If my ex had allowed me to watch after the fact back then I may have accepted that given the fact I now fantasied about her with other men now.I did not find out about my wife and a couple of affairs until years later. It was hot to hear her describe the sex and I would have enjoyed it just as much knowing about it at the time. In fact I would have suggested that she look for more men and let me watch. She does do that now but we could have been enjoying this for an extra 20 years.