responsibility of being on watch here for the serious side effects of these drugs, the suicide watch, not to mention the possible future alternatives they have suggested for my son, one of which I am sure I will not give permission for ever.
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I haven't had a problem with violence, I keep that in check pretty well.
Tonight for example. My roomie and I were at our local club and I was sitting at the bar talking with a friend when some random drunk girl came up right behind me and licked the back of my neck. I had to tell her to not touch me three times before it finally sunk in. Didn't overreact but I had to go away.
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Hi from a lurker. I don't know your history just a little based on the posts I see here. The medication is very likely the culprit. What concerns me more? The lack of emotion you show in these posts. (I know, we all go through cycles). Your responses to RJ and a few others raise red flags of concern to me. They don't resemble some of the old Betticus responses. Please call your doctor to discuss the meds? Tell him/her that it's "interfering with your affect" and obviously your libido too. It's obvious your friends are concerned too!! Sending hugs and best wishes!!
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Meds can be the key, and moreover finding the right dosage/combination. It took me over a year to find the right dosage/combination to control my sons epilepsy. It does take time, it can get very frustrating but hang in there it does eventually get better and it seems you have oodles of support here! 
and it seems you have oodles of support here! 
